How do I Help My Son?

Question

He is 26 and losing his girlfreind and 3 yr old daughter due to drug abuse. He is a drug addict, I'm not sure what all he is addicted to, but enough to ruin his life with them. I don't know what to do to get him help? I can't make him do anything, Please does anyone have any constructive answers for me. I'm afraid I'm going to lose him to an overdose?

Answer 1

http://www.intervention.com/
http://www.drug-intervention.org/

There is some information about interventions. It sounds like things are getting out of control and it's time to get some professional advice on this. After researching this, maybe you can sit down and talk to his girlfriend about what you've found out and see if you can be each other's support through whatever you decide. She is probably just as worried and scared.

Answer 2

|Wow, I know all about this. Sadly, the only thing you can really do is confront him about it and offer him help. If he isn't willing to check into a facility or start an out patient program (NA or what have you), then you need to stop being an enabler in his life, in other words, tough love. He has to decide for himself what is worth more to him. Sometimes losing it all is the only things that can create a moment of clarity in an addicts life. He will need to get help and more importantly remove himself from the friends and environments which help keep him in "supply". Its a life change. If he doesn't loose the friends eventually even with the help of rehab he will regress back into it. My heart is with you and I am wishing you all the best.

Answer 3

Sometimes tough love is in order.
If he is living with you: tell him to get help or out the door and follow through with it. Once on the street he could very well come to his senses.
If he is living on his own: He is an adult and sometimes people in his shoes must hit rock bottom before they get help.
These are all tough words to a loving mom but as an adult you can't force him to do anything.
If his drug problem gets bad enough he will break the law at some point and law enforcement will get him to treatment. Hopefully before it's too late.
There are many moms out here that have been in your shoes and I pray you're one of the lucky ones.

Answer 4

That must be so hard. My little brother is 25 and in a similar situation. My parents have tried many rehabs and spent thousands of dollars on his addictions. Nothing has helped. It has torn them apart. Now they are just trying not to support and enable him anymore. Try and intervention. And, make the consequences pretty severe. Good luck

Answer 5

calm down...you cant help anybody if your in a panic. Now that your calm take a deep breath and ask yourself --what can I do to help MYSELF deal with my son's problem. Your son will get help when he's ready and when that day comes you will be there if you understand that trying to help when he is not ready will only cause resentment and push him away from you. I know it is difficult. PROBABLY THE MOST DIFFICULT THING YOU WILL EVER EXPERIENCE. But it is imperative that you keep your cool so at least one of you is thinking rationally. Do what you have to do to keep the chain of communication open with your son so that when he cries for help...you will hear him. Likewise do what any good grandmother would do and try to maintain a relationship with your grandbaby and the ex.

Answer 6

He is a big boy with a Big problem. He doesn't care what you, his wife or child has to say. The wife/gf needs to force him into a program.( if not POLICE). Figures state that after 90 days with a structured program he will have a chance. Only a chance. He got where he is at for a reason. That's where it begins.
Good life and bless you for caring. Tough Love honey

Answer 7

my son is 22 and is in prison (not county jail) for 3 years because of a drug addiction to meth.

he has a 2 year old son.

i tried everything i could to get him help. he got into one rehab and walked out 2 days later.

nothing will help your son .. unless he wants help. HE has to want to change. HE has to hit rock bottom before he decides he wants to climb his way out. it broke my heart to watch my son totally wreck his life ... but prison is what it took to get him clean.

it's the most helpless thing in the world and i cried 1000 nights wondering where he was .. was he okay? was he hurt? was he dead? always waiting for the phone to ring to tell me he was gone.

pray ... pray and then pray some more.

my heart and prayers are with you because i know EXACTLY what you're going through.

Answer 8

As stated by others, an intervention might help, but you do need a professional to help you with this. However, it will only work if your son really wants the help.

I know it's painful and you really want to help him but unfortunately nothing will really work unless he really wants it! The intervention might help push him the direction to realize he needs the help and possibly he might seek it. But again, if he doesn't want the help about all you can do is be there for him, let him know that you are there to love him, help him in anyway that you can.

You & your son will be in my prayers tonight. Good luck, and I hope he seeks your help!

Answer 9

Ask for help anyone in the family whom your son was respectfull or close. He might have some effect even someone close neighbour he used respect might have effect.

You know he is actually good person so there is always good clue somewhere nearby. Try to figure out that, even some time your close friend might tell the clue.

Answer 10

My stepsister is addicted to meth, she won't live to see 30. We've tried everything in the world to help her, she just doesn't want to quit. They only quit when they are ready. It's frustrating to see her killing herself and there's nothing you can do to help her. We're actually hoping she'll go back to jail for a while, at least she's away from the drugs.