Do you think we have to spank and slap our children for their bad behavior?I've never done this,because I think children behave as they feel.When people feel bad,they behave bad,when people feel good,their behavior is also good.It's stupid to make somebody feel bad,so he/she would behave better.What do you think?
2006-09-11 18:08:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I agree with you.That's why I have never spanked or slapped my children and they are very nice kids now.Of course there are problems but that's a part of their raising up.We solve problems,don't just try to prevent the attitude.When a child behaves bad,he/she needs love and support,someone to understand his/her feelings,not a punishment or a slap.Bad-behaved children are discouraged children.They need help,not a slap.
2006-09-11 18:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by julie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with spanking either. I think most parents do so out of frustration or anger, and that is not a way to discipline a child. There are so many other ways to disicipline that striking a child is simply not needed. I think time outs work great!
2006-09-11 18:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by sclay95843 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was spanked as a child. My mom didn't do it out of frustration. She didn't do it out of anger. She did it because that was the only way I would listen to her. If I was writing on the walls, she could sit and tell me why I shouldn't do it for hours, and when she was done talking, I'd do it again. If she stuck me in time out, I'd daydream until she let me out, and start doing whatever I was doing all over again.
I didn't behave bad because I felt bad, I behaved bad because I was a child and I wanted to do things I wasn't supposed to do.
I was spanked as a child, and my children will be spanked if they need it.
People need to learn that spanking is not a form of child abuse. It is not hurting your child, it is diciplining them.
As far as smacking goes... you think that when I called my mom a ***** and smacked her in the face, that I didn't have a smack coming my way? Then you wait until your child does that to you. I never hated my mom, I never disrespected my mom.. I was just mad because she wanted me to do something and I didn't want to do it. And let me tell you, when she caught me and smacked me back... that was the last time I ever thought about smacking her.
I know people who didn't get spanked, and I know people who did. Infact I know people who were abused. The people who didnt get spanked... they all were pregnant, not married, and with no place to live, or one ran over his brother with his bike..
The ones that were spanked... they turned out like normal people.
My best friend was abused. She doesn't abuse her kids. She makes sure never to lose her temper with them... yet she spanks them.
2006-09-11 18:33:14 · answer #3 · answered by rccola1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called DISCIPLINE...
children needs it.....
adults need it too....
What children are in there younger years, always reflect on there parents...
and as they get older and wiser, they make decisions that will benefit there life styles as adults....And parents will then only wish that the reflections they once had on there children when they were younger, was much more than they gave to them and themselves....
So parents make and consider to discipline the way children behaves now, so that they not only will make mistakes but also have to learn from them.
Now only one can truly know how to react on how to discipline there children, and also think to do so the way in good communication....
It is called LOVE....This will reflect in many ways!
2006-09-11 18:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by nAiSa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i`m sorry i think ur goofy. i have four children, two of them r usually pretty good but the other two drive us (me and my husband) crazy. they r all treated the same. just so u know the ages.....the pretty good ones r 10 girl, 4 boy the ones that drive us crazy r 11 boy, 5 girl. now u tell me wut do u think? u better learn how to spank ur children or they r going to turn u out.
2006-09-11 19:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by "big dogs wife" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 06:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if something happens concerning your child that drives you to such anger that would cause you to even consider striking your child, then something you have done has caused that problem, not something the child has done. you want to hit someone? hit yourself
2006-09-11 20:10:10 · answer #7 · answered by ỉη ץ٥ڵ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋