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My boyfriend and I been a couple for almost 2 years. He and I are staying in different city. My family, my mom knew about us but my dad don't know he's a strict person and I'm not so close to him so I haven't tell him yet. On his side both his parents doesn't know about us but they knew that we're friends. They're complicated and we have to tell them in a nice way well he will them soon as he's planning about it. He promised to me that he will be with me and I trust him. But I'm afraid of what will happen, as I really love him a lot and want to be with him. How should he tell them and would it be suitable time to face them and should be there when he tells them? I'm afraid that he's parents have intention on finding him a partner and that it would be late for us so we have to tell them, but we're still young, both of us are 21 yrs old were working and doing part-time degree. Is it too early to tell his parents bout us? Please give me some advice!!!!

2006-09-11 18:54:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Sounds complicated. Now it would depend on whether or not you're living with your parents and are still financially dependent on them, then I would understand the secrecy. But if you two are on your own then by all means they should know. Since you're both 21 years old you really should date until you're both done with school and have started your careers / lives. If your relationship can stand through the tough times, through school, and through all the life and maturity changes that WILL occur from now until a few years from now, then your relationship has a fighting chance at not being a statistic where more than 1 out of 2 marriages end in divorce.

I think you should both tell them when you BOTH agree the time is right, assuming one of you still lives with the parental units.

Rod

2006-09-11 19:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by thedatepro 3 · 0 0

His keeping the relationship a secret on his side is not good.
As far as his parents know, you are just friends.
There is no great and mysterious way of saying that you two are boyfriend and girlfriend. You should both tell them, together. United you stand, divided you fall.
You two need to bring this relationship out of the darkness and in to the light.
It can never be too early only too late.

2006-09-11 19:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by Mark 3 · 0 0

It sounds to me that if you are both 21 years old you need to be making all your own decisions and not bothering about what Mom and dad want! the only ones responsible for your own happiness is both of you so don't make the mistake of ending up with someone who is someone Else's choice as that will make your life a living hell. at 21 years of age you both need to sit down and plan your own future after which you can then announce to the world what you will bothy be doing!

2006-09-11 19:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by mandbturner3699 5 · 1 0

there's never a right time, so just come out and tell them as soon as possible. why live like this hiding and keeping secrets from the family, it will only make things worse in the long run... they will come to terms with the relationship, if your open and honest with them now....

2006-09-11 18:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by california chick.... 2 · 0 0

no it is not too early girl, it is too late..... youve said that youve been a couple in almost two years and your father doesnt know about it, girl you have to tell it to ur father even though he is not close to you..........if I am ur father I will be mad at you but it doesnt mean that I dont love you or I dont understand you, did you think before, that your father will be hurt if he one day he will know that his daughter had a couple within two years? yes, he will hurt, too much pain girl

2006-09-11 22:57:49 · answer #5 · answered by isaiah 3 · 0 0

THE QUESTION YOU NEED TO ASK YOUR SELF IS WHY AFTER 2 YEARS THAT YOU HAVE BEEN TOGETHER, THAT
YOU HAVE NOT MEET HIS PARENTS. WHY IS THAT,
AND WHY IS HE AFRAID OF TELLING THEM. HE SHOULD
HAD INTRODUCED YOU A LONG TIME AGO. SO WHAT REALLY IS GONE ON.

2006-09-11 19:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0 0

well i think it's not going to change much if u told them. what matters is how much he loves u,since he's serious then there's nothing to worry about.

but i wonder why didn't he tell them so far!! i mean by himself.

but i don't see any reason to be worried.

2006-09-11 18:59:45 · answer #7 · answered by Musty 4 · 0 0

Hello,My name is Jason.I think you can let your father know your boyfriend,and then let him to the boy's home. and let his parents know you .

2006-09-11 19:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by FOREVER J 1 · 0 0

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