We move often,how can I make it easier and understandable for the kids?

Question

I'm a mother of two girls,ages 4 and 3.I work in FBI and my job involves a lot of travelling.I and other agents usually sleep in hotels in big towns where we have to work and we move after 2-3 days(or a week).I take the kids with me(I have planned all this and talked over it with the chief,so it's ok if the kids come with me.While I work,they are being looked after some agents with less work.But I think such a lot of moving is not the best for them.We spend 1/4 of the year moving like this.I'm not married and I have no relatives in our city to leave the kids with.How can I make this moving easier for them?They usually get used to one place and then we move.I think they may have problems with getting used in the future.

Answer 1

It's not such a big problem.I had my first baby when I was 18.We had to move a lot then,before we found the best place for the family to live in.We moved until I was 26.Then we found this house.At that time I had 4 kids,ages 8,5,3 and a newborn baby.While we were moving the children enjoyed that changing of places so often.I think your kids won't have problems.And you have a good own home.We hadn't had while we were moving,so don't worry.Everything is going to be OK.Of course if you are worried,you may take the girls' pillows and blankets and their favourite toys to play with and children will feel the safey of home.

Answer 2

Fair or not your on the road. MAKE time to LOVE everything they do. You can give them assignments to gather in-tell on your next stop. Let them feel like part of the team. UNCLASSIFIED team. But make it fun have them give you a trip report with crayon drawings of some nice things the saw around town then give them a makeshift outline of questions to gather answers for the next stop. Like a glorified scavenger hunt, I used to make a list of car truck tags the list was for a day. I wrote the ta number state and color of car or truck. One of my kids would be the review guy with a day old list to see if any of the tags showed up while travailing cross country. Sometime I made a list of funny or odd buildings every stop we made and took a picture if we could.
I am retired USAF had a secret clearance a one time. Moving stinks. I assume (ouch) that the kids may have access to a laptop or other on line avenue? If so I can be your long range baby sitter / their control center. I can give you my credentials. I have Parkinson's and I am home a lot creating gadgets or woodworking in my shop. I am good at teaching and occupying Young adults with many topics. I was a substitute teacher in NJ and an Instructor most of my Air Force Career. With your permission and your list of goals and objectives, I could be their headquarters like mom has. Just drop me a line if interested. I have four kids that traveled all over the world with my wife and I.
Hope this helps!
CHEERS
TJ

Answer 3

Be honest. At age 3 and 4 it's pretty easy, just talk to them and explain to them what you do and why you have to do it! They will understand and respect you for it. And as long as you are keeping them entertained, with puzzles, books, crafts at that age they are happy! When they get older it may be harder for them though (when the oldest starts first grade) hopefully by then your position will not require a lot of moving. Best of luck to you and the most important thing is that they know you love them and will always be there for them. Kids need that security.

Answer 4

So far, I've heard you say that you go everywhere for your job, and if you had family, you'd leave your kids with them...you're putting your job before your kids. This needs to be switched.
My best advice for a solution to the problem is to stop moving & settle down somewhere with your kids. I'm not saying that you shouldn't be an FBI agent anymore, but when you decided to have kids, whether you know it or not, you decided to be a mother. It's not fair to your kids. They don't need agent-friends to take care of them, they need their mommy. Therefore, you need to put your kids before your job. THEY need to be your prioity, not your career. In other words, you need to be a mom first, FBI agent second.

Answer 5

That's incredibly selfish and unfair to your kids. Either change your job description to something in the FBI that would give you stability as far as location, or change your profession. It's just not fair to your children. Especially when they get a little older and try to make friends.

Answer 6

Just take them site seeing in the places that they are at. Tell them the truth that your work involves a lot of moving, and you can make and keep friends wherever they are.

Answer 7

i think that you should find some one that can take care of your
kids for you.
right now they are small and they like looking at ather places
but later on if you think about it. your kids are not going to have a
life. a buddy some one that you trust.
a hometown.
what if you left them with your parents.

Answer 8

im sorry i think you should spend less time in the fbi , i stay with
your kids in one place. they have to have jobs for you in one place
it proubly not as exciting but its for your kids future to have a steady home. not everywhere.but who am i , its your job or the kids

Answer 9

this is like so hard for the kids man ...
I was a child like that once ...shifting from one place to another.
but my dad did his best to make me happy ...
at least i did understand what he was going through later in life...
just remind them that you're doing this for them ...

Answer 10

they shouldnt be too affected by it already should they??? just be honest and tell them its your. kids understand more than we give them credit for