when he hits, i tell him "do not hit mommy" and put him in time out. I do exactly what super nanny says... but sometimes we're in public, and i tell him, and he starts SCREAMING AND SCREAMING AND SCREAMING and it's even worse!!
help!
2006-09-11 23:28:47 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
The most important thing is to remain calm when he is doing anything bad. When my son (28 months) does something bad, I try to make him understand the consequences. If he tries to hurt you, tell him that it will make you sad and feel like crying. Then, ask him if he likes you to play with you or to see you sad. Also, remind him of situations when he was hurt and was crying and tell that if anybody is hurt, they feel the same. Once this is done, try to switch the subject.
Another thing I do when he sees other kids hitting each other is that to tell him that they are doing it because they do not know it is bad, and once they know, they will not do that. Also, this makes him proud that he already knows that it is bad.
2006-09-12 04:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by Newme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just tell your child what not to do. Tell him what they should do too. "Don't hit Mommy when you're mad or upset. Tell me what is wrong. Then Mommy can help you ok?"
Try something like that. Sometimes our first reaction is to just say "Don't hit" "Time out now" with out first getting down to his level and asking him what is the matter.
If you watch Super Nanny a lot then you will realize that is the best thing to do, is get at their level and talk to them.
Some parents want to punish anger because they don't like aggression. Contrary to popular opinion, punishment is not the most effective way to communicate to children what we expect of them. Explaining, modeling, and setting rules is. Expect that your child will break a rule three or four times. This is how they learn which rules are serious ones, which ones you will enforce, and which ones can be broken under certain circumstances. Breaking rules often isn't done in anger, but is a way of learning.
2006-09-11 23:41:11 · answer #2 · answered by tigergirl301 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your child is (I hate to tell you this) normal.
A brat, certainly, but normal.
Children age 2 1/2 are not sane rational beings. To expect them to associate "time out" with the undesireable behavior is ludicrous. With 2 1/2 year olds, the proper punishment is a quick (not hard) swat on the bottom. It's a tried and true training method that's been used with children for oh, 10,000 years, so why re-invent the wheel?
Understand, I am not advising you to beat the child, or for God's sake, "head butt", pinch, punch or in any other way challenge the child to a contest of pain, strength and fighting prowess. Eventually, he will be bigger and stronger, and you will STILL have to discipline him for another few years, so establish that you are dominant with a show of sufficient force.
Don't give up on time outs (eventually he may get the point that this is punishment), but a swat on the buttocks is very educational. Accompanying this with a firm "NO!" (not a "please don't do that because ...." just "NO!", the same as you would use with a dog) can be even more effective.
2006-09-11 23:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by Grendle 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-26 19:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by pires 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 6 year old and he use to hit other lil boys and his brother,You can try putting him on the bed leave him there for 30 minutes at a time so he can learn the hard way,or you can make him stand up looking at the wall for 15 minutes. take toys away from him so he can learn that you are taking actions,,, I know its hard when they are 2 and they dont listen but if you are firm he will see tha you are not playing around...
2006-09-12 01:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by Airforcepink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I babysit in the church's toddler section and I see this a lot about this age. They just want to hit each other and probably you too. I have seen Mother's slap back and make them feel what it is like to be hit. I also have seen kids respond to just scolding them, but there are always those that are hard headed, and spoiled or something, and just will continue. It is probably just a faze and it will pass.
2006-09-11 23:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by shardf 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Should have disciplined from youngest age possible. Do not spoil him with treats, give him something if hes good, but not constantly. Not too much sugar.
I used to get hit by my mum if I did something really bad, have turned out to be pretty well behaved, maybe thats the solution! :D
2006-09-11 23:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
I guess its hard but remember your the Parent not his friend so tell him straight
2006-09-11 23:46:28 · answer #8 · answered by Bratman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hand cuff him!
I think you need to have another person step in, you may be enabling this behaviour without realizing it.
Is he scared of police?
Ask an officer to scare him for you.
2006-09-11 23:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
talk to a Dr about this issue. my friend's child had this problem & it'll just get worse. I know she's wishing she had taken care of it much earlier because now he's a terror!!
2006-09-11 23:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋