I've been together with my bf for 4 years now,and we never have even a single kiss because I would get really nervous when my bf tries to kiss me.He has been very patient enough with me for all these years,giving me presents and all that kind of stuff,but I refuse to have a kiss with him because of my 'nervousness'.Am I guilty?? Should I just break up with him? I mean,he treats me very nicely,and I don't really treat him the way he should be treated.My bf is indeed a good looking one and he has a lot of admirers,girls of course,so he can find other gf so much easy,but he hasn't do so.I know that he does love me,and I do love him too.Am I guilty??
2006-09-11 21:55:19 · 27 answers · asked by Lionel Messi Rulez 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My bf is a year older than me,I'm 16.I can see some kind of disappointment on his face whenever I refuse to kiss him.I think I am really guilty.Should I break up eith him?? He is a very nice guy,he should has a better gf than me.HELP ME!!! I love him so much!!!
2006-09-11 21:57:32 · update #1
Do you know, love is beyond kisses and physical relationship.
Your BF loves you, irrespective of your denials. It seems that he never intended to move out of the relationship. He never forced you.
It is not about the kiss. But I dont understand why you should be nervous about it. If you absolutely love and trust the other person, it becomes so comfortable.
Dont feel guilty and dont go for it if you are not comfortable. But make sure that you talk about it with your BF. Communication is the key.
Best of luck!!
:)
2006-09-11 22:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by Akshat S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been sexually abused? At this point in your life you ought to be wanting to kiss him all the time. I'm a little concerned with your focus on being "guilty" or not. There is nothing to feel guilty about unless you have been deceiving him in some way. It just sounds to me like you have way too much anxiety and guilt over just a kiss. You don't have to kiss him if you don't want but if you want to and can't, you should consider therapy.
2006-09-11 22:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel so scared? It seems more like a phobia than just "nervousness"...
Have you ever being hurt in any way by a man?
Try to think about it...
Then you can start with a small kiss in the cheeks, then in the neck...until you can kiss him lightly on the lips (not a French kiss though)...just to build up your confidence and see if you like it..
2006-09-11 22:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by xxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen... I've heard of taking it slow.. But this is just ridiculous..
As conservative as this might seem, it's just a KISS...
Provided you aren't 10 years old or something, I think it's high time to take the next step in your relationship..
& if he's been so patient with you through these years, he must be God's gift to women.. So incase you're thinkin of breaking up, DON'T.. Coz I don't think it would be a pretty sight if he found someone else...
& yes.. You sound guilty.. Isn't it high time you did something bout it?
Plunge into that kiss!!
2006-09-11 21:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by misanthropia 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Exactly how old are you? I would say if you're any younger than 15, then maybe it's a good thing. But if you're any older than that, you should just do it. He sounds like a great guy, and I would rather my first kiss, which I'm assuming would be for you, to be with someone special. Sounds like he really is.
2006-09-11 22:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by loveygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not. It is better to abstain. Since you are only 16 yrs. From one kiss can lead to other intimacy act. Be cautious. Your boyfriend do love you, you have been around with him for 4 years you know him better. You know if the person is worth for you today he is worthwhile for you for the rest of your life. Just be patience everything will be alright.
2006-09-11 22:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by Rijied 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not guilty but i think you're exagerating a little. If you trust your bf enough you should kiss him because it's a normal way of expressing feelings. Try to overcome your nervousness. You will feel good after you do that.
2006-09-11 22:01:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guilty is a feeling... it means you have negative feelings for doing something wrong. Not kissing someone is not wrong, it is just not kissing someone. Never let anyone force or manipulate you into giving something you are not prepared for.
2006-09-11 22:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by Talisman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u obviously love each other... JUST KISS HIM... whats the big deal... its a kiss... honestly... the answer is so obvious that this is really annoyin... u love him... he loves u... u have been together for 4 year... KISS HIM ALREADY... dont break up with him cause he obviously doesnt want to break up with otherwise he already would have... just tell him that ur nervous and that ur sorry 4 making him wait so long and that ur thankful and then just lean over and kiss him... it doesnt even have to b a pash... just kiss him! good luck! = )
2006-09-11 22:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by becstar 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a 4 year relationship without even a kiss? hows that?? get a grip girl...come a time that your bf will not be that patient anymore, and you will regret it..and one thing..are you sure that you love him? or you are just making him a display for your friends? coz you said it yourself that he is good looking...
2006-09-11 22:00:53 · answer #10 · answered by princess ysa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋