I can never get to the finish line. We have been doing it for 2 years and I was a virgin before him, it just seems that when we do it i can never get there, i have once, but when he does other things, o-r-a-l, i can get there. is there something wrong? or is it normal?
2006-09-11 16:07:08 · 21 answers · asked by Julie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Normal...for some women. Everyone's different. I have been with women who get there in no time and women who could never get there unless they got it through oral.
However, I also know that once women STOP focussing on it, it will come faster. I had an ex who never had it during intercourse and then, one night after we'd been together for almost 2 years, it just happened. She stopped "trying."
Believe it or not, men are the same way. I have a hard time during intercourse because I am so mentally focussed on the woman that I forget myself. I know, sounds weird.
You are normal....because there is no "normal."
2006-09-11 16:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by contrafilms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my virginity when I was 16 and I am 24 now. I have been with 6 guys, 3 of which have been a constant for at least a year in my life at some point or another and I have never, and I repeat never had an orgasm. So if you ask me, normal.
2006-09-11 17:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by turtle33 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try some new things, tell him what you want and try to teach him - guys can get off easily, for us ladies it's more of a challenge. you don't have to make him feel worthless, make it fun. try some different positions out. and -ahem- remember to breathe and tighten up your buns - when you have an orgasm by yourself pay attention to what your body does (get comfy with a full length mirror or something) and do that while your doin' it. i'm trying not to sound like a pervert - these are just things i've found out while on my own quest.
don't start faking it like a lot of ladies have a tendancy to do, that never helps anyone.
2006-09-11 16:17:14 · answer #3 · answered by cathrine c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is mind over matter thing, you just need to get your mind relax and at that place, it is normal for women not to get there, you need some foreplay and some good oral, the right position and let him stimulate your cl-it at the same time and I think that would do the job..... let me know if it helps.
2006-09-11 16:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jamaican Beauty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is normal, your bf, must be fairly young, he will get better with age, but there are some things that you can do to help, like talk to him, tell him what you like and what works for you, also he has to work on lasting longer, there are some positions that will help, and a lot of when and how fast you c u m. is in your mind, you have to work on that part yourself, it is hard that he has to try to last longer, and you have to try to c u m faster, they are oppisites, my girl and I had that problem for a while, but with a little pratice and our both working together for the same goal, we reached it, and it is so great to reach that together...better than with anyone else or anyother time....let me know how things work out ok.....
2006-09-11 16:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by wizzard 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't freak out. remember a few things: r-e-l-a-x. if you stop concentrating on just coming to an orgasm, the stress of having an orgasm actually makes it harder to have an orgasm. so just relax and enjoy it for what it is. enjoy all small sensations.
another thing: concider other positions. girls seldom realize that they tend to be more likely to have an orgasm when they are the ones on top. also, it is virtually impossible for most girls to reach orgasm with just penetration alone. you will need your clitoris to be stimulated while you are being penetrated. try having him enter you from behind and then he can reach forward and rub your clitoris as you have sex.
experiment with several postions to see what works for you.
2006-09-11 16:13:10 · answer #6 · answered by jessies_girl_jc 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My best piece of advice is to get a vibrator - use it when the two of you are doing it, and it will make all the difference. I can't believe I didn't discover it sooner! Vibrators are something every mother should tell her daughter when she gets the sex talk because it will change your life!
2006-09-11 16:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You mean the finish line is the orgasm??? There is something wrong. Your man isn't pleasuring you enough to reach orgasm.
2006-09-11 16:12:57 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal. Most women cannot climax with penetration alone. Try using your fingers or a vibrator on yourself during sex, and see if that can bring you to climax.
2006-09-11 16:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry much that is totally normal. If you can't get there by having intercourse then incorporate some foreplay to get yourself there.
2006-09-11 16:09:56 · answer #10 · answered by rufnready 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋