This dude I have been obsessed with for the past year, well he worked with me and we got on well but.... just as I was about to tell him how I felt he quit work, i have got his number and wanted advice... should I text him and tell him?? Or should i leave it.. What should I say... Ahhhhhh help!!!
2006-09-11 22:08:34 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask him out for a drink then see how it goes! You have nothing to loose!
2006-09-11 22:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is invite him out for a drink - you could call to see how he's getting on and then ask him out for a nice relaxed drink. Don't make too much of it and be friendly rather than obsessed.
If that evening is a success and you both seem to get on then see if he wants to go out again. He might only want to be friends so don't go all needy and desparate as this will only push him away. Be prepared that he might not want a girlfriend or doesn't find you right for him but otherwise have a fun time.
Even if he doesn't fancy you, at least you'll have another friend but if you push too hard then he'll get scared and might end up rejecting you.
Be bold but not pushy
Good luck
2006-09-11 22:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by smileyh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definately text him! But don't just come out and tell him how you feel!!! You have to be more subtle than that or you might end up scaring him off (men like a chase) ya know? Just say hi at first and then go from there, if it's going well and he's texting you back then be like "call me". When your on the phone together that's when you should mention that you would like to get together and then ask if he wants to go out for drinks on Friday, or whatever. If he says "yes" then you'll know he's into you too....or you'll at least know he thinks your cool enough to hang out with. When and if you do end up going out with him wait until you feel the time is right and say sumthing to him about how sexy you think he is, something like that. He should get the hint from that! And if he's really feeling you then he will let you know. Good Luck!
2006-09-11 22:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friendly - text him and ask how he's getting on in his new job, pass on a little harmless gossip from the office and for the first text leave it at that. Wait to see if he answers. If he does and seems friendly, after a few days send another similar and add that you are meeting a few friends at such and such a place, and does he want to come along?
If he comes along, great, if he refuses, then you need do nothing further, because he already has the ideal opportunity to ask you out or suggest something different if he wants to.
2006-09-11 22:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you should never have waited that long to tell him. A lot of us make the mistake of not telling the other person what we feel for them until it's too late. I know I have.
Since you now have his number, all may not be lost. Give him a call, but don't tell him immediately. Ask him out for a drink and let things flow naturally from there. After you get to know him better, you may not even want to go out with him.
And for heaven's sake, please dont text him. It not only portrays fear, but is also a bit rude and impersonal. It may also betray arrogance to a certain extent. Just call!
Best of luck!!
2006-09-11 22:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him to have a drink after work, say that you have missed him and would like to catch up on old times and find out how his new job is going. Trust me he will come out. If you look like the little pic then I bet you are well worth having a drink with.
Dont text just call him.
Good Luck
2006-09-11 22:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suss out the situation first before you go telling him - text him and say you're missing his company at work and would he be up for heading out for a catch-up some night. If he says yes, chances are he's interested and you'll end up having a bit of a snog anyway - you can let him know what you feel then.
2006-09-11 22:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
text him you miss him and does he fancy going out sometime at least if he says no you don't get to see him in work everyday.
Go for it infact do it now and tell me what happens lol
2006-09-11 22:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by Nutty Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
txt him but i dont know should you tell him by txt! have you met since he left? meet up for a drink or coffee and then maybe say it then! its alwas hard when you like someone like this it happened me a few years back! the way i looked at it you might aswell say something as you have nothing to loose really and lots to gain! again i say dont say it by txt meet him!!
2006-09-11 22:20:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men need to be lead to the water. You can't make him drink though. If the feelings are mutual then you are waisting your time with us. I say go to him and tell him how you feel face to face.
2006-09-11 22:12:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋