Three out of the four men I have dated, have sat down on the toilet to just simply urinate. Smart or Dumb?

Question

I have taught my 9 yr. old to do this too. However, when the dad of my 9 yr old comes over, he refuses to respect my wishes, because he thinks it's just absurd, and he has even has given it a name: "Piss like a B**ch"! Then laughs his head off, and makes sissy comments about my other ex's.

Also just to let you know, my Father, and my brother, sat down too, (not too sure anymore now). So this is not new to me. By the way, I will also be teaching my 2 yr old son to do the same thing----that's how he's learning in the 1st place; on the potty chair sitting down. Besides, when guys use the toilet this way, it sure saves on the upper and/or under the lid dribbles, yellow streaks down the sides of the toilet, yellowing on the floor, not to mention that most women having to do the cleaning. And last, not but not least, that gross urine SMELL!!! UGH!

So who is wrong or right? Or crazy and needs help? My 9 yr olds dad, or me, the mom?

(P.S. I rarely let him in my house anymore.)

Answer 1

That's pretty weird and coincidental. Most men lean against the wall and take aim. If they're really up for the challenge, they'll leave the lid down.

Answer 2

I don't think that's the proper way you should be potty training your son.

Honestly, what's going to happen when he comes to a public restroom and REALLY has to go? In men's public restrooms, there is typically only one or two stalls (maybe more, depending on the size), and the rest are urinals (which require you to STAND). Now speaking from personal experience, most of the stalls in mens restrooms are utterly disgusting. There is usually some jerk that leaves a big load of crap in there, and the toilet seat is usually a mess with piss from guys who cant aim.
You really don't want your son sitting in that do you?

And dont give me the whole "seat covers" bit. Those things are about as thin as tissue paper... completely useless if the seat is covered in piss.
It's a shame that so many public facilities are just completely disgusting, but it's reality. If you want your son to stay sanitary when it comes to the real world, teach him how to pee like a man.

Answer 3

I go standing up - but have developed skill over time as to not dribble everywhere. I suspect that those who are circumsized would find it easier not to drip. At the end of the day the dad of the 9yr old needs to respect your wishes - there is no right and wrong.

Public toilets are often not hygenic. This is also why I prefer to stand, so I am not sitting on a grubby toilet.

Answer 4

OK, Here's MY take on this. Boys need to be taught BOTH. Neither is right or wrong, but as some others here have said, there are good reasons for both. My husband sits, my brother stands. Actually, my husband stands in public, but due to the germ issue, NOT due to peer pressure.

In school, your son could get teased pretty bad by boys raised by men like your ex (as well asl like some who have posted here), so teach your son both ways, tell him you prefer him to sit at home, and teach him how to judge the situation elsewhere to decide if sitting or standing is best.

Answer 5

As the mom of sons, I can tell you that you're doing your son a great disservice by making him sit.

You're wrong... and your son will suffer for your need to control and change something that's natural for him when he's in school, if he isn't already. Knowing how to aim and not splash or miss is an important skill. He'll sit when he needs to but you're taking away the option.

By changing his "natural" habits, you're letting him know that a normal bodily function is something to be ashamed of, you're making him different from other boys, you're not allowing him to gain the skill necessary to urinate properly when he's older and you're discounting the fact that when he's in puberty, he'll have a difficult time bending it into the position needed first thing in the morning...(I see yellow streaks and puddles in your near future)

I have a very good friend who insisted on the same thing you're doing and her son was bullied so severely in school that she had to remove him and homeschool him. You have no idea how not being able to toilet properly in school will separate your son from his peers.

My sons are 19 and 14 and the only time I have ever had to clean yellow streaks, dribbles or yellowing on the floor was when they were learning to potty. I can honestly say they just don't miss and neither does my husband.

Answer 6

As a woman I don't know much about this, (I sure wish sometimes that I could stand when I tinkle on my shorts in the woods!! Ewwwww!) but I DO know that my hubby says he sometimes sits at the lake b/c the toilet there is a small model and it's easier not to miss in the middle of the night when you're on autopilot.

Also, I know he'll ALWAYS take a stall rather than a urinal if there's one available, (even if he's just in there for #1) but I imagine he stands in there... never asked... but from what I've heard about the men's room I don't think I'd want to put my tushie on the seat.

I know he taught my 14-y.o. stepson to stand. (His ex said that one was his job...)

Couldn't be a bad idea to know how to do both... depending on the circumstances.

Answer 7

Well, I taught my son sitting down. However, I think this is because, women are the primary potty trainers. So it should be a transition to standing at some time, I think it is socially more acceptable.

My son sat until he was about 3, and then he went to standing. I also taught him to clean up behind himself, I leave a package of Clorox wipes on the back of the toilet for missess. (LOL)

Answer 8

I would say my house my rules. I wish my husband would sit to pee sometimes. If he has to do both, he will sit first to poop, wipe, get up then pee. Makes no sense to me, but he thinks that because his penis is so small he will either pee out the crack between the seat and the bowl or that he will pop out and pee on himself, his clothes or the floor.
I clean the bathroom, I will be teaching our son to go sitting down. I hate having to clean the splash back on the inside of the lid and the side of the cabinet for the sink. Where we live now the sink is floating so I don't have to worry about the cabinet anymore.

Answer 9

I think you should teach him both.
My father always knelt on one knee at home so as not to get splashes from his height on the floor, but he stood when out.
I have never knelt as I think it is neither comfortable nor sanitary, but respect my dad for not spraying the floor at home.
And I have never seen anyone else do that.

We were taught both, and as mentioned by others here, both come in handy at different times. And all you egg heads know you at least sit once a day to pee.

Standing is most definitely quicker, cleaner, easier and more commonly accepted in public and sitting happens at some point regardless.

I think if you explain all the logic of it to your son, he will grow up making good decisions for himself when opportunities in his life present themselves.

P.S. - Besides you never know if he is going to grow up to have a 12 inch penis and have to stand to pee because otherwise, while sitting, it would dangle in the water.

Answer 10

No right or wrong -- just different.
I was a "stander" for some while in my life, great for peeing against walls while serving in the military or hunting with "the boys."
Along the way, I had an M.D. (what do they know?) tell me that sitting relieves pressure on the prostate gland. Don't know the truth to all of that, but that's my story and I'm sticking to it!

Answer 11

I think that by the age of 9 you should be allowing your son to go to the bathroom any way he pleases. If you think he is messy, tell him to clean up after himself . But by the age of 9 he certainly knows how most men go and can make his own decision. You have to let him grow up and do things his own way.