My friend is dying and I dont know what I'm going to do when it does happen... How do you handle something like that?
2006-09-11 21:15:57 · 21 answers · asked by buttafly_biattch 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was with my mom when she had her last breath. She had lung cancer and I was at her side all throughout the last 2 months she was alive. I t was really difficult that not even my friends, relatives and other people close to me can uplift my spirit. It's been almost 6 years but honestly, I am not able to move on with my life as I am still grieving -- you know, I miss her so much that I cry every night. There was no single day that I do not think of her. BUT, I DON'T WANT YOU TO BE LIKE ME! It's okay to grieve but ask help from friends, relatives, etc. I know you'll be alright....
2006-09-11 21:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by lette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to resolve this without making a big deal like going to therapy, then grief for a couple of days. It's good to cry for a couple of days. Then just try to continue your life normally. And think about all the happy memories you both had with each other and jokes that you guys told each other. Your friend probably doesnt want you to just shut down and be sad forever. I know for some people thinking about them too much wont be a good thing. If that's the case for you, then I just suggest you to look around for others as support. Talk to them, dont hide from anything. It feels so much better to say things out.
2006-09-11 21:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully she will buried in the cemetery where you live. You can take flowers or other things to decorate and visit her grave. If you believe in the here after it is easier because you will meet again. My mother died when she was thirty. I was eight and I have two younger brothers. One was four and the youngest was six months. I lived with my grandparents for about six months. They lived next door to the cemetery. I could see her grave from there back door. I could visit her any time I wanted. Some times I spent the day with her. It helped me to deal with her death. I'm most sad for my brothers because they can't remember her. My grandparents died throughout the years. They were my brothers and my support system. I'm much older now and have a family of my own. I have written personal histories of my mother,dad and grandparents so my brothers will know a little about our mother. My father wasn't ever the same. He spent the rest of his life either playing his guitar or trying to find a woman to take my mother's place. One divorce after another. I don't want to die now but when I do I know I will be going to a better place and I will be with my parents and grandparent and ancestors.
2006-09-11 21:50:11 · answer #3 · answered by DeeJay 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is a process of generation and eventual destruction. It is like that. Some people happen to die earlier than usual 'cause no person catches the same bus, everyday, on time. Life is God's wish, and so is death.
2006-09-11 21:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by helloall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've lost a mother, grandmother, brother, and several friends. Each experience as been a monumental passage in my life. Some days I couldn't stop being astonished that they were gone, while other days I was OK. Its a process with varying degrees of pain.The only insight I can really share is that it does get easier to bear.
2006-09-11 21:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by Aptoslady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you spend all the free time you have with your friend and make as many wonderful memories as you can and when the inevitable happens, you will cry like there is no tomorrow. at some point when you're sleeping your friend will come to you in a dream and let you know that they are ok. once you know this you will be able to go on with your life minus your friend.
i am truly sorry for your inevitable loss.
2006-09-11 21:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by Forever Looking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every single living has thier own time to leave the earth. My sweet grandma has died 10 years ago. She kissed me on her last day of her living. Don't hide ur feelings towards the death. I cried louder and shouted grandma-grandma for almost 2 hours. Then I knew nothing much I can do. Only GOD decides.
Spend some time with ur fren. Talk, laugh, cry.....
Life goes on... whether u like it or not.. Its all fated....
2006-09-11 21:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend got killed by a drunk driver on January 5, 2002. We graduated high school together in 2001. We did everything together. I mean we were like brothers. We would always tease each other & stuff.
2006-09-11 21:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one to answer. We all deal with grief in different ways. The best thing I can suggest is trying not to dwell on it too much, make what time you have left as fun as can be, and when they're gone, remember that they want you to get on with your life and be happy and successful, not miserable coz they're not around. Good luck.
2006-09-11 21:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son and daughter died it is hard b supportive. dieing is a fact of life it happens and is hard. it hurts but it will get better. help him have the best time of his life and dont let him give up the human will is stronger than anything that can b put in front of it. it has brought donw nations bult religions. it can b tested but keep the will going and NOTHING will stand in your way!
2006-09-11 21:20:03 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋