Why do men try to forcefuly suggest that virgin women need to have sex before they marry, when we are saving ourselves for marriage?
2006-09-11 22:35:52 · 18 answers · asked by J-LO 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way i am 27.
2006-09-11 22:48:09 · update #1
A decent man who really likes u would never do that. man who does that are just trying to sleep around, not worth thinkin bout. Sex is meant to be special between u and ur loved one, not something that can be share when tempted. Save it for ur hubby and explore the goodness of it with him.. it will help to form a good foundation of trust and communication.
2006-09-11 23:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by experienced_analyser 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you fall for it, then that is a feather in their cap. It is your body, don't let that happen if you are saving yourself for marriage. I was a virgin when I married at 18, but many years ago. Men will try to get into your pants and do not care about what you want, so it is up to you. Their brains are sort of down below most of the time.
2006-09-11 22:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because Evangelical Christians hammer down the notion that a non-Virgin, even one who has had only one partner, say a 9-11 widow, that non-Virgins are disease carrying 's l u t s?' Perhaps they want something 'unspoiled' because just about every show on televsion shos that it is perfectly normal for a man to freak out when the girl he is with admits to ever having looked at another man even once during a life time? A society reaps what it has sown. Peace....
2006-09-11 22:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by JVHawai'i 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A woman who will stand up for what she believes in, especially in this case, is very strong emotionally and spiritually. Those men who try to forcefully suggest that a virgin woman is in need of sex before they marry usually lack self-confidence and try to hide it by being overbearing butt heads. If they succeed in convincing this woman...then they have won! They are studs (whatever, right?).
Real men, regardless whether or not they are virgins themselves will respect the woman and her beliefs. He may even be inspired by them.
2006-09-11 22:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by THP 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because men want to have sex. Men do not want to wait for sex. And men would like to have sex with you and not marry you. Find a man who loves you and respects your wishes and you have something very special. Your partner may try to encourage you to reconsider. I think in general you can expect that. But anytime someone "forces" or tries to force you to do something that you don't want to you have major problems. Good luck.
2006-09-11 22:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I can think is... Maybe you get married to this guy, and the sex is really bad, and he just doesn't do it for you. What are you going to do then. There are too many marriages broken up because of the sex factor. I don't know, I wanted to save myself, but I didn't, and I think I'm glad I didn't. My Hubby is a great lover.
2006-09-11 22:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
To see if by some crazy chance you have changed your mind .. needless to say, they still need to respect your decision. As well if they truly love you, they would wait.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-11 22:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not going to be your favorite answer, but I am so sure you are a virgin, and if you are you are probably like 15, either way nobody cares.
2006-09-11 22:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by panty p 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell 'em, "you guys should score a 10 in your IQ before marrying". See how easy that is. Weird bimbos!
2006-09-11 22:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by cre8or 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Redefine your question, boys will want you to give up your cherry, men are more mature, and will allow you to carry out your wish
2006-09-11 22:38:27 · answer #10 · answered by captcruzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋