Who thinks a child harness or leash is mean?

Question

And if so Why do you think so?

The reason behing me asking this, is cuz, the other day I had my 3 year old on a leash, a baby leash and a woman told me he was to old for it, I looked at her and told her " I rather see my son on this than to get hit by a car" I have 3 kids ages 4, 3 and 7 months, My 3 year old like to run off.........I didn't like the way the woman was putting me down on what I was doing with my son, needless to say the woman got a ear full from me... LOL

Answer 1

Little children don't think anything about it but adults sometimes act like it is cruel. I think that with some children, it is the only way to keep them safe. It is a sign of love that parents are willing to face criticism from others in order to keep their child safe.

Answer 2

Number one that is your child so no one have the right to tell anything about that child leash especially when you didn't ask their oppinion, but since you asked I think your child should understand that when you say stay close to mommy he or she stay close to mommy. At the ages of 4 and 3 they should know to either hold on to the stroller or hold mommy hand or hold on to my shirt, pants, or something. I'm a mother of 4 and their ages are 13 12 5 and 1 and the three older ones understood with out me having to hit my kids now the one year old is a different story but by the time he turns 3 or 4 he will know. and last but not least you should have given that women a ear full cause who the hell is she.

Answer 3

I have seen some cute "backpacks" for kids and they have a "leash" (there has got to be a better term. My daughter who is now only 10 months, will have her leash and harness when she is with me. I am disabled and could not keep up with a running child. However when she is old enough to understand, her father and I will let her know that running from mommy just because she can, will be a BIG BIG mistake

Answer 4

SAFETY FIRST...!!!
If they sale them, then it must be for a reason too.
It's odd to see a child on a leash/harness...but it is not illegal.
But there are some parents who uses them cause they don't want to be chasing there children around, for whatever reason any parent has to use it for, it's up to them as long as it was meant for the purpose of the leash/harness.
If it feels wrong then don't use it....
That's when parents have to use what's best in the first place.....ATTENTIVENESS towards the child, ALERTNESS, and MOTHERLY INSTINCTS!!!

Answer 5

I don't think they are mean at all... I used one with my son. Then they are able to walk around with out running off... and you with 3 young kids its a little less worry on your mind. You would think with the way people drive and even walk around these days... only thinking of themselves and not looking where they are going that people would not be as uppity about leashes...

Answer 6

I dont think its mean. Some children are really rambunctious, and when you go out into public, you cant trust people. My daughter isnt at the age to need one yet, but I wouldnt hesitate to use one if need be. Especially in really crowded areas. I would rather have my kid on a "leash" than kidnapped or hit by a car. Great question by the way!

Answer 7

If by mean you mean saving your child from being abducted or worse then yes the leash is mean. However I think it is a great way to give little ones a way to be independent and free parents up from having to excersise discipline. The Bible says in Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart.

Answer 8

You know, I did think it was cruel and mean. But that was before I had a 3 year old that got away from me in a department store in a not so good neighborhood. My baby ran from me, and I lost it. I called out for him. The store clerks were calling out for him. It was awful. We found him in a rack of clothes, laughing. I went to KMart and got one of the wrist leashes for him as soon as I left the Dillards.

It is WAY better than having to watch them run out in front of a car.

And we only had to use it for a little while, until he was old enough to REALLY understand that he shouldn't run off.

Answer 9

I think that its horrible to put a child on a leash or harness, To me your just lazy and dont want to look after the life you brought into this world. Leashes and harness tug and drag your child around like a dog. And everytime I see a child on one of those things my heart goes out to that child, Dont think for a second that someone cant or wont take your child just because you think you have that child on one, cuz they arent that hard to get off the wrist of a child specially in a crowded area where the child is behind you and you cant see them. And your dragging your child because your to lazy to look after them, God gave you a chance to be a parent and its your responsiblity to take care of that child. Watch over that child at all times, and make sure that child is safe, You say Mean?? I say Its INHUMANE to do that to any child. Whether the child has ADHD or is Mentally Retarded. I've taken many children places and never ever in my life ever once thought that a harness or leash is the answer, Teach your child to always stay with you, and watch over your child until they learn. I've seen children get tangled up in them, i've seen people pull their children so hard that the child fell from trying to keep up with that so called parent,, If you cant put your child in a stroller or hold there hand or carry them then you dont deserve to even have a child in your life. Are the Safe?? NO they arent safe, you just think its a easy way out of taking care of that child your suppose to love and keep safe with your own eyes. To all the parents thats ever used those things on your child,, your lazy and heartless. And i say this with no regrets and no shame. As its shamefull for you to be so LAZY an UNCARING for a child that doesnt know any better,, I guess Im just a "GOOD MOM"

Answer 10

Not mean at all. I just bought one for my 13 month old. He's walking and I'd prefer to let him walk around vs. putting him in a stroller. Plus I'm tall and 5 months prego... so bending down to hold his hand doesn't always feel good on my back. The harness is a great security device... especially in crowded places.
I bought mine from Babies R Us for $5.99 and keep it in the diaper bag so it goes everywhere with me. I've yet to use it... but plan to go to the mall this weekend... so I'll break it in over there. And I don't care what anyone thinks about it. My kid.. my way.