Should people aviod all premarital sex and wait for marital unpleasantness instead?

Question

As the Victorians sometimes called it...something to be gotten over with as quickly and infrequently as possible.

Answer 1

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In fact, many Biblical passages allude to the act of anal sex between men and women. Lamentations 2:10 describes how “The virgins of Jerusalem have bowed their heads to the ground,” indicating how a virginal maidens should position themselves to receive anal sex. Another suggestive scripture tells of a woman’s pride in her “valley” (referring to her buttocks and the cleft between them) and entices her lover to ejaculate against her backside: "How boastful you are about the valleys! O backsliding daughter who trusts in her treasures, {saying,} ' Who will come against me?' (Jeremiah 49:4) And in the Song of Songs, the lover urges his mate to allow him to enter her from behind: “Draw me after you, let us make haste.” (Song of Solomon, 1:4)

Answer 2

Yeah, Victorian ladies were admonished to "close their eyes and think of England," while their husbands were 'humping the mutton.'
You'll probably get lots of responses from self-congratulatory virgins, but heck, what if you DON'T have premarital sex and then find that you are just completely incompatible in bed.
I guess I'd have to vote for the premarital sex (while waiting for the marital unpleasantness...)

Answer 3

Go with your own gut instincts as to what is right or wrong for yourself as an individual. People do differ on this topic. Sexual expression is not wrong as long as the motives are not deceitful between two consenting adults. Victorian thought is tough, but it did not stop sexual relations, it just made it more covert and also thrived on guilt. No, sex and love are not the same, but they are both good. Sometimes separately, and best together!

Answer 4

y would u call it marital unpleasantness? if every1 was a virgin when he/she married then u would have noone to compare it too, it would be a wonderful learning experience. that is one of the reasons God says to not have premarital sex, however if u really love some1 then the sex will be good, u might have to tell them what u like and vise versa but it can be learned

Answer 5

I had the option as well as everyone else. I thought if I don't have sex until i'm married I won't have any practice. Then my husband will think i'm horrible in bed and not want to be married to me...ect...ect. Or cheat on me....and who knows if i ever want to get married. Times have changed. I agree with waiting, and abstinence....at least until you are 18. (wish I would have waited longer).I also believe it should be special and not something you regret. It is complicated. but shouldn't be worn out....or done too much. there are other ways to please and be pleased.

Answer 6

If you want to risk being cheated on or having the need to cheat once married, sure wait.

To have the strongest and deepest kind of bond you have to know what your sexual compatibility is with someone.

No matter what "people" admit.

Sex is the most vital thing in keeping your other half where they should be......with you. (even if you have to let another in your bed every once in awhile).

Answer 7

I don't know that I am a Victorian, but we waited until after marriage and it was quite an experience.

Answer 8

I think waiting for mairriage is old fashioned. Besides, where would a 17 year old boy be without some fun?

Answer 9

I am a virgin in all respects of that word and I have not had any sex of any kind.

I shall remain so until marriage...

Answer 10

well i diddnt but do you know what? i feel thay way back when everyone used to. the world was far less complicated a place.