Once she was in love with me, but now she hates me like anything. I want to Marry her but she not even want to talk to me. She is impressed with him and likes him.
I never intend to hurt her, I thought Truth cannot be hidden for long, some or other day, say after years of her marrage, if he comes to know by someone else, then it would be problem. So, I told him everything. He refused to marry her.
I was not in myself to think, I'm totally confused and dont know what to do?
She likes him. Sometimes I think I should meet him again and tell him that I told him all lie.
Please help me. Advise me. What should I do?
2006-09-11 20:57:23 · 12 answers · asked by Sash1548 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES, I have done the biggest mistake in my life. It was not at all my part to tell him, still I have done it.
I used to tell her that she should tell him the truth, as I was worried if he comes to know from some other people, it is really bad. Becouse he had already shared with her about his first love and breakoff and was expecting her to be honest.
I was sure that he will marry her afterknowing everything coz he too likes her.
But I could not present this is a proper way, he was not ready to listen me anymore and I come to know that he decided NOT to marry her.
This all happened becouse of me.
Please advise me what shoud I do.
I am feeling very guilty.
2006-09-11 20:57:57 · update #1
You should leave her alone, she doesnt want you get it.....
2006-09-11 21:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you destroyed the trust that she may have had with you. I do not know if she will be willing to forgive. It sounds as though she is interested in her fiance if she is concerned more about how he feels instead of how you're feeling. I would move on if I were you. If she loves you and truly wants to be with you then she will come around... if not, you're better off. Next time don't get involved with a woman who is in a relationship. Sorry for your pain... I know a broken heart is terrible.
2006-09-11 21:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, what a honest guy! Hey, u had break up someone relationship! U are not in a position to tell anyone of yr ex-girlfriend personal matters. I suggest u should read up more. or mix around with more mature friends so u could learn a thing or 2 from them.
2006-09-11 21:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by Renew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
indeed you are a selfish person. you meddle into their own affairs. you told him because at the core of your being you want to marry her and you expect that she will love you and marry you instead of her fiancee.
do you really care about the fiancee or you simply want to break their realtionship because you want to marry her? i think it's the latter.
you have already done more than enough damage to their relatiosnhip and whatever you do you could never repair it anymore.
in the first place, what right have you got to tell him things? you did it for your own selfish motives because you want her for yourself.
you ruined their relationship and you deserve to feel guilty for doing that. the probelm with you is that you could not accept the fact that she chose her fiancee instead of you.
go confess to a priest and do your penance!!
2006-09-11 21:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by smiling face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the fat's really in the fire now....
Feeling guilty is right I guess.. But as far as I see it, you probably blew all chances of ever getting the girl...
She is probably completely over you now! Considering she actually decided to get married & now you've crushed the devotion she had on him too...
I guess the BEST thing you can do to redeem yourself is to GET them together somehow... I think she's way beyond your reach now & you ned to forget bout her..
At least be the really good friend & try sorting the mess right back..
2006-09-11 21:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by misanthropia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yes! you s***** up bigggg time.
you are talking as if you were in a relationship with him - "what if he finds out". let her deal with it. a couple is a set of two not three.
almost seems like your ego could not take her settling down while you stood on the sidelines.
i am not too sure what kind of suggestion to give you to make things better...
2006-09-11 21:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by Auntie Chamko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are just as big of cheaters as men are Buddy! Had she married you, Are you ignorant enough to believe she wouldn't have cheated on you?????/ Once a cheater, always a cheater kiddo!
2006-09-11 21:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want as lil as friendship, then you should get them back together thou i think the guy she was abt to marry is pretty shallow. why should u break it off wit ur fiancee cos she once had an affair, as u said he also had one.
2006-09-11 21:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why tell now cause she don't want to marry you ?your selfish sweetie if you had any self respect you would have never been with a woman who already had a man
2006-09-11 21:08:54 · answer #9 · answered by chunkybaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybodys telling you how bad you f_cked up,
Move on and learn from your mistake
2006-09-11 21:07:52 · answer #10 · answered by want2wild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should feel very guilty! You stuck your nose in someones elses business!! she was getting married not you it is not your concern
2006-09-11 21:00:54 · answer #11 · answered by Amanda S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋