My fiance and I want an outdoor wedding but we want it up at his cousin's ranch. My parents are totally against it. But it has the best layout. It has a pond with a gazebo right in the middle of it. We are doing a beach/haiawiian style so my parents said the beach but they don't want us getting married at the beach his family goes to they want us to get married at the one my family goes too if we have it at the beach. But then again his mom already says that she feels left out of the wedding plans because he doesn't want to talk about it right now since its in 2008. What should I do?
2006-09-11 18:46:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
the ranch is four hours away and where his family lives... my folks are standing by its where the bride lives
2006-09-12 15:13:13 · update #1
Go2 http://www.theknot.com
Its loaded with a lot of suggestions, ideas etc.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-11 18:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! It's kinda shocking to me that your parents would say that they're "against it"...how is it that they feel it's even remotely appropriate to do anything except what YOU want on YOUR wedding day? Because they're paying for it? They should be prepared to pay for what you want in a wedding...they already had theirs, this one is yours.
What a waste of time to be complaining about which beach to go to!
Maybe you & your husband could find a new beach to bring YOUR family to, and you could get married in a "neutral" location.
Also, talk to your future mother in law directly about the wedding plans...She is going to be a major part of the rest of your life, so I hope that your husband isn't the only way that you can communicate with her. Just keep her in the loop on what's going on. If there's no new developments, just give her a quick call on a Sunday afternoon to check in, and let her know that she's not missing anything.
2006-09-12 10:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2008 is a ways off yet, so I wouldn't get too distraught over details quite yet.
But I do think the ranch is a wonderful idea! If you go with a cowboy theme.... Line the wedding aisle with shepard's hooks with mason jars & streamers hanging from them. Inside the jars, candles.
You could also use mason jars as centerpiece vases for your reception. Or you could use inverted kid's cowboy hat as a vase for flowers.
Or just an outdoor wedding....the ideas are endless.
Oh, have the wedding where you & your fiance want; where you are most comfortable. Realize that parents have their own fantasies about their children's wedding. Be patient, but it's your call.
2006-09-12 03:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off- this is your wedding- NOT your parents. Do exactly what YOU want to do. You and your fiance need to be in control of all the decisions. Letting other people meddle is just going to cause stress and fights later. Let them meddle in your wedding, they'll also meddle in your marriage. Lay down the law now.
That being said- the wedding isn't until '08? Heck, you guys have plenty of time to find your OWN beach. Explore around- find someplace you both like. Take weekend trips to check places out.
And relax..you have 2 years to plan it. You are going to change your minds at least thirty times....
2006-09-11 18:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by matty.. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cousin's ranch sounds great, this way you have all the needs, electricity, restrooms, and a nice set-up. Set dates and make deposits for caterers and DJ, get your pastor or clergy committed to the date and then let it be for another 6 months, you have plenty of time to take care of the other items once you get the major commitments, then your soon to be mother-in-law will be happy to start participating.
2006-09-11 18:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by Baseball inquisitive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry too much about it right now...you still have plenty of time to search for ideas on where to have it. Check out your local restaurants near the water. They might have a spot where you could do a outside wedding but still have it in a nice area and if needed you could have it inside.
Don't panic, you have plenty of time to work this out. Ultimately it is your fiance and your choice so you need to talk to him about what he thinks...don't let someone else make your decisions for you...It's your wedding!
Good luck!
2006-09-11 23:35:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck realize that this is the wedding between you and your finacee - n ot you and your mm. somehow you're going to havr to make her realize that too. you're choosing the ranch over the beach is quite smart - not to disrespect the parents but they are being very petty. the two of you are just going to have to put yor foot down - nicely but....
2006-09-11 21:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by Marysia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vegas
2006-09-11 18:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by jim y 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't sweat it for now, let the family think about it, who knows you may think of another great location! Are there any pretty parks in your area?
2006-09-11 18:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding so you decide. You don't want to feel uncomfortable getting married at a place where you don't want to be.
2006-09-11 19:11:22 · answer #10 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋