I have jealousy/security/selfesteem issues. I'm 22 and I go to the gym every day (sometimes twice on my days off work), I buy the latest clothing, I have facials, I get my nails & hair done reguarly. I feel like i'm in competition with every female out there.
My ex (of 8months) who I miss & think of everyday :(.. broke up with me because i was 'too possessive'. Which i know i am but i can't help it. Whenever i see him talk or even look at a female i fly out in a jealous rage. Well maybe not a rage as such, but i get really annoyed. I know there are heaps other better looking females than me..I spend at least 2 hours in the morning to get ready for work..I feel like im obssessed because I know that looks fade. What am I going to do when I turn 40..I really don't know.. Can u give me a bit of advice.
2006-09-11 16:49:27 · 7 answers · asked by Brooke K 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
One of the most attractive things about any female is confidence. Think back to the women you have admired in your life and you will realize it's true. Your boyfriend will also respond to that.
Tell yourself you are worthy of him (maybe not the ex-"him" probably needs to be a new "him") but every time you doubt it tell yourself again. If you have to fake it (I mean confidence) every now and again that is ok, we all do it. You either trust the person you are dating or you shouldn't be dating him. Stop the jealousy - there is nothing your man will find less attractive and nothing you will find less attractive in yourself.
You do have power over your own emotions. You will believe what you tell yourself to believe, it just may take time. You only have to choose to be attractive and decide that the man you are dating is lucky to have you. However, that doesn't mean that you aren't lucky to have him too - don't become the b*tch, just be confident in who you are.
If it really doesn't work, get counselling.
2006-09-11 17:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by thatcanadiangirl2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to get over jealousy issues and low self esteem. Often these issues come from something in the past such as mental abuse, or some man you love telling you that there is always someone around the next corner better looking than you. All I can say is you must pray about it. Know that you are beautiful and that there is a man out there who will love you no matter what. God bless you!
2006-09-11 17:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by kb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am sorry you are sad. You shouldn't worry so much about getting older. Concentrate on being a good companion. Looks fade, a friend doesn't.
As a guy in my forties I can also tell you that I am lot less interested in looks now than I used to be. WIth time you realize that it doesn't matter so much. A bit, but not much.
You seem to be introspective. That is a good start, as that is a characteristic of someone who thinks. I would therefore guess that you could be good company.
So, chin up.
:O)
2006-09-11 16:54:42 · answer #3 · answered by Claus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as you get older you become more comfortable with imperfections and are thankful that you are alive and healthy. There is nothing more beautiful than being happy and comfortable with who you are, physically and personally. There is nothing wrong with wanting to look good, but you have to sit back and take perspective. Don't worry about other people, everyone has little things they don't like about themselves, it would be so boring if everyone was the same and everyone was perfect. Focus on your best attributes (physical or personality) take care of your self and don't worry about men. If your partner talks to other women say to yourself he loves me, if it becomes flirty or he ignores you, ditch him and find a man who thinks you are the most wonderful thing on the face of the earth, with or without makeup.
2006-09-11 16:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by droop-e 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
identifying the problem is a good step.. i'd say you are the same type of personality of a medical student, a jet pilot or puppy with wide eyes..
unfortunately, you need other people for this.. a family member or a shrink..
i usually send patients to the psychatric clinic if have shown ALL the following: distractibility, indiscretion (excessive pleasure activities, like excessive shopping), grandiosity, flight of ideas, activity increased, sleep problems and talkativeness (pressure speech)
you appear normal to me..
2006-09-11 17:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by KnightSaber2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to a psychiatrist
2006-09-11 16:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over your self
2006-09-11 16:51:20 · answer #7 · answered by mussie600 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋