i hate my family?

Question

i feel as if they are all gold diggers! my mom is crazy, i think she is bipolar, i have a fat sister who is a lesbian and never helps around the house, and my other sister is my twin and CAN'T GET A LIFE! last night she woke up my mom at 3:00AM because she was having a fight with me! so my mom got mad at me. Guess what is worst! SHE IS ALMOST 21 YEARS OLD! And on top of that i never have any privacy with my boyfriend because she is always calling and asking stupid stuff, for example a typical conversation is "where are, what are you doing, im calling cuz im bored!", we can't even have a quiet evening without a ******* phone call! Im going mad! plus i can't move out of my house or else my dad won't pay my college, and even if i get a job, it won't be enough for college and apt. together and in the country i live in there is very little to no financial aid for college! im so depressed! By the way im almost 21, im a twin sister

Answer 1

You've got my sympathy. Why don't you just turn off your phone when you don't want to receive calls? Well, good luck with your situation. It sounds like a tough one.

Answer 2

First of all relax. No matter what they are, they are your family.
As far as your sister being lesbian, sex orientation is a personal issue and has nothing to do with someones character. In fact being nice or not has nothing to with being straight or gay. And I think your sister needs your support and approval for the choice she made a lot more than your accusations (she can get plenty of that from the rest of the society out there).
And for your twin sister, you know twins normally have a special bond as far as emotions are concerned. So maybe now with you spending most of your time with your boyfriend, she might feel a bit jealous and a bit left out. Is there a chance you might used to spend sometime with her and now you dedicate all your time to your boyfriend??? I think you should try to talk to her and more importantly explain to her that your boyfriend is not there to change your relationship with her or your feelings or her importance.
No reason to go mad, as I said, sit back and relax. Hope you'll never need to go through this and find out but if ever something happens to you, don't be surprised to find out that your "crazy" family will be the ones to stand there for you and help you...

Answer 3

Believe me I know what you mean I just turned 22 last month but I can't move out on my own or do anything I want to because I have no money, no transportation and all the good jobs are too far to walk and my mom just broke up with my dad a few months ago and moved me my two sisters some of my stuff (she made me throw away most of my stuff) from Capitol Heights MD to Troy NY. Just so she could be with her friend who does nothing but sit around and smoke go on the computer and watch TV now she doesn't want to listen to ANYTHING I say to her anymore. And she doesn't want me to talk to my dad or my grandparents anymore. (But I wait till they're gone and call them anyways).

Answer 4

Don't get depressed. Everybody faces problems in their life. Take it sportive. From your expressions i think you are interested in your studies. Continue with it at all cost. Boy friends and other matters should take next priority. If you think from your mom's and your dad's position, then you may be able figure out, if you are doing something wrong, which may harm your life. Be focused and completely concentrate on your studies. You will in due course very easily come out of your depressed mood. Create a hobby which keep you busy. Try to speak to your family how you feel about them. This will help them also to understand you better.

I am very sure that you will be able to overcome this transient phase which happens in every body's life irrespective of their society and it is purely due to our own mental makeup.

All the best to you in your life.

Answer 5

Grow up and learn to appreciate what you have. Your problems are minuscule compared to many people. You are a grown woman. Act like one. A person cannot argue with you if you don't argue back. Just say nothing and be more mature. As for housework, you aren't gonna die if you do more housework than someone else. For God's sake, you are 21 with no job, paying no bills, get over it.
You like the drama or you wouldn't take your sis's calls.

Answer 6

Stop whining. The situation is only temporary. You are making a good decision by finishing college. Be happy that you are not your sisters or your mother. You will be moving on to bigger and better things, don't let the temporary insanity around you slow you down. Keep your head up and keep working hard. 5 years from now none of this will matter.

Answer 7

i guess we al go through that phase of i hate my family.i sometimes go through that and i jus feel like i just need to get away for a few days and thats what i do exactly get away.by the time i get back i know i will ready to love my family again.the is nothing as precious as having a family some people dont even have one.learn to accept ur family sit them down and let them know how u feel.i better u nobody can listen and understand u better than ur own family.u should be blessed to have them

Answer 8

life! or something like it.
get a hold of urself. u have to get through this phase. and 21 is not too far away from the end of it.

patience and control. ignore the scrap. dont make it obvoious cos then u'll have to confront them for that too. pretend to listen to the 'noise' and do what u think is best for urself. if u can get through it trust me u'll end up a much stronger person.

like they say..... testing times are an opportunity to improve urself.

hopefully in a few years time u'll have ur dream family.

Answer 9

Honey u can choose yr freinds but i am afraid u cannot choose yr fly, i suggest u sit down, and look at the good side of yr fly, just look at the positive side and work on the negative side, till u so can move out and live on yr own, if u dwell on their negative sides all the time u will surely be disdained and unhappy so come on girl, yr stronger than that...

Answer 10

Sorry to hear that, but it sounds like you are a little spoiled brat and needs to start respecting people in your family. You obviously have a good life with a great family - stop taking them for granted.