how to stop cps?

Question

i have two kids im a great mother of two and my mother wants my oldest kid. i have never and will never put my kids in harms way but my mother keeps calling cps to get my kid how can i stop them from takeing her i have moved and dont talk to my mother anymore but she still keeps calling and they have never found anything on me who can i write or call for this to stop please help me? i need help asap

i moved out of state and they say that she has to threatin me or my kids before i can do anything to her

she cant have anymore kids and wants more shes 43 years old

Answer 1

First of all CPS is obligated to investigate any and every call that comes in concerning children. However on the flip side of that each call that comes in, everything that is written down from the caller about the children is sent to the local CPS where the children live. IF, the person who called in regarding the children have made a serious enough complaint, CPS will then investigate and decide whether or not to remove the children from the home or offer their services to the family.
If CPS has taken several calls about the same children from the same person and cannot find anything wrong in which would require their services, often they will send the person a ltter themselves asking the person to stop harrassing them. However more often than not you have to take matters into you own hands.
I know since its your mom, you may have hard time doing this. Having a good relationship with your mom is something that few of us have.
I had to do what your doing with your kids.. I had the same problems with my father.

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I know of no proven way to stop CPS. Mots attorney I know of work with CPS, have worked with CPS, or work in the court system at some point with CPS and are very hesitant to go againts them.
However, you need to make sure you have good documentation of every time your mom has called CPS and they have come to you home. Documentation that proves that they found no evidence of child abuse in your home. Make sure you have documentation that your childrens doctors have seen t he children regularly and have found no evidence of child abuse, as they are professional who are required by LAW to repot not on what they know, but what they suspect, reason to believe.
I would suggest that you hire an attorney to file a lawsuit against your mom for harrassement. You have had to move, uprooting your children, yourself and moving isnt cheap.
Check with an attorney concerning your states laws about harrassement, obtain a protection order on behalf of your children against your mom, this will keep her away from them, go from there to see what all options you have.
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Answer 2

First, keep careful documentation of everything that goes on concerning your children, your mother and CPS.

Next, consult a lawyer (even if it's legal aid). It's one thing if your mother is reporting legitimate problems or concerns to CPS, it's another all together if she's reporting random garbage just to try to get custody of your child. What it is then is harassment.

Understand that CPS needs to take every call seriously and it is their obligation to follow up on what is reported to them. What would happen if one day someone in CPS decided they were too busy to take that one call... what if that one call they ignored resulted in the injury or death of a child? I'm not saying that your children are at risk, I just want you to understand that CPS has an obilgation to protect children and if that means following up on false claims, then so be it. It is their job and they are doing what they need to do to make sure that your children are safe and sound.

Your mother... it may be time to cut off ties completely. If you change your number again, don't let your mother have it and don't have it listed. Let CPS know what's going on and what your mother's objectives are. Work with them as much as possible to assure that they know that your children are safe and well cared for.

Good luck.

Answer 3

It sounds as if CPS already knows what you say is true: that she (your mother) is a nut bag with an axe to grind. Anyway, they would have taken your kids if there was the slightest speculation that you were an unfit mother. (Happened to my sister last year, she recently got them back after temporarily with foster family). File restraining order. Make up threats if you have to. Your very first obligation is to keep your children safe. Do not have anymore contact with this woman. Do not let her know where you live/work. Never underestimate the power of a scorned woman (your mother)...can be very dangerous indeed.

Answer 4

CPS knows when they're being played. Their social workers are stretched to the limit as it is, and they won't take on a sham case if they can help it.

Honestly? Move and change your number. Your mother obviously has nothing better to do than make your life a living hell, probably because she was such a sh*tty mom herself.

I am very, very sorry to hear about this. People abuse the system all the freaking time. You may consider asking the police if you can file harassment charges, this seems to me like it would be considered so.

Call your county and ask for info for Legal Aid. You can get a lawyer for free or cheap depending on your income. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

I think you should be able to bring charges against her if she is making false accusations to cps-call the police and ask. Actually, you would think cps would have done something once their investigations proves you are not unfit and she continues to complain. Don't worry about it, cps will listen to you if it appears nothing is wrong in the home. And if you are doing everything right they can't take your kids away. How does your mom keep getting your address and phone number anyway?

Answer 6

Get a lawyer now. Do some investigating to find out who is the best damn lawyer in your area and go see him/her immediately. Try to get copies of all reports and findings from CPS. If they won't give them to you, your lawyer can compel them. And yes, get the restraining order. If there is a danger this woman may try to get your child illegally a restraining order can help.. Record any conversation you have with her as well. It is not illegal for you to do this without telling her (it's only illegal if someone tapes the two of you without either of you knowing). It may not be admissable in court, but if your lawyer has info, he can find other ways to get it to a judge. If your child is in school, immediately go talk to officials (principal, teachers, etc) there and let them know you mother is not to pick you child up for any reason. Provide them a copy of any restaining order you get, a photo so they know what your mother looks like as well as info on anyone that may attemp to help your mother. I have to give you props for putting your children first. It is hard to believe a family member would do this to you, but it does happen. It is sad, but again, you have done the right thing by protecting the children.

As others here have said, keep any and all documentation concerning this and keep your phone number private. It is worth it to pay the few dollars a month to keep it unpublished. Unlisted only keeps it out of the phone book, unpublished means it isn't included in ANY directory (including internet) and won't be given out by information.

Answer 7

cps will know after the first few phone calls that it is harrasment, but they still have to take the call and check it out, just in that rare case that it would turn out to be something, you cant blame them with all the sickos in the world. I would put a restraining order on her, and if she continues, tell her you are going to sue her for harrasment. Change your phone number and unlist it, contact the cps people yourself and inform them of the ongoing situation, and have them leave an "open" but inactive case going, and an open door poilicy for them to stop by whenever, that way they know you have nothing to hide, eventually she will quit, she is hoping with all the stress and problems that eventually you will give in, keep on keeping on, its her loss in the long run, and you will be surprised at strong a mom you really are. Take Care and Good Luck to you!!

Answer 8

UG!! CPS should be able to recognize fictitious reporting. Your mother is actually committing a crime by making reports with no sound reason. In all fairness she may be hindering help for a child who really needs it because they are busy investigating a false allegation. Maybe you should bring that to the attention of the authorities.

Answer 9

Go to a lawyer and file a restraining order against your mother. She sounds like a nut who has an ax to grind.

Then ask your lawyer to write a letter of complaint to CPS charging that they are harassing you with unfounded charges.

Answer 10

File a civil suit for emotional damage, etc. Harassing you with no proof could be both criminal and civil. Put the pressure back on her. Make claims from your childhood of her abusiveness, etc. It's your word against hers. You don't need a criminal suit.
She is off her rocker if she she's only trying to get one kid and not both.