how do i deal with my 2 year old?

Question

i have a two year old baby acctually she is 1 year and 11 months she screams too much and she heats me and spits at me and never wants to do what i tell her, just likes to do the opposite, i tried hitting her it doesn't help she is only hating me for that, when i scream at her she looks for her daddy, i have my personal problems with my husband but i dont whant to make my baby suffers for anything, sometimes i am upset at my husband but i scream at my poor baby and she just cries but at times she pisses me off on purpose.

Answer 1

We all get these feelings, it is normal. Please do not hit your child, you are only teaching her to use violence to solve her problems.

If you need to, take a time out. Tell her dad he's watching her while you go sit outside for a few minutes. Get a sitter and spend time alone, and time with her dad alone. I have a 2 1/2 year old. You just need a break.

At her age redirecting her attention will work best, still too young to understand punishments.

Answer 2

You my dear are a frazzled mother about ready to enter the funhouse of "terrible twos" I'm with you completely. My daughter will be two on the 27th of this month. She does the same things. I'm sorry you have personal problems with hubby. Can you try to work them out? You hubby should be the biggest supporter in your parenting adventures. The worse mood you are in the quicker you are to your breaking point and your daughter (who is just being two and every two year old goes thru this) doesn't understand to read ppls ;mood. She's not doing this just to piss you off. She's testing her boundries and if daddy gives her sympathy after mom y ells you'll never get anywhere. Try to work things out with your hubby, take deep breaths and walk away from your daughter when you need to. Make her room baby friendly (also remember no stand up dressers "chest of drawers" as they can and will fall down) put a baby gate up and let her have some alone time.
My baby is at her worst when it's nap time or she feels sick. Still the only way she can express herself at times is to get into trouble.

You might want to consider talking to your dr about an anxiety pill as well. those will help you through these trying times as it sounds like you can barely hang on now . It's rough going and I wish you the best of luck.

Try to talk out problem with hubby. You live together and work to gether to help with baby. Teach her good examples now or she will end up in a relationship she's not happy with because she thinks that's the way it should be. Do you want to take that chance?

Answer 3

First of all, you need to realize that your 2 year old isn't doing anything on purpose YET. Second, you need to be VERY aware that your personnal problems DO affect your relationship with your child. If you are unhappy, you're letting it out on your child. Is that fair? If things are not good w/the hubby, then your relationship with him needs some serious help, because if not, what are you married for? Understand that you need to look out for YOU and YOUR BABY. If that's what it takes, to just forget about the hubby for a second so that you can get right, then do it. Your child doesn't deserve to be mistreated simply because you and your husband cannot carry out a healthy relationship or because you don't know how to deal with your stress. Find a way, and quick. Your child is simply giving back to you what you are giving her.... anger and fear. Also, your husband needs to step up and be a man and help you. He needs to make his efforts too. Check out the link below to seek some therapy.
Your 2-year old isn't the problem. It is YOU and YOUR HUSBAND. You are the adults, not your child.

Answer 4

Some child care classes and counseling may help you all. Some places use a sliding scale and it can be free. The bottom is a good place to paddle-and it is padded. TIme out works for some- set them in the corner for a min. or 2` facing the wall. If they get up- put them back, let them know you do what you say- or they won't mind. Don't yell or threaten. it is better to walk into the other room and cool off. She is testing you to see what she can do and what you will, and what the consequences are. I wish you the best. Talk to your pastor of priest if you have one. Take care.

Answer 5

I babysit my nephew who does the same things and is 16 months old I sit him down and tell him no no bad ....he is seeming to understand what is good and bad it is just a matter of having patience. Sometimes it takes children longer to learn then others. And if you get too mad walk away put her in a playpen when she is bad that is kind of like time out to her. Tell her that was a no no . She will get it. Just take one step at a time.

Answer 6

i would be talking to my husbsnd if i was u telling him to pull his finger out and back u up then i would be making a time out chair or if she is in a cot put her in it . sit her on it or init every time she is naughty if she moves put her back when she is good reward her use a star chart 5 stars a extra special prize that kind of thing u need support with this ur husband need to help if he isnt a help and isnt supportive get rid of him as ur child doesnt need to feel the brunt of ur problems with him

Answer 7

kids at this age needs some friends other than parents. Try taking her out for walk in nearby park where she can find kids of her own age. At 2 they have lot of energy just look for avenues to drain their energy. things will be fine just be patience with her.Good luck

Answer 8

When my son gets in a mood, I ignore him. He eventually stops and everything is fine again. Also, I take away toys/privileges when he's bad. He's now almost 3 and just threatening to lose his video privileges works.

Answer 9

SHES AT THAT AGE, THEY ONLY LEARN WHAT THEY SEE. IF UR YELLING AROUND HER ITS ONLY NATURAL THAT SHELL DO THE SAME