My mum is always working, like at least 6 8hr shifts a week and I am missing her... I know she has to work to pay bills, I have a fulltime job too so I know what its like, but it hurts me because I miss her and I am considering moving out coz then it wont hurt me, but then there's the whole money situation... I am 17 btw (I live in Australia too, legal age is 18 not 21 like in US). What should I do?
2006-09-11 21:35:44 · 20 answers · asked by buttafly_biattch 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try to understand her. i believe she also feel guilty cos she couldn't spend time with you. What she needs now is your understanding. I am a working mother too. I too fell guilty cos sometime i work so long hours that I tend to negelct my kids. But let me tells you in my heart i feel so bad. I just seek my kids understanding and spend with them watever time I have left.
2006-09-11 22:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time with your mum at every opportunity you have. Try to schedule your work in such a way that you have off days/time together.
It's quality time that you spend together that matters and not the amount of time. You will find that many family members spend a lot of time together, but most of the time they end up having differences and can't get along well with each other.
Your mum will be pleased to note that you miss her. Let her know that. This will give you the opportunity to discuss how to schedule around your work to be together. However, is moving out a viable solution? What makes you so sure that if you move out you will miss her less? Of course you will miss her more! Even if you have reached legal age, moving out just because you miss your mum due to work schedules, defies logical thinking! Don't you think so?
Btw, I don't see this as a problem with your mum. It's a happy issue!
2006-09-12 05:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you're mom is happy to be alone, then yeah, go ahead and move out. BUT if you're only doing it so that you don't feel so hurt, I think it's kind of selfish to leave her like that. I'm not saying you have to live at home forever or anything, but if that's the only reason you have, I think you should make it a better one. Also, legal age to move out of the house in the US is 18 as well. Maybe you should just talk to her about how you and her both feel and see if maybe one of you can switch hours at work so that you can spend more time together and work the same hours if you're that lonely.
2006-09-12 04:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by loveygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to her about it? At the age of 7 your career is not necessarilly set... you can find another job. but, if yo are like the kids here in the US, most are still in school and the jobs are part time anyway. The best answer is to ak your mother... she will probably have some great ideas. After all, she is probably missing you too.
Ad, by the way.. it is 18 in the US for legal consent age.
2006-09-12 04:40:35 · answer #4 · answered by Talisman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering if you are trying to justify your wanting to move out. 17 is pretty young to be on your own and you may soon find out how nice it is to have your knees under your mothers table. I bet you need each other Even if you don't get to see each other it is nice to knows she is there. Leave each other notes. Do something nice for her that will give her more time, like getting the house work done before she gets home from work. Make more of an effort. Tell her in one of the notes how much you miss her. She needs to know.
2006-09-12 05:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by DeeJay 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little confused as to how moving out is going to make the situation more easy for you to bear. When you're out on your own, you'll have even less time than you did when you lived with your mom since now you'll have all of the household responsibilities on your shoulders for your home while you're mother has all of hers.
Try to schedule some time off when your mother is off. If you truly want to spend some time with her you'll find a way to do it... regardless of where you live.
Oh, and just FYI, legal age in the States is also 18.:-)
2006-09-12 04:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must discuss deliberately with your mother the advantage and the disadvantage if your mother limits her working hour in a week.And why you did not say your father?You must tell her frankly that you missed her a lot.You can discuss also with your mother what kind of monthly expenditures which can be saved by decreasing your family income in a limited working hours in a week..You do not considering moving out because your mother will miss you and it will hurt her.except if your mother permits you.
2006-09-12 04:47:08 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,u must be a kind girl,that is nice of u that u miss ur dear mom,nowadays we can not find such great persons , well I suggest u to tell ur mother ur feeling about her , u can go n work where she works,with each other,both u can change ur work,u can call each other,or u can work exactly the time she is at work,it depends on ur situation,but i think the love between u n ur mother is enough n nothing can replace it,even the bills,wish u n ur mom have a good life full of love n sweet moments, ur friend Pedram
2006-09-12 04:48:45 · answer #8 · answered by Mojtaba Askari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one, i don't think moving out will solve the situation it will probably just make both of you feel worse. She is probably missing you aswell. Perhaps try setting a time aside for the two of you to go have lunch together or do something special, maybe every sunday?
2006-09-12 04:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by Matt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you move out, it will only hurt you more and also hurt your mum. There are 168 hours a week, surely you can find time to spend with her.
2006-09-12 04:39:54 · answer #10 · answered by Tan D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋