I started to chat with this guy for a few days and he seems to be just perfect... thou I dont really like some of his pictures... we are just about to meet. What if you dont feel the chemistry then? Must be so embarrassing to back off after nearly confessing love online... how to behave?? how to back off in the nicest way - not to hurt him if it doesnt feel right finally?
2006-09-11 21:13:04 · 10 answers · asked by Lex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Number 1 - you cant make yourself be attracted to someone. If you dont like his pics chances are you wont like the real life version either. Surely he would send you the best pics he has?
Number 2 - a few days is NOT enuf time to fall in love with someone you have never met.
Number 3 - You have no idea who this guy is. Its easy to be charming on line. Dont think that his online persona will translate exactly into the real world. He could be some psycho who is chatting with a hundred other women, and trying to meet them all.
Assume you will be just friends, then you can see what happens. If you want to meet, make it a very public place - and get a friend to go with you, even if they just sit somewhere nearby, just in case.
2006-09-11 21:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shrug, you'll know when you meet him. Sometimes it doesn't work out, because we're shallow. Maybe he's too ugly. Maybe he smells awful. Maybe there's just no goddamn spark.
I would suggest that you break it off with the minimal drama and as much honesty as is reasonable if it comes to it. Tell him it turns out you're not interested in him romantically for whatever reason. Maybe he wants to still be friends, and maybe you do too. That's fine. Maybe you both want to cut it off forever. That's also fine. And maybe he becomes a mad stalker and you have to get a restraining order. Well...not so fine, but that's life. Hell, maybe he'll be the one who doesn't feel the chemistry when you think you do.
Since a whole lot of getting attached to someone involves being physically near him, it probably won't be a big issue. But all in all, best to meet now and settle it before it goes any further, right?
2006-09-11 21:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by Sinai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 19:20:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... It's just a question of your priorities..
If you'd rather the outside matter more than the inside, suit yourself...
But from what I've seen the best way to back off would be to avoid him (provided he can't understand why you want to back out)...
I'd suggest you still meet him..
Maybe the photographs were really crappy & he looks better realtime than on a picture postcard..
Cheers!
2006-09-11 21:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by misanthropia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
online n real life is like living in two worlds apart.
best way is dont arrange to meet up when u cant stand his pictures! if u dun like his pictures i doubt u'll like him in person cause first impression do count alot on how a total stranger will react to u.
tink about it. dun force urself to meet up with him if u dun want to. best not to meet up with him if u know he's hoping for something more than a just a meet up.
2006-09-11 21:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by keira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u dont like her appearencewise i will still advise u to spend some time with him.u might start liking him as u said u have an online chemistry.do give it a chance and time as if its love the superficial flaws will disappear in no time.
2006-09-12 01:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by S S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet him, see how you feel, and go from there.
I've had friends that I started to date and we were better friend than partners. Love and Chemistry are a weird thing.
....however I have heard that Marriages that come about through online relationships last better than those that don't.
2006-09-11 21:17:28 · answer #7 · answered by Ender 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its easy to be someone you are not online
if you meet him in person he could be totally different
so it is stupid to think you can fall in love with someone online
you have to be WITH him in person to fall in love
that is why when you saw his pics, you could so easily take back your "love"
you don't know him, he just has a silver tongue
if you wanna find out if you truely love him then meet him in person, otherwise you will never know
2006-09-11 21:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems wrong to be advising you on how to let a guy down that you haven't even met. If thing don't work out then let the chips fall where they lie.
2006-09-11 21:16:46 · answer #9 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like his picture, then don't see him personally.. Because the chance of disliking him is great as you don't like him on the net..
2006-09-11 21:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by bembie719 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋