ive loved this guy ever since i met him which was about 5 yrs ago... well talk everyday sumtimes even like 5 times a day, we tell each other everythin... i asked him 2 come 2 this party with me and he said he would c what he could do... i got my hopes up and in the end he couldnt come... and i am really upset, we were talkin he gave me the impression that he see's me as a littlte sister (only like 6 months age gap), but he is always calling me babe and is always over protective with the guys i choose and has hated every guy ive gone out with... i was talkin to a friend bout this and she thinks that i should tell him and that i should tell him how upset i am bout the party and tell him how i feel but im not sure... what do u think i should do?
2006-09-11 21:52:31 · 15 answers · asked by becstar 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honesty is always the best policy...now and later in life... however, in being honest you might want to be prepared for him to be honest right back
2006-09-11 21:55:20 · answer #1 · answered by Talisman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no! do not tell him your feelings yet... not yet..
just tell him ur upset that he stood u up..
but do not tell him your feelings yet...
why do some people think, it's the perfect time to tell ur bestfriends that?? hello?? he'll be shocked..
imagine this.. first u'll tell him ur upset..
then u'll tell him u've always liked him..
ok.. let's say u were hurt coz he stood u up.. but then don't u think u might have misinterpreted his kindness??
my favorite line in the world is "don't make a big deal out of it" why? coz when u start making a big deal out of it.. that's the time when u over analyze things.. so don't.
but i'm not telling u that he doesn't like u.. there's a possibility that he has.. but just keep waiting.. and see if there really is that "thing" that has been at the back of ur mind whenever u guys talk.. and don't tell me u don't think about it while u guys are on the phone talking... i hope this helps..
2006-09-12 05:02:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, the guy seems to treat you only as a sister as what he told you clearly, and thats how he meant by being a bit protective over other guys while you want to give an interpretation that he meant it to be the other way around, if i were you, i would try to evaluate the whole situation based on reality and not only on how i felt about it, cos thinking too naively would only bring you much pain and in the end you might end up discourage and be more upset.. you see guys looks on things and analyze matters very differently the way we girls do, thats why dont expect that how u feel, he also feels the same way, as in mutual understanding, unless they say it in words themselves, ok?..... u can get over it,.... im sure! :)
2006-09-12 06:02:56 · answer #3 · answered by candee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him, there's no reason. you can ask him why he couldn't make it to the party and mention that you missed him or it wasn't as fun since he wasn't there... Don't tell him about your feelings, SHOW HIM. Love that derives from a strong friendship is the best kind. Trust is already there, care is already there, understanding is already there, with love it is really powerful.
2006-09-12 04:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by gnomus12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel- lifes too short. I spent half my life umming and ahhing about what I should do or say to people I've liked. It's a waste. If he's a good friend it should hopefully be ok, even if its not exactly what you want to hear...
2006-09-12 04:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by migh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...
I used to behave the same way with this girl I knew... & I had a HUGE crush on her...
So, I guess there's no harm in telling him...
Or you'll never know & feel like crap..
2006-09-12 04:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by misanthropia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him. If you two are such good friends and talk all the time a relatioship may be way better.
2006-09-12 04:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I prefer u to say him directly that u love him. and also tell him that u were upset that he hadn't come for the party.
2006-09-12 04:59:58 · answer #8 · answered by Yashna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you have to talk to him about your relationship and about your feeling...look, people cannot read your mind....maybe a desire or need that is so clear to you passes unnoticed for others...go on and have a talk...
2006-09-12 04:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by xxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure,u should tell him that it bothered u,i mean the party.
and most imprtant tell him u dont consider him a brother.tell him how dear he's to u.this will make things more clear to him.
2006-09-12 04:58:17 · answer #10 · answered by Musty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋