i'm from texas and me and my friends have this conversation about men all the time. its just like guys nowadays are waaay too spoiled. they are not like they use to be. they want you to pay for this and pay for that, act like you are their momma, they basically want to be spoiled like females. i dont think i ask for much, just have your head on straight, know how to treat a girl and be a gentlemen, know what you want to do in life, and just be focused and have goals. it just seems like that little description is just way too much to ask. its just like the role of men and women is changing. and what's worse, it that i lot of women are actually spoiling these dudes and giving them everything they want and not allowing them to be real men. now im not saying that every man is bad or how im describing (because i know there are some food one out there), but there is a shortage of good men with morals. i just want feedback on my thoughts. does anyone else feel the same way? how do you feel?
2006-09-11 18:27:45 · 21 answers · asked by HonestTruth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How about this theory. Boys who are raised without fathers are taught to rely on their mother's for everything. When the boy grows up, instead of being men, they become big boys looking for a surrogate mother.
2006-09-11 18:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
A lot of guys today are lazy and wannabee players. For some, if they meet a girl who is willing to spoil them and take care of them, they get the big-head and think they are some sort of mack or pimp or something. What they should do is: take advantage of the "free ride" and really try to improve their lifestyle since the girl is trying to help them out and show some love. But many guys already have to spend money left and right for bills, food, transportation, rent, etc... and then have to right around and spend their last little bit of cash on a woman for dates, entertainment, gifts, or whatever, and they've been doing it for years... even if the woman makes more money! She expects it. But why can't the woman be romantic sometimes? Why can't she spend some of her money and time on a good man? Why can't she prove her worth? A lot of guys are sick of working so hard to try to impress women who turn out to be gold-diggers, hoodrats, and players. Or even worse, a nagging hard-headed woman who thinks she is a prize just because she has a good job, car, and house. A lot of men have the same thing. But it doesn't make them good men. It only means that they are responsible people (if they pay their bills on time). The woman can be a good woman, but if she is hard-headed, nagging, and demanding, she's still not worth two cents, because she'll still cause a lot of stress in the guys life... and now he's done wasted his hard-earned money and time for nothing... Trying to impress a girl who decided she liked someone else or that they just didn't "click". Furthermore, if women would stop trying to date thugs, or impress their friends with a "Denzel" or "Brad Pitt" or whoever, and date a guy for his mind and not his looks (as men do when choosing women) then maybe they might end up with a good man the first time.
My girlfriend and I have no problem spending money on each other - We take care of each other. She makes sure I'm not hungry, broke, or bored, and I make sure of the same things for her. I'm not a player, and I don't try to take advantage of women, but I expect a woman to show me some love and treat me right.
A real woman knows what men have had to go through all of these years, young women are still trying to find out...
But it is a shame that everybody just wants a "free-ride" instead of trying to be helping and supportive of each other.
I'm rambling I know... I apologize.
What's wrong with wanting to live "The Player's Lifestyle"?
2006-09-12 02:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by Lemmie-Gilbert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are plenty of good men out there, but as people have said it's about equal rights. Why should the man use all his paycheck to pay for everything on a date, while a woman gets a free ride and then buys a pair of shoes or something. Now I'm not saying men or women should be cheap bastards but equality goes along way, say a man pays for three dinners, maybe you should treat him at least once to show some respect
2006-09-12 01:40:03 · answer #3 · answered by Michael M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men nowadays are getting what a lot of us older men didn't get. Women got more dependable men back years ago but us men didn't get much in return. Women dictated the sex life which was usually boring and the social life but guys today are not excepting that. Men want open minded about sex and equal rights why should men have to support the family and take on the total burden men are willing to share.
2006-09-12 01:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! And I thought I was the only one thinking that way. If it's happening in ur neck of the woods, then I must say the MALES have definitely changed morally. They have become disrectpectful, insonsiderate, abusive and real worse.
But I believe that somewhere out there, that there are still a few good men who are opposite of what I've just mentioned.
2006-09-12 02:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by sun shine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men reach their maturity by the time our biological clock runs out. The good men that are in such short supply end up hurt by women who have no clue. last but not least when men and women finally do find each other they spend so much time tryin to change one another, or prove who's right that they waste away the precious love that drew them together leaving only hate and resentment.
2006-09-12 01:37:00 · answer #6 · answered by girlsm9frmgod 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have never met the kind of men u described.all i met were real gentlemen, took care of me and were polite and attentive. the only problem with some of them - they didn't have enough money to afford me.and your problem obviously is probably u let them to behave that way around u. so u always get what u give. instead of blabbering here about some not smart things maybe u should look at yourself more carefully. u re doing smth wrong.
2006-09-12 01:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by jacky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I agree with you... Our culture seems to discourage true masculinity and seems to be pushing both sexes to a genderless commonality. True masculinity and true femininity are some of the safe guards against deception. A feminine guy is gullible and lacks the strength to stand up for what is right. A masculine women is brash and lacks insight. I'm currently searching for what it means to be a "true man" with integrity.
2006-09-12 01:47:18 · answer #8 · answered by Jack 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats true, cuz a lot of women are spoiling men.
but no, its not too much to ask for a guy to be a gentleman. u just havent found the right one. lots are immature. but believe it or not, there are gentlemen out there.
gentleman who dont act like a child. gentleman who will respect ur morals. gentleman who would do anything for you. gentleman who will love you for you and not wat u can provide for him.
theyre out there
2006-09-12 01:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by Lucas 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well ima 32 year old man...and i use that word man loosely..if me and u ever went out...1) im old school ...so u leave ur wallet at home...if i cant afford to take u out that week..then we make it a blockbuster night and i cook for u...2) ima gentleman..i kno how to open the door for u, pull out ur chair..make u feel like a woman...so if theirs men out that dont do that, then **** em...no woman should have to wait on a man...its that simple
2006-09-12 01:32:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋