2 Months ago i courted this girl and she answered me that shes already comfortable as friends but here is the big thing her grandmother ask me last week if i have feelings for her grandaughter and ofcourse i answered yes and she told me to fight for her love. And then she told me that everything that we have talked about was that her grandaughter knew everything what do you think? Is she trying to say that she already have feelings for me and to court her again? This morning i gave her a love letter and a cd with love songs. I wrote there all my feelings for her and that i want to be good friends with her i think that way we can be close together and get to know each other even more and i asked her to be my best friend. And i really cant see the comfortability that she told me before so i asked her yesterday about this and she answered that shes not really comfortable and i asked her why then she answered i dont know so i made this letter. Why is it so that shes not comfortable?
2006-09-11 18:51:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Bro. Dude. Buddy. Man.
Ur all over the place. Two months ago you "courted" her. I take it you told her you liked her? You should have told the grandmother "Yes, your grand daughter is a cool person and I care about her and let's just leave it at that."
You talk about being "friends" yet you gave her a love letter and a cd with love songs. Talk about putting pressure on a girl. Then you ask her to be your "best friend". You can't ask someone to be a best friend, that should happen naturally. You sound really young and/or inexperienced with women. Not to come down on you, but you've got realize that women respect men that know their boundaries.
You're putting TOO much pressure on this girl to like you and wanting to be more than friends. You're treating her like a princess and she hasn't really done much to deserve it. This is why she's uncomfortable. Honestly, the damage has been done. It's time to pull away, give her space, and it's time for a CRASH course in how to build attraction in the opposite sex.
I think you can chalk this one up as a learning experience and move onto someone else iMo.
Rod
2006-09-11 19:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by thedatepro 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like she doesn't love you the way that you love her but she really is comfortable being your friend. It seems like she told her grandmother about the situation & maybe her grand mother feels sorry for you & is trying to help you get together with this girl. Listen to her grangmother as she sounds like she can help. Dont force this girl into a relationship. You already confessed your feelings & it's up to her to decide.
2006-09-11 18:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by Claude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK - it sounds like you're coming on a little strong and you need to give her some space. She might feel overwhelmed with everything you've told her on top of your letters and CDs. Just remember the phrase, "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, then it was meant to be."
Besides, you can't ask someone to be your best friend. That just happens over time.
Just sit back and see if she responds to anything you do. If she doesn't, she's just not that into you. You'll have to accept that.
Move on and find someone else that appreciates you for you.
2006-09-11 18:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzie T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't tell her you wanna be friends with her..friends suck. YOU say to her in your next "love" letter how you want to ravish her and take her away from this superficial world. That she means everything to you and that you think of her uncontrollably.That she steals your sleep at night and in the morning before you open your eyes, it's the vision of her that you only care to see. That you will for ever be unhappy if she is not yours totally. Tell her you'll slay dragons for her, that you'll cross the deepest ocean and the hottest desert to prove to her how much you love her and if she doesn't have you then, Tell her your life's existence will cease if she will not be at your side as your lover, your soul mate, your inspiration.... your all.
Yeah . tell her that.
2006-09-11 18:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
look,she's just confused.and since her grandmother asked about ur feelings then be sure that the girl told her grandmother about u and that she has lots of unanswered questions that's y she asked her to ask u about ur feelings.
if u love keep on going but don't push on her much,just a little bit.
good luck....
2006-09-11 18:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by Musty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 22:05:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ve got to b kiddng. u gave her love letter and cd then asked her to be ur best friend?? she's not comfortable cost she's upset. she doesnt want to b ur bestfriend, she wants to be ur special girlfriend. omg, why men always make things so complicated..
2006-09-11 18:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by miss.frosty 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she obviously doesn't feel the way you do so leave her alone.... besides... Was it her relatives who started this whole thing or what? They should mind their own business ......... you see how their interference has made such a mess?
2006-09-11 18:57:25 · answer #8 · answered by cooker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be too clingy and as* kissing, be a bit cocky and funny (kidding around with her a bit), but still friendly and romantic (enough).
2006-09-11 18:55:35 · answer #9 · answered by S--slick 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop trying so hard - and quit using words like 'courted'
2006-09-11 19:02:39 · answer #10 · answered by leos1964 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋