Ok, there is a friend of my family and it is very obvious that we both like each other. But we are both way to scared to make that first move. Because I think we both know that if we do, it could be something amazing. Like when we all hang out at his house and his friends are there they all ask me when he and I are gettin married. At first when they would ask I thought they were playin. But now I know they aren't because his best friend in the world told me that he is ready to settle down and he thinks that I'm that special one he could see him self doing that with. He is 31 and I am 21. But age to us doesn't matter. Should I go ahead and make that first move and ask him out to dinner where he and I can talk alone. Thats what his sister suggested to me but I am a chicken when it comes to that sutff. Thanks!
2006-09-11 21:15:17 · 8 answers · asked by heather_21_2006 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
gurl hurry up and ask him out before its to late....
2006-09-11 21:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by shortiluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How in the world is marriage being discussed when you haven't even gone out with this guy? That seems a little premature doesn't it. Try going out on a date or at least hanging out alone before marriage is discussed.
If he is 31 and afraid to make the first move then he has problems.
How about dating for a while to see if you really like each other. Then maybe living together and having sex before you decide about marriage.
2006-09-12 04:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by Trevor B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't say it easily in person then wrote him a letter.
Dear _________________
As much as I've wanted to talk about this personally, I just don't have the courage to do so because___________________________
You know, marriage is just a simple word but once we've been there it's meaning will eventually get complicated and I guess I am not yet prepared for it. I still have to learn so many things in order to be the perfect wife for you and mother to our future children.. (you can insert some funny line like: See, I dont even know how to cook, such stuffs that will eventually take all the seriousness away. And then just continue pouring your heart out what you feel about getting married that early. You just have to be honest and ask for his great understanding but must make sure that no words will be misunderstood then put this on P.S)
P.S. If your not mad.. give me a call, maybe then we could talk.. I love you
(Isn't it sweet?!)
2006-09-12 04:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by Creine_Athena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have only known this person during the cozy family set ups. All the relatives around you have exaggerated your infatuation for him further.
You have not known this person apart from the comfortable setting of your home. Although a ten year difference is nto that big of a deal in most cultures but still at 21-31, it is a big deal. He has already done a lot of things and you have not. When you decide to commit to this man, he would expect you to join him in his 31 year old's world because he is ready to settle down.
I would say consider if you are willing to skip ten years ahead for the sake of this "good man" than good luck :)
2006-09-12 04:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by Auntie Chamko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd better jump on your chance. I must say I don't understand people who won't ask out a person they KNOW likes them. This thing sounds guaranteed and you still can't make a move!? No need to be a chicken- it sounds like you both know you want something to happen, so hurry up.
2006-09-12 04:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by niwriffej 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him make the first move, thats the only way you will know he is serious... i mean, will he tell his best friend to ask u to marry him as well?
2006-09-12 04:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U are lucky heather..
whatz there to think about it..
dun delay when things are on ur hold..
enjoy ur life with him..
2006-09-12 04:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by Nirmal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him you'll be fine. he'll say yes.
2006-09-12 04:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by viper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋