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2006-09-11 21:41:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Family

i forgot to add husband. so would you put your wife/husband first or your kids?

2006-09-11 21:47:02 · update #1

i don't have kids and am not married. i was just wondering how that affects families and the relationships.

2006-09-11 21:52:42 · update #2

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Parenting is a part time job, that consumes all of your time and resources for about twenty years.
After that, you are with your parenting partner, for the rest of your life. Better take care of her as you do your parenting. I love my kids, but they have been the source of much frustration and disappointment. If I hadn't had the relationship with my wife, I would not have survived the ordeal. (and there is some question whether the kids would have survived either) lol.
Another way to look at it is , you were married before you were a parent, and should be after parenting is past. Take care of your partner, kids eventually move on.

2006-09-11 21:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by dcall2 2 · 2 0

It has to be put husband/wife first. If they are loving and happy, the kids will see that and model their life after you. Don't get me wrong, the kids are hugely important but, if you and your spouse have no relationship then there is nothing.

2006-09-12 10:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by country girl 5 · 0 0

Husband/Wife because if the parents are happy, the kids are happy. Of course there are exceptions but I think this is how a good family functions

2006-09-12 04:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by sticky 7 · 1 0

When my husband and I went through pre-marital counseling almost 5 years ago, our pastor said something that stuck me as odd. He said to put god first, then spouse, and then children. My first reaction was to argue this point, but then he continued and said that If you love God then he will bless your marriage and therefore your children will grow up in a safe, secure, loving home. After having our faith tested many times, I think we both gave up (for the most part) on the God aspect of things. But I think I would have to say the one that comes first (most of the time) is my husband, and then our daughter. I guess either way it doesn't really matter as long as everyone in the home are happy with life and clothed and fed.

2006-09-12 06:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by Someonesmommy 5 · 0 0

what an unfair question, usually posed by women towards men. the "correct" answer is to put the wife first, but if you ask the wife the same question, she would undoubtedly say the kids come first and would expect the husband to feel the same way.

2006-09-12 04:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

My kid first then my husband. Am not saying that i don't love my husband but my kid is still a baby..of course he needs more attention than my husband. I don't mind if my husband put our kid first then me. But that is only up to certain age. When he is independant then I move my priority back to my husband.

2006-09-12 05:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by betty boo 3 · 1 0

it depends on the age of your kids if they are grown adults they would be on an lesser footing than my wife
But as smaller humans I would protect my kids before my wife but dont get me wrong my wife would be a very very close second . because I know if worst came to worst my lady can take care of bussiness on her own . strong lady is my love

2006-09-12 08:52:42 · answer #7 · answered by slick 4 · 1 0

Kids first .. Don't get me wrong - I love my husband with all my heart. But he is adult and able to survive. Children need guidence

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

2006-09-12 04:44:50 · answer #8 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1 1

Wife,defininately!

2006-09-12 04:43:17 · answer #9 · answered by Putt 5 · 0 1

Thats an easy question..your kids must always come first... and thats coming from a "wife's" point of view

2006-09-12 04:44:18 · answer #10 · answered by Charmed 3 · 1 1

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