I'm a uni student doing a science and business management dual degree. Uni life is supposed to be fun and most people find their relationship during the life at uni
But for me, it's even difficult to have female friends because about 80% of the people around me are male and nearly 99.9% of the females in my everyday life already have boy friends.
Obviously, there ain't many girls in science courses so I thought business courses will have more girls and increase my chance. But, for god sake, the only girls I spoke to during the entire semester were my tutors.
Any suggestion? I am just so tired of single life.
2006-09-11 20:22:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do realise that I need to be more involved in social activities but I just don't know where to start and I don't have much time for them either (I spend a great amount of time on everyday travelling and the stuffs I'm doing at the uni aren't that easy.)
Anyways, thanks for you guys' opinions, they're quite helpful.
2006-09-11 20:55:17 · update #1
Do not pick a target girl.
Pick a location frequented by a significant number of girls where you feel fairly comfortable, perhaps a place that is conducive to a skill of yours: music, public speaking, or a private intimate conversation.
Scope out the pickings. Pick one or two or three. Keep these in your mind as "potentials".
If you feel you have gotten to know any "Potentials" well enough to ask them out, go ahead and do it, worst thing that could happen is that she says no, and that's her loss. But not you, you've still got the others.
Appearance is key. Clean up for a high-class city girl. Dress down for the fun-loving motorbike chick.
Be funny. If you're not naturally funny, don't try to be around her, pitch jokes to other people, see how the jokes do with them. If you get no laughs there, just pray, because its gonna be hard winning a girl without humor.
Keep up a good posture, walk steadily and smile. Women do not like slouchers. Bad posture gives an air of unconfidence. Smiling makes a guy more welcoming. A good walking style, (straight back, a hand in the pocket and taking well distanced strides) gives the impression of intelligence.
Talk. Silent guys are as annoying as peas. (On the other hand, men who do NOTHING but talk and NEVER listen are annoying too.)
Look and touch. Looking into a girl's eyes shows respect and interest. A firm handshake, a gentle pat on the back, a light touch of the hand and other subtle gestures allow the girl to feel connected with the guy.
Feel great. The feeling will radiate and affect the lady too.
Don't pretend to be someone you aren't, you may think you will win her round with it but in the end it will backfire. Find a common interest, something you both like. If she likes a band and you don't, lie about it, and listen to them till you change your mind.
Tips
Put on great-smelling aftershave or cologne. Research the best-selling ones at department stores. A good scent really turns a woman on.
Guys do not need to look like Brad Pitt to find a girlfriend. Just keep hair, teeth and nails clean and neat. Ladies are quick to notice little details especially in the hands and faces.
Be a good conversationalist. Read up on the latest in politics, entertainment, arts and even sports news. Women love a well-informed man. It makes him look well-educated and, therefore, richer in every aspect. Or just actually be well-educated.
Do listen to the lady before responding. Women do not like to be cut off. They like to be considered and feel important.
Do pay on the first drink, first date, first taxi cab ride, etc. It makes a gentleman out of a man.
Most importantly, offer to walk or drive the lady home (or anywhere she wants to go). This makes the man seem sincerely concerned for her well-being.
Don't annoy you girl by texting her every night. If she texts you, reply but unless you have something to say then don't text. It gets annoying when someone keeps texting you saying "i <3 u".
Don't be unsubtle. Yet it is important not to be so obtuse as to be unreadable.
Warnings
Do not stalk the lady!
Grinning like the Cheshire cat is creepy.
Taking over the entire conversation is over-bearing and rude.
Do not insist relentlessly on an offer when the lady has turned it down. It may be that she has no use for or does not feel good about the suggestion. Pushing her to accept will only increase the possibility of rejection.
Avoid being a close talker. Nobody likes that.
Oh and by the way this answer just got me to level six so thanks
2006-09-11 20:28:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in a position to meet other women. Use your student discounts and perks to the fullest. Get out and associate with people - men and women - that can lead you to available women. Go to see some live bands play. Go to a couple of parties. Go with friends to watch sporting events. There are women everywhere. You just have to network and let people know you're alive AND INTERESTING. Just start saying hello or "what's up" to more people. Don't try to be a pick-up artist. Be Natural and have a genuine like for people - men and women. Compliment men and women on their style or achievements. When you meet a woman - no matter if she's cute or whatever - learn her name and always be sociable, because she may have a friend for you. Make sure you're neat and clean when you're out and about. Always have something to talk about besides school or school-work: news, sports, celebrity gossip, your future, clothes, food, restaurants, etc.
Above all... don't appear desperate or needy. Have confidence and have fun. It's not a life or death situation. There are many women out there for you. You just have to let them know you're available.
Remember, You don't want to be a player, but you do want to live "The Player's Lifestyle".
2006-09-12 03:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by mo2dajizzo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get involved in university activities. Join some clubs/organizations and become active in them. Volunteer around your community. Doing these will help you meet more people. Consider learning an instrument. Pick an instrument you might be interested in learning how to play, then look around for fliers, your university newspaper and the local newspaper for ads put by musicians looking to tutor. Then join a band. That'll bring more girls to you. Go out and have some fun.
If you're not comfortable socializing, see a university counselor. They can help by giving you the tools you need to better your life and bring you out of your shell. Most importantly, keep trying. Good luck.
2006-09-12 03:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by Purple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interest groups like Hiking or something with women.
2006-09-12 03:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by shindaiwa21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahahaa,if almost 99,9% of them already have bf,its doesn't matter.they just friendship still not marrie.so you can stoel one of them for you,and you must change your life style to sheduce some girl.
2006-09-12 03:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not! You just gotta be confident & smooth. And most importantly be ya self!
2006-09-12 03:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess the same reason why its hard to find a decent bf...
2006-09-12 03:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by VeronicaB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya, change courses
2006-09-12 03:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by ham 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we ain't reading all th@ crap
2006-09-12 03:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by bunbury 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋