My niece will be 13 at the time of the ceremony I want her to be my jr. bridesmaid and my nephew will 15 as a jr. groomsman. My fiancee's niece will be 8 and I want her to be my flowergirl and my other nephew will be 9 and I want him as my ring bearer. Are they too old for these roles? I don't have any younger kids in either of our families and I really want them to be a part of our special day. Please help!! (seriously responses only please.)
2006-09-11 19:38:22 · 19 answers · asked by pretty girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It sounds like a perfect age. Even at age 7 my daughter hid behind a curtain when the time came because she was nervous (and it was in someones house!) when they're too young, they forget to throw the flowers, or get lost, go back up the aisle, cry, or walk in a daze, fingers in mouth, drool hanging out..... my husband is a wedding photographer so I've been to hundreds of weddings. Believe me, you've got ideal aged kids to help you! It's nice of you to include them. They'll remember it as a special time!
2006-09-11 19:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mars 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, at that age they are all perfect for the job. I got married two months ago and i had Three flower girls aged 5, 10 and 13. Our ring bearer was 3 and he ended up running away bawling his little eyes out as the attention was just too much for him. At the ages you have they will all be perfect, they will have a sense of responsibility about them and being a jr. groomsman is such an ego builing responsibility for a 15 yr old. Don't panic, they will all be perfect, the most important thing is that you enjoy your special day, believe me, it all goes so fast the last thing you will think about is who is too old to do what! Have a fantasic day and may you have a great future as well as fantastic photos!!!
2006-09-12 00:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by Acasia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no set age limit, however traditionally they are usually younger children (flowergirls/ring bearers). But this is your wedding, and I would say do as you please. You might run into problems finding a "traditional" flowergirl dress since she is older, however there are communion dresses that usually look just the same. Also, if she doesn't feel comfortable throwing petals down the aisle(if your doing that), you can always offer her something different as far as bouquets, place them in a basket, or have her carry a "ball" of flowers. And as far as the ring bearer, my husbands cousin who is 10 was our ringbearer, and he thought that he was the most important person in the wedding, he ate his role up. I think it's all on how your present it to them. So..I say go for it. Enjoy!!
2006-09-12 03:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there is a specific age range for being a flower girl or ring bearer. You choose the people that are special to you to help on this beautiful day. Those ages sound perfect to me.
I have been to weddings where the these jobs were given to cutsey 4 and 5 year olds that have thrown a tantrum and in my views ruined a great occasion.
Good luck in your marriage and be happy with your choice.
2006-09-11 19:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a flower girl at age 10 and was a bit miffed by it. 8 & 9 are pushing the traditional boundaries, but given the circumstances, I think it should be just fine. Talk to the kids and make sure they know how important their involvement is for you. You might even want to find different "titles" for those two roles. (No clue what those would be... maybe the kids would have an idea!)
2006-09-11 19:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Fiances niece is 9 - or will be when the time of our wedding comes next year - and she will be our flower girl. She has been dreaming of this day even before we knew we wanted to get married. She is young and very girly but still old enough to listen and do her duty with pride and enthusiasm. I think its great and those ages are fine.
2006-09-11 21:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by bushbaby_rsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the flowergirl is offended by the title flower girl then call her a bridesmaid as well, I don't see why people get so hung up about a title. call them all wedding attendants, or call them all bridesmaids, it does not matter how many you have, and if no one fits into the "traditional role" then who cares, do it YOUR way, don't think that you have to conform to what people view as normal.
2006-09-11 22:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is fine. Just check at the dress store about the flowergirls dress because if she is big for her age you might have trouble finding a "flower girl" dress and might need to find something different.
2006-09-12 01:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they are great ages to do these roles. I was a flowergirl at that age. I think it's silly, actually, when people get three and four year olds to do these things.
2006-09-12 00:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that their ages are fine, as long as that is a part they would enjoy participating in. Younger is not always better. You don't want a four year old who is to scared and cries the entire way down the aisle.Hope everyhing works out great! BTW, Congrats on your special day!
2006-09-11 19:50:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋