My husband wants me to have a 3-some with him and another girl. What should i do?

Question

My husband wants me to have a 3- some with him and he said that i could find the girl and everything. He says that he wants to do it because we have done it before us with other people but never together. What should i do?

i am just afraid that he will enjoy the other woman more than me and i will get very pissed and god only knows what would happen!

Answer 1

If you're not comfortable, say no thanks -

What happens when he decides to like the "girl" more than you?

This is a common man's fantasy - like Nancy Reagan, just say NO.

Answer 2

Talk to him about your fears. All men have a fantasy about having a 3-some. But you need a VERY stable relationship with good communication for it to work. Otherwise it will cause everything to come crashing down.

The fact that you asking the internet what you should do, instead of talking to your husband, tells me that your relationship is not stable enough to survive a 3-some. The key is open communication,

Answer 3

THis is something that could be very dangerous, in some cases it is a way to stimulate a marriage in other cases it could open the door to something you may not want to happen. My sister agreed to it and over time she divorced her husband and married the other guy. So be prepared if your secure in your relationship then you should follow your heart.

Answer 4

RUN!!! You're about to give your husband permission to violate your marriage vows AND give goods away that don't belong to him. You're opening up Pandora's box here...issue after unforseen issue, and for what, a nut? You've got to be nuts if you think it's ok. Wake up and smell the coffee Boo and realize that either you deal with your husband and his uncontrollable lust or it will definitedly deal with you. If you say no, keep in mind that your hubby make go ahead and pursue extra marital relations anyway. Tread lightly and keep your head up. Walk in wisdom....

Answer 5

If you're not sure, don't proceed.

If you decide to go ahead with it, (1) make sure she's not a friend, because the friendship would end up ruined and neither of you need to continue to come in contact with this individual if it goes badly; and (2) make sure she's been tested for STDs and has paperwork proof that she doesn't have anything nasty.

Answer 6

Fantasies are nice if they keep being fantasies ....a 3 some could ruin your marriage......you can play games as playing imagine or get a doll or whatever trick you can dye your hair use different wigs shades and pretending you are someone else , but what he suggest is not healthy for a marriage

Answer 7

Are you a jealous lover? Do you get upset when you see your man talking to a woman you don't know, if so don't let him sleep with anyone if you want to stay together. It would be a hard image for me to get out of my head, my man doing someone else.

Answer 8

NEVER do anything for someone else that you are not TOTALLY comfortable with.....if you really don't want to...don't....marriage is for 2 people....he is sick for wanting 3.....sex should not be treated as casually as if he wanted to go get a burger with u and another woman.

Answer 9

Umm very big chance that the relationship/marriage will fall apart that's not a good sign that we wants one as well, that shows that we wants pleasures out side the intimacy you two have. I would not do it unless you want more drama and a divorce

Answer 10

If you don't want to just tell him no, he's your husband he should understand.. And if he brings up the past, tell him that it's in the past leave it there, you love him too much to watch him have sex with another woman, even if you are included...

Answer 11

If he already has a specific girl in mind, I would say no. If you and he find someone together, say at a swinger's club, then I would say if you want to, then go for it. If you don't feel comfortable than either way ..no.