i met this guy on a chat about 2 months ago we talk all the time and he is so sweet he is coming to the states in october he lives in the u.k
we have so much in common and he sounds like a prince charming. when ever i think of him i get butterflys in my tummy and when i am speaking with him all i can do is smile.i am just scarde to put my self out there cause i dont wanna be hurt
2006-09-11 16:52:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be careful
2006-09-11 16:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by 13en 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this, but if you haven't met this guy in person, then you haven't really met him yet. In reality I am a 55yo overweight grey haired man. But in a chat room I can be anything from a 25yo bodybuilder to a 10yo little girl. I know, you said you talked on the phone, but he can still do a lot of misrepresentation if he's determined to do so.
Remember, without the added advantage of having been in the same room with him, you are relying on only one of your true senses at a time. In this situation, people tend to fill in the blanks with their imagination, & in doing that you can be turning a frog into your "Prince Charming"
So, how do you know if he's the one?
In the present situation, you can't know. When he comes in October & you have the much anticipated meeting, GO SLOW. Take your time & get to know this guy as you would a total stranger, because until then, that is what he'll be.
Watch out though. He may be the real deal, but a good time to put up a "Red Flag" & take a new perspective on this situation, is when October comes, & he doesn't. If he's stringing you along, (& I'm not saying that I think he is) then he's going to start making excuses why he can't meet you. A sure sign of a con job is when he starts asking for money to be sent over before you've even met him.
I'm not trying to burst your bubble, but please be cautious.
2006-09-12 00:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL -- I met my longtime boyfriend that very same way (he lives in Chicago and I live in DC). I think you should be prepared for the worst - knowing that things may not click in person (there's a lot that comes down to physical chemistry).
One of the reasons that my internet relationship worked is because we were very open minded and we met up the first time on the premise of being friends first. If you meet up with the expectation of having a love relationship - then the pressure will be too overwhelming.
Also - be safe. Listen to that voice inside your head that warns you when there is something "off." You know what I'm talking about - that gut feeling - be sure to listen to it! I have a friend who ended up in an abusive relationship after meeting on the internet.
2006-09-12 00:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by ALLaboutDC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, meeting people online is nice and all, considering you can meet people from all over. however, you may want to be a bit hesitant when you do meet him, sometimes, things are not as they seem.
anyway, love is so important to life, and the feeling of falling in love (what you have been feeling for the past 2 months) is a feeling that can't be beat.
now, i know i've just given you conflicting advice, but here is the last word. never be scared to streth yourself and do new things, its the only way you can grow as an idividual. just be carefull, but also keep an open heart and mind, and love will find you.
2006-09-11 23:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait till you meet him personally and then you yourself can figure out how the connection works for both of you. If you still feel butterfly and you are still smiling secretly, then there will be a chance. I suggest give it more time to know him more. I understand how scary it is to deal with a stranger, be careful so you won't get hurt when things did not favor your way.
Be careful.
2006-09-12 00:16:00 · answer #5 · answered by tangerine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, with love you have to risk it wether you like it or not because if you dont then you will be lonely all your life. But in this case, cause you really just know him by internet be carefull with that. Sone of theese men might be even married and you dont even know it. Most of whet hes told you is really not credible because he cant really prove everything that he tells you. When a person is for you then it will stay but if not you'll know. Only time will tell you.
2006-09-11 23:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
after about 5 years.
2006-09-11 23:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by thesunnshynne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well part of it there but what about the physical attraction it may not be there so meet and see . take a chance
2006-09-11 23:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
chat is fine but you won't know till you meet and spend some real time. follow your heart but don't ignore your brain! He maybe Mr. Right or Mr. VERY wrong don't rush into anything!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-11 23:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by Duane Allman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him come down and don't make any major decisions till you do meet face to face. Who knows.. he might have those bad teeth that all Brits have. lol...
2006-09-11 23:55:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋