how do i get negative thinking out of my mind and fear and anxiety out of myself.?

Question

i always just think of negatively, feel depressed, lack of motivation. i have a feeling of fear and anxiety in me .so hoow do i remove all these.

Answer 1

How long has this been going on? Have you seen a therapist or psychiatrist?
Good luck to you. I've had the same problem for 19 years, been on several different meds & none have helped. If you think you need help do not be afraid to go talk to someone.

Answer 2

Irrational negative thoughts should be handled by "thought stopping". This can be done by snapping a rubber band around your wrist when you have a negative thought. Also, yell stop to your thoughts, out loud if you want. I say to myself, "shut the f--- up!!". If it is a semi-rational fear, like a social phobia, fear of flying or even driving, ask yourself what is the worst that will happen? Then just confront the fear, the more you do it the easier it becomes. Distraction also helps in overcoming, or at least dealing with depression and anxiety, keep yourself active and motivated. Sitting around or lying in bed just allows more negative thoughts to creep in. Try deep breathing techniques for the anxiety. Breath in through your nose into your stomach, to the point where your stomach rises, not your chest, takes some practice, then exhale through your mouth. Your exhale should be longer than your inhale. Also, do a search on antigenics, meditation, and other relaxation techniques. They seem not to help at first, but with use and practice they will help. Finally, if it is severe enough, tell someone and seek therapy.

Answer 3

Zinta you just need some self confidence. Was there something which happened in your life do you think that made you feel this way? I can remember once feeling like you do, it was awful, I got to the point of not wanting to live, and that the world was just too horrid to bare. But one day I realised that all I was focusing on was myself and how I was feeling, and little by little I started to become interested in other people, other lives and difference I could make simply by talking and listening. Now (20 years later) I find life exciting, energising, I want to climb to the top of the world and yell "bring it on". I found out that I was not the only one, and by climbing outside of the circle, I could see exactly everything that was going on in my life, and choices which would make a difference. Your mind is the most powerful thing you possess, and you can do or be anything you want. If there are people in your life, constantly bringing you down, then move away, let only the positive people influence you. The best way of over-coming fear is facing it head on. Test yourself, even if it's in just the smallest of ways to begin with.
Remember your a human being! Out of the chances your mother had of conceiving someone else, you were the one who was created, which makes you worthwhile to begin with!!

Answer 4

Hi Zinta,

I would like you take you a little deeper into this . You say that you keep thinking negatively and feel depressed and have lack of motivation. You also have a feeling of fear and anxiety in me.

Just to give your point of view a different direction----
You have seen all these thoughts and feelings coming . But do these stay there most of the time. Sometimes there is a feeling of fear and at other times there is anxiety. Still at other times there is depression and lack of motivation.

Now pay attention---- "Who is the one who is noticing all of these different feelings and thoughts coming and going?"

Is the one who is noticing all these feelings , depressed and anxious? Keep in mind that you are just noticing these feelings and thoughts that arise and disappear in you.

Yes, I said arise and disappear, because none of these thoughts and feelings stick to you. They come and go spontaneously but it is your memory that is recreating the problem.

So, could you just let them go?

Just try this ---

Stop trying to make these feelings go for 5 minutes? Cant do it for 5 minutes?? How about 2 minutes?? how about 1 minute??

In other words , stop trying to remove these feelings , just for 5 minutes and see whether they stay or not.

The fact is that these feelings come and go , but we keep reminding ourselves of how bad we felt during this feeling and keep wishing that it does not happen again. We just keep thinking about the anxiety and the negativity , thus recreating it.

So , what is happening is that you are worrying about anxiety.
You are fearful of fear.

You are making them permanent by trying to remove them.

The only thing i would suggest is to stop trying to control it for sometime and see what happens. I could put it this way---Set aside 5 minutes(or whatever time suits you) for worrying and anxiety. Set aside 5 minutes for feeling fear and depression.
I am sure you will like the results.


bye,
faraz ahmed
author of spirituality and anxiety blog
http://farazblog.blogspot.com

Answer 5

Worry does not count as an activity, but planning does. Sitting around worrying is bad for your health, and the cure is planning.

Set your mind to work analyzing your options. Because however grim things look, you have options. You may have to do a little research to find them, but welcome to the [electronic version of] the real world.

So use your mind, and use a pen and paper if it helps, or your own blog, or whatever it takes. Because planning can make you feel as good as worrying can make you feel bad, when you see that you DO have options.

If you are young, you have further education as an option. Don't assume you don't until you actually take a look at your options. And you can't really study the nature of further education until you have some idea of what you actually like to do, and might want to do for a career.

I don't know how old you are, so there is not very much I can say about the specifics of your options. I have said "if you are young," about education, but you know, that's just not quite true. In fact, lately I have been teaching seniors (55 is the minimum age) to use computers. And you know, we've been having a ball! They all have different reasons for why they want to learn, and what they want to learn, but they sure do want to use this electronic opportunity to communicate with the 21st Century. Most of us are old enough to remain a little surprised that we have lived to see it! The mortality rate has changed that dramatically just in our own lifetimes. None of my grandparents were particularly long-lived, and I only ever heard stories about being presented to my one remaining great-grandmother when I was just a baby. Now great-grandmothers have become almost (pardon me, ladies) almost common.

So things change. But the main reason they change is that people create careers they like so much they really do give it their best every day, every time they are "on duty," and a good bit of the time they are not, at least in thinking about it, perhaps talking things over with family or friends.

In order to get that kind of energy behind a real lifetime, mating is a major incentive. And if in your planning you realize that what you really want to do is run a family business, then this becomes the top priority. You can hardly get very far in that without a family, after all! And I must say, I consider that one of the healthiest environments in which to raise kids IF they learn to take it seriously and help out very early on. No slavery, folks, just learning the family business because it is what puts food on our table and clothes in our closets.

So if that's first on your agenda, remember this: the younger you are, the more you have to take that trip very seriously, so as not to ruin choices you may make when you are older. A good partnership is a real plus, and a bad one is a real drain, so it pays to be careful. Obvious, if you think instead of just feel.

Think three times. Then think about what you really like to do. Be serious. What pleases you enough to do even if money were not at issue? Then what aspect of that area (hobby or whatever) pays well enough to constitute a really desire able job? And what did the person who is doing that now have to learn and experience to end up where he or she is?

Then go for it. Set your heart on something you really like to do, and not simply something you imagine you would like without looking in detail. Then figure an honorable, respectable way to turn that into a livable income. Think. Then act accordingly.

Answer 6

I have the same issues. I have had this problem ever since I was a young child. I wish I knew the answer to this question myself. Even the thought of going to a Dr. about these problems makes me more anxious and physically ill.
Good luck and I hope YOU are able to find a "cure" or at least something to help you get though your days.

Answer 7

you have to identify where the anxiety stems from to combat it,,a mild relaxant may help you with such as panic attacks but the core has to be noted for the stress to be overcome,,depression can often come from lack of control and you could get a antidepressant to help with that,you may find counseling helps you with coping strategies such as breathing exercises,focus and inner strength,,the first few steps are always the hardest but once you start to see a change for the better it will be easier to understand when an attack is coming on and easier to stop it before it does get hold of you.

Answer 8

Take 2 ice cubes, put them in a shot glass, next add Jack Daniels. Fill it to the rim. Repeat as neccessary. Enjoy

Answer 9

neither of them belong to you. you have grabbed on.
get a copy of "The Fourth Way" by P.D. Ouspensky
You will be glad you did.

Answer 10

Think positive !!!