he has never cheated on me,but he cheated on his ex wife with someone else and i dont want him to cheat on me i mean he is my whole world if he did i would be crushed,he said he cheated on his ex wife b/c he was not happy.
2006-09-11 18:11:50 · 7 answers · asked by JEN-JEN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is just something you cannot control. Unless he gives you a reason to
think he really is cheating. Then don't fret about it. There are no guarentees.
Trust is very important for both of you. Make sure he is helping row this boat.
Don't do all the "relationship work". See to it that is equal. That he puts in the
effort too, especially since he has told you he cheated on his ex. He needs
to reasure you that everything is fine, in your relationship. It's not your job to
worry about it.......It's HIS JOB to make you feel SECURE being with him !!
2006-09-11 18:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but once a cheater, always a cheater. If he says that he cheated on his ex because he wasn't happy, that just goes to show that he will always have an excuse for cheating when, in fact, there are none. If he was not happy, he should have been man enough to say so and get out of the relationship. Sounds like you have every reason not to trust him. Is that really the kind of relationship you want?
2006-09-12 01:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by angel83074 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's because... U claim that you love him dearly honey. Love is based on faith and trust only. Its questionable even if its a valid doubt that you have this nagging question ... that perhaps is eroding your faith. Besides, if he told you that's he had to cheat because he was not happy with his Ex... It meant he expects not the same from you. And as long as you are sure that you could keep him happy... U must have faith in your love and in him....that he would not cheat... Good luck
2006-09-12 01:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by cheenuray 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then he should have gotten a divorce before he "cheated" then it wouldn't have been cheating. Never make another person your whole world. You are setting yourself up for heartache if you do.
2006-09-12 01:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by Wiccan Woman 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you HAVE to trust him. if there is no trust there is no love. you should trust him until it is proven that you cant trust him. mistrusting will eat you up inside and kill anything and everything that is good in your relationship to him. yes it happened to her, but it didn't happen to you. fight your insecurity, give him the benefit of the doubt, stop and think before you accuse (because it WILL cause problems and fights), and if you do accuse him, make damn sure you have the solid proof to back it up. good luck to you.
2006-09-12 01:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by mercedes1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize that he does have that past issue, but everyone deserves a clean slate. Obviously it didn't bother you a ton or you wouldn't have said yes to him. I would believe him until he does something (if he does at all), to make you not believe him.
2006-09-12 01:17:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jason 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
History repeats itself, darling. Make sure you communicate and I guess you should make sure he's happy.
2006-09-12 01:17:02 · answer #7 · answered by vratsababe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋