i have been with my boyfriend for 6 months.he is sucha good boyfriend and i really love him but it seems like i have nothing to talk about with him.i can talk to some of my friends for hours but with him i cant even start a conversation.i feel comfortable around him so i dont know what the problem is.he told me today that im not a good girfriend and that i dont spend enough time with him and i never talk to him.i know that it is true so how can i be a better girlfriend?
2006-09-11 18:23:02 · 22 answers · asked by candy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Spend more time with him, tell him your feelings for him, and make him feel cared for.
2006-09-11 18:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by slyry75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is take a time inventory - how much time are you spending with your friends if it's more than an hour a day after 6 months of dating you may be in the "give her the boot" zone. Take it from someone whose going through things on the opposite side of the spectrum - my new boyfriend is emotionally unavailable though when we're together I feel great because he doesn't open up to me about what he's passionate about or what's concerning him I feel unwanted, unloved and sometimes worthless - as a woman i know you know how that feels stop torturing your man and make him your best friend things will change for the better once you do.
2006-09-11 18:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by Blessed_One 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like this guy is the one for you. I was NEVER uncomfortable around my husband. I mean, we've been together for almost 11 years now so yeah, the conversation has dimmed a little but at 6 months, there was ALWAYS something to talk about. We LOVED being around each other.....
2006-09-11 18:25:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is just communication. Like others said, take time to talk to him whatever you think what is good for him. Ask him how he spend the day or what does he do the whole day. Try to ask what makes him happy when his with you.
That's all girl do it now before its too late.
2006-09-11 18:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by taz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say this is true, here you go. Try to do things together. For instance, go to the beach, cook together, dance, bowling, etc. Things that will start a conversation and have fun at the same time. Good Luck!
2006-09-11 18:26:06 · answer #5 · answered by Drivliam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the 2 of you don't have much in common. I would suggest spending some time together and talking about your common interests, goals, etc. somethings bounds to click or otherwise move on
2006-09-11 18:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by leos1964 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with you. It's your boyfriend. He sounds controlling and belittling. He is putting you down. This is the beginning of abuse. It gets worse. Part of you senses this. That is why you can't start a conversation with him. Stop the relationship. He is taking away your self esteem. He is giving danger signals. Danger! Danger!
2006-09-11 18:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by winkcat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe your interests are not the same thats why you cannot talk with him the way you does with youre friends.try mingling with his circle of friends and try those things that he enjoys most.maybe with that, you two can establish and start a good communication and a better relationship.
2006-09-11 18:34:42 · answer #8 · answered by rechille 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey buddy you know your boyfriend , his likes , his dislikes .
All that is so superficial , he should love you the way you are ..
Stop being so timid and grow up .
Stand up and speak and get noticed and never let anyone make you feel let down .
MY SINCERE ADVISE TO YOU .
be confident , it'll reflect in you !
2006-09-11 18:27:35 · answer #9 · answered by Beautiful Snowwhite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth. say that you don't really have uch to say on the phone with him.
or
when u call him sometimes, let him speak and respond. try giving advice or reating to something he says to something u experienced. ppl arent always looking for answers, just to know the other person is listening and really cares to listen.
2006-09-11 18:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find things that you have in common with him and do it... go places you'd never think to go like an amusement park or a museum. go to eat and sit across from each other and just talk to him be attentive, and show him that your interested in his day and what he did... let him know how important he really is to you...and how much you appreciate him...good luck
2006-09-11 18:30:44 · answer #11 · answered by california chick.... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋