a man that you met online and had been talking to for over six months was coming home from the war on a Friday, but said that he could not meet you until that Monday which is 3 days later. I met this guy online, and we have had a great relationship so far, but I was wondering am I wrong for thinking that he should make meeting me a priority as soon as he comes home. I don't want to wait until Monday, but I don't know if I am being selfish or should I be a priority.
Serious answers only because I just wanted to know have I wasted my time these past few months or am I being selfish. I don't feel like we have to hang out and I be wined and dined by him, and I understand he has to see his family which only consist of his mother and sister I just want him to make time to meet me even if it is hust an hour or two, but why do I have to wait 3 days just to have a meet and greet.
2006-09-11 16:24:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only time will tell. Meeting and talking to someone on-line is only a very small part of a real relationship. At this point there is no need to be bothered by waiting a few days. I mean if all works out you will have the rest of your lives spend together.
Life is short ... don't sweat the small stuff ... its way too early in your relationship to make any serious decisions. Take a deep breath in and give him the few days he is asking for. You never know what kinds of things he might need to take care of after getting home.
Your relationship may or may not make it in real life. So what is the harm in waiting a few days to see what might happen. If you have such doubts then maybe there is reason. Its hard to say from this end. Just keep an open mind and see how things go. One never wants to live with 'what ifs'!!
Best of luck to both of you.
2006-09-11 16:37:46 · answer #1 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've waited this long...what's three more days. Try and understand that the fact that he wants to be with his family first means they are important to him. That's actually a good quality. I'd toss him to the curb if he came back from the war and didn't go to see his family first! You haven't even met him. Be patient. At least the guy has his family as a priority. Play your cards right and you might be part of it. Be too demanding before you've even met the man and you'll never be.
2006-09-11 23:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to tell you the truth you really do not know him and he could be putting you off for several reasons. Please think about what i am fixing to write. Why are you having to wait 3 days? He has a wife and kids to see and is going to make an excuse to leave and come and see you! He is telling the truth but why so long? He has other girls that he has talk to on the internet and he wants to meet them all. Questions you need to ask yourself. Is he really worth all of this worry
2006-09-11 23:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you've only met him online. He's known his family since he was old enough to remember anything. So he's supposed to come home from being seperated six months from the family he loves to hang out with a girl he only knows online? Just give him the three days. Be happy that he wants to hang out with you at all. :)
2006-09-11 23:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by New mommy 2010! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man has been in a WAR! Yes, I think you are being very selfish to expect him to want to see someone he's never met except on line before he goes home to his family. No, I don't think you've wasted your time, but give him some time to de-compress. You can't possibly know what he's been going through unless you've been in his boots getting shot at.
2006-09-11 23:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by eyeque195 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man has been at war. Forgive him, please, if he'd like to collect his thoughts and hug his mom and sister for a couple of days before going on a "meet and greet."
Good lord, girl. Get a grip.
2006-09-11 23:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by some chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably has events planned with family and friends. Three days is not so long. What you don't want is for him to see you as a demanding nag.
2006-09-11 23:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might need time to get used to civilian life, i'd just wait the three days. I mean after six months its not that much longer
2006-09-11 23:26:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how long has he been gone and is he really close to his family i understand where you are coming from maybe he just wants to get settled spend some time with his family and then spend time with you
2006-09-11 23:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by tx4ae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be patient. He needs to see his mom and sister first plus probably friends and get adjusted to civilian life. He will see you, dont fret!!
2006-09-11 23:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋