Does he really love me, or is he just afraid of being alone?

Question

My ex-boyfriend and I had sort of a mutual break-up several months ago. A few days later, I regretted it and asked for him to take me back (I was desperate). He wouldn't. We stayed friends, but he stopped telling me that he loved me. Periodically I would tell him I loved him (I still did at the time), and he would never say it back.

Well, now there is this guy that has shown interest in me. He asked for a date and got my number. I made the mistake of letting my ex know, and now he's all upset about it. I asked him why and he said, "It's obvious I love you."

Anyway, why is he waiting until now, when I'm finally moving on to tell me this? Does he really love me, or is he just afraid he won't find anyone else? He already told me that I'm the only girl he really talks to.

Anyway, how would you feel in this situation? I don't love him anymore (I still care about him), I like this guy who seems interested.

Well, there were things he did that made me think he did, but he refused to tell me that. Eh, he's confusing. :P

Yes, he would have never told me, and I would have still been miserable. :) In fact, one time I told him that I missed that feeling of being in love with someone and having someone in love with me and he goes, "You'll have that feeling again." He meant with someone else. :P

Answer 1

I think you are safe to date this other guy, if your ex didn't see what a catch you are before, he is seeing it now. Don't be played by the fool, I say to bad for him and move on. You gave him more than a chance to get back together and he didn't want to.

If you are the only girl he talks to then consider his feelings and don't talk about your new relationship. But at the same time don't let him criticize who you date and how you spend time with your new honey. Cause it is none of his business!!

Answer 2

Many of us want what we can’t have. Maybe your ex is feeling that way. It does not really matter. You need to do what will make you happy. If you don’t love him anymore, move forward with your life. Try the new guy, if bells don’t ring, try another one. Just wait for the right one. Pity and “what used to be” are no reason to stay in a relationship.

Answer 3

confused girl be confused no more he only told you that after you let the fact "slip" that someone else has your attention and not him think about this if you would have never said anything about this other guy would he have told you he loved you honestly i don't think so and if you let this mutual interest go and get back with this guy what do think is going to happen

Answer 4

I think you should go out with the new guy because obviously your ex doesnt love you, if he did he should of let you know at least show you some love and he didnt dont waste time on that guy whos is really confused and if you let him he will drag you to loneliness too which thats the path he is going.

Answer 5

Maybe the feeling of lossing you make him realize what he really feels ....you guys broke up and he was affraid to say I love you
but I think I would stay with whom I know well than have a chance to this new guy it could be great but can also it could be a bad experience too..

Answer 6

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Answer 7

i think if he really love u he will told u earlier n not now...

try out with the other guy may be he well not disappointed u...

i think u're ex just scared losing u...
that's not love, when he found out that he don't love u but just a feeling that he don't want to be alone then what will happened...

another sad feeling...

Alex

Answer 8

heh...

I dont think your ex really loves you. If he did he would have said something a while ago..

I think he's just jealous that someone else will be getting the attention you still give him...people love attention

Answer 9

He does not love you at all. He just wants to play with your feelings. Men are so cruel.

Answer 10

Stop playing games.