Okay so I'm 20 years old and I met this guy who's 35. First I don't know if this is okay. I mean people say age is just a number, but I don't know If he'll treat me seriously. So far I only e-maile dhim breifly and spoke to him on the phone brefly as well. We never went out yet, and I don't really know much about him, but the invited me out this thursday. Except I don't know what to think because he said it like this"me and a bunch of people are going out to a bar, It'd be great if you wanted to come along" I mean what does that mean? He did seem interested in the e-mails and on the phone, could he be trying to be friends? I mean regardless of what you guys say I will go out and see what's this all about, but i just wanted to see some opinions on this. Any tips of how to get through that night? lol THANKS a bunch !
2006-09-11 17:52:33 · 27 answers · asked by violetnewyork 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Long term relationships can be tough for the younger women. Most men can barely get thru their 40's and then they lose their sex drive. You could be a young woman married to a dried up old man.....
2006-09-11 17:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What it means is that there are 15 years between you. Psychological studies find that a 28 year old man is equal in maturity to a 21 year old woman. At 35 he may have an emotional edge on you. The exiciting part is: Regardless of what we say -- you are going out to a bar with someone you don't know with a bunch of his friends "just to see what this is all about."
My tip is to pass up this invitation and offer another for meeting in a neutral place that has at least two doors.
2006-09-11 18:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by thecellophaneman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has 15 years more of life experience than you do. In terms of data, knowledge, and experience, figure 10 megabytes a second, time 15 years. He has been an adult for five years, while you still have 4 years to go. Society has made some major changes in just the time period between you. There is nothing wrong with the difference in ages, except for you to wait until you are 24. You will find that your whole view of the world and our society will change. Even your view of him will change. Yes, that's a long time to wait for you, because of you limited storehouse of knowledge, but for him, it is just a drop in the bucket. I will not tell you what you are doing is right or wrong, only you can decide that. Just know all the facts before making that choice. Even at my age, I wouldn't mind having a young women, to perhaps have more children with, but I know that there is a vast difference in our worlds.
2006-09-11 18:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-07 03:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he wants to hang out with you with other people first, so it won't be so awkward--kind of a "group date," I guess. You shouldn't worry about what I or anyone else thinks about the age difference, just if it seems too great to you--you said you were going to go to the bar anyway, so do that and see if it feels strange to you, and if he's treating you seriously or not. If it all looks good, go on a few more dates to get a better picture. If he treats you like an adult and you're comfortable with the age difference, go for it! Good luck.
2006-09-11 17:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by Casey 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He just wants to see how things feel before he commits to a real date. I say go have fun. Age does not really matter but you might want to consider this. When u r 45 he will be 60. Then again when hes 90 you will be 75 and it wont matter much. Go have a good time anyway.
2006-09-11 18:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by sis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ok. Think of it as kind of a PRE-date. It's good because it takes pressure off of the both of you. You can dance, drink, and have fun... get a feel of one another seeing as how you haven't even met yet. Take a couple of friends too. It will be good because you're in a public place, not alone with this guy. He's into you, but he probably wants to feel things out and not seem too aggressive before going out on a one on one date with you.
My husband and I actually went out our first time in this kind of setting. We had a blast, and hey 4 years later got married!
2006-09-11 18:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by MoMoney23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he's a bit creepy cuz he likes WAY younger girls. Careful cuz older guys like that are looking for the young vulnerable type. About the "going out with the buddies" thing, That's the safe way that lots of guys people start. They invite them to come along with a big crowd. That way it's not the awkaward 1st-date type of situation with silent moments and nervousness. It's also safe cuz it's so non-commital, it's like hanging out with a friend, so if you're not into him, he hasn't shamed himself. And it's agood way to see how things are going between u two, and if it seems normal enough to go on an actual date.
2006-09-11 18:00:06 · answer #8 · answered by blindly_invisible 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well. You're an adult, but if you were my daughter or lil'sis, I'd be worried about you. Wouldn't you both have more in common with someone closer to your own age? If a 35-year-old guy DOES actually have a lot in common with you now -- I gotta wonder if maybe he's not a little immature and stuck and maybe you would outgrow him someday.
BUT, stranger things have worked out just fine for year after year after year. So just be careful.
(He's probably guaranteed to be, uh, better at sports than a 20 year old kid!)
2006-09-11 17:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by bugnscout 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im a 20 yr old college guy. I wouldnt go out with a 35 year old woman thats disgusting. I think its the same in your situation. Your so young stick with guys your age. 2 or 3 years ago, this guy would of gone to jail if he did you. Also he was 15 when you were born, so think of a 20 year old doing a baby, its wrong, then and wrong 15 years later.
2006-09-11 17:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just a couple warning signals for you:
He's probably going through his mid-life identity crisis, and needs to prove to himself that he could still get a younger woman. And with his friends there, he has proof of such. Are you just a trophy for him?
What could you possibly have in common with him?
Also, just keep in mind that with the mid-life crisis thing... the older a man gets, the more problems he has sexually. Will you be satisfied with him?
Just be very alert to what his reasoning is.
Oh, and be extra cautious since he'll have you outnumbered with all his friends around. Perhaps you should consider inviting 1 or more friends.
2006-09-14 15:34:10 · answer #11 · answered by ♫☼♥ ≈ Debbi ≈ ♥☼♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋