I can't decide whether to stay with this person or not. We've been together for almost three months, but I feel it's really screwed up and I don't always tell them how I feel. To add to the craziness, we actually met in a mental hospital! She's very moody, like me...and is going through a lot of stuff right now. We're both rather suicidal and tend to get insecure quite often. I really don't know if this will ever work out. I feel like we have a connection, but I think sometimes it should have stayed platonic. Also, she lives really far away from me and doesn't have a car. She totaled it in a suicidal car crash...go figure. And I dread sex with her...even though I think she's seriously attractive, gorgeous, beautiful...
And I think my main issue is that I don't want to hurt her, and I'm afraid of being lonely. I think I'm just a loser who's using her to make myself feel better part of the time.
Give me any advice you have. I don't care how callous or sardonic it is.
2006-09-11 16:01:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How amusing, some of you assume I am a girl simply from my icon....If I am so crazy, wouldn't it be possible for me to use a girl's icon even if I am a man?
2006-09-11 16:31:04 · update #1
Sit down with your self and think it threw.
What are you ganing from y'alls relationship?
Is it going any where?
Does she make you happy?
Do you make her happy?
I say if you answer most questions with a "no" then its better to just break it off.
I did that with my ex-b/f and I feel better now.
I have also met someone alot better than my ex, and if I didn't break up with him I don't think I would have ever met the guy I'm currently with.
Like D.H.T. says in her song "listen to your heart before you tell him good bye"
2006-09-11 16:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by Requiem for Insanity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, maybe you shouldn't take the relationship so seriously. maybe it's not a committed relationship. more like an open relationship. you just don't need to tell her everything, especially if you want to start dating other people. good friends can have sex too. but since she lives so far away, aren't you lonely for more than half the time anyways? maybe it's better not to be in a relationship with this person. but only be friends with benefits or something like that.
2006-09-11 23:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by Pearlz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go.
You have to work on getting to know and accept yourself first before you can offer anyone else a part of you.
Take time to take care of yourself, grow mentally strong and improve yourself. You are worth the time and effort and you don't need a girlfriend to validate yourself. Learn to be happy with yourself first.
Sometimes circumstances occur for a reason, she lives far away and her car is broken. Maybe that's someone telling you to let go and move on.
2006-09-11 23:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu have a conscous. YOu will get over this, and so will she. YOu NUST look out for number one. After just three months, there is no committment, noi rings on fingers.
I applaud you for telling the truth.
Move on and tell her you wish her a wonderful life, but you must leave amnnd be out of a reltaionship. You can even say you aren't close to being ready.
2006-09-11 23:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
and i bet its not been a good 3 months from what you say, if you really truely feel the way you say you do then you should do what you know deep down you should do...go..if your not happy and it sounds like she has issues that she needs to get threw, then move on, let her sort threw it all, maybe at a later time you all can make it work, but for now sounds like you all need to go your seprate ways..life is to short to not to be happy..ppl break up everyday and find themselves alone, but they deal with it, and go on. i would rather be happy alone than be unhappy with someone i really dident want to be with. do some soul searching, and do what you think is best..good luck!!!
2006-09-11 23:16:39 · answer #5 · answered by countryrose24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, you can't get better with that type of company. you have to remember that to acheive total rehabilitation u must sever all ties to the past. my cousin recently died of a heroin overdose after he'd been sober 2 yrs. and that was because he went back to his old friends . even if u think you are recovered, u must never look back. you'll find someone who will love you when you are sober
2006-09-11 23:06:02 · answer #6 · answered by jellogiggle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like two nice girls who really telling each other that they are more dangerous and crazy than the other...lesbian love at young awkward stage is mixture for failure....a suicidal crash? whatthat about/ well if u r not gonna eat, neither am i type of idiodic getto love. let her go get a bf get a job get a life.
2006-09-11 23:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by Necat T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So, you have hormones, but she's bad karma for you.
My advice - if your gut tells you to go, go with your gut. It won't get easier to leave her as the relationship grows, and once you have a year or two invested, you won't want to leave because it will have grown on it's own.
2006-09-11 23:04:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
see if you can get help to get you 2 on the right track it may work out for you 2 good luck to both of you
2006-09-11 23:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, met in a mental hospital. I don't think there is anywhere good to go from there. Do you?
2006-09-11 23:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by medic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋