He's extremely intelligent and I would like to ask him out....anything that you could offer as advise would be helpful....I've known other deaf people but have never dated one........thanks
2006-09-11 17:47:37 · 11 answers · asked by nikthorbella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do not throw things at a deaf person to get their attention or sneak up behind them which will startle us. You can tap on their arm, stop the floor or flash the lights to get our attention.
Keep in mind that when taking your deaf date to any type of small get together or group, like a dinner party or something like that where everyone is hearing, we will not understand what is being spoken at all unless there is a conversation one on one. I'm not saying you have to interpret the whole time, but to be aware of it and try to be accommodating of it, so that it is a pleasant and enjoyable experience rather than an isolating one. It all depends on the individual, some deaf people are highly socialable and can interact with hearing people very well regardless, some are quiet. God knows I've had to sit through many group conversations staring at my food or watching people not having a clue to what is being spoken as if I don't exist knowing I could entertain myself better at home!
Rent DVD's with subtitles instead of going to the movies.
Miscommunication will always happen. If I miss a word that is spoken to me, that missing word could totally change the context of what is being relayed to me, and I have no way of knowing that I missed a word. I've had arguments in the past on the topic of miscommunication when I was told a certain thing, and I confirmed based on what I "heard". The other thought I heard every single word. I only heard 99% of it. That one word missed can change everything. So if you discuss anything that is very important, ask what you said to be repeated to make sure you're being understood clearly, so there are no misunderstandings or write it down word for word clearly.
2006-09-12 14:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by Amma's Child 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very complicated situation. She apparently loves this man dearly and she provides whatever his wife cannot at home. I imagine they may both be waiting or hoping for the ill wife at home to pass on, which I know sounds terrible and I'm sorry you have to witness and put up with this. I think your mother's relationship situation is really her own business, BUT I totally disagree that she would bring this man to your home at this time while he is still commited to another family and really it does disgust me also, that she would allow him to act as a father (or attempt to) to you or your siblings. But people are never, ever really perfect, even your mom. It all is pretty selfish, seems to me, that both of them do this, but people are sometimes driven by their feelings and go against all logic and what should be right. Best wishes to you, you sound like a very mature young person and I'm sure you'll make better choices for your life when you hit that adult age.
2016-03-26 21:24:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it if you really like him and being deaf is not much of a handicap as compared being crippled as an example.
Try hp texting, paper writing and also learn sign language.
2006-09-11 17:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know ASL and he does, then you need to learn it.
I'm deaf and my husband isn't. I don't sign, I read lips
It's not always easy and you must be patient and aware that in some situations, (loud places or dark places, it's almost impossible to communicate without knowing ASL.
2006-09-14 03:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by chicki3030 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start taking sign language classes. It's a really beautiful language. Ask him for help with your signs (if that's how he communicates). That will warm his heart. Plus you'll need to "speak" to him somehow, right? So cool that you're into him dispite his "handicap". Goodluck.
2006-09-11 17:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by lalo m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt is deaf, but was orally trained. She reads lips very well. You just have to make sure that you are looking at her and she can see your face when you are talking.
2006-09-11 17:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by pamgissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen a book/DVD set at a store called learning to sign with your baby... not sure if it would help...carry pen & Paper???? Ask him to teach you sign... that would ease you into getting closer
2006-09-11 17:53:26 · answer #7 · answered by Country 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt the handicap will be much of a handicap.
Enjoy your relationship!
2006-09-11 18:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use paper and pen to communicate. That should work.
2006-09-11 17:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by Contesta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn sign language.
2006-09-11 17:51:38 · answer #10 · answered by redrum5785 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋