How can I gain my self esteem back after having a baby?
2006-09-11 15:59:30 · 11 answers · asked by silverice_20002000 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am a size five and I am still not happy with myself.
2006-09-11 16:04:35 · update #1
thank you all for your commints I really just have low self esteem and trying to get it back.
2006-09-11 16:33:04 · update #2
Read the book, "How to Feel Good Naked"
Weight and dress size aren't going to determine the love your husband has for you, the beauty you are, and the intelligent woman you have become. You have gone through hours of labor after MONTHS of carrying around a new life.
Learn how to feel good naked. It really is amazing. When you're naked, you can't hunch over and hide yourself. You'll look awful. Sit up straight, be proud, and admire what you see. This is who you are.
Buy something sexy. I'm a size 18. I used to be 14. I'm getting married in 4 weeks, and I look like a blimp. But you know what? This is who I am now. I have fat in places I never thought I would have it. I went on a diet that made me gain 15 pounds and blrew my blood pressure.
However, it's not about your size. Your "shell." You can help can gain your self-esteem by asking who you are trying to impress. Your husband? Your new baby? Strangers? Look at who you are impressing, and re-examine how important it is for __'s approval.
It may not hurt to go see a doctor--just to talk to. A person who will not judge you may be able to help you talk about your feelings more openly.
2006-09-11 16:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing why I cannot properly answer the question but here are some suggestions that I think may be the problem.
Join a play group.
Go out and about...show off your newborn.
Throw a party so everyone can see your child.
If you gained weight--take walks with your baby.
Play with your baby.
Bond with your baby.
That's all I can think of right now. You seem like you may have postpartum depression. While I cannot diagnose you--because I'm not a doctor--you should consult your doctor about the possibilities.
Oh for weight---I don't think a size five is anything to worry about. But like others have said--go to the gym. Join a yoga class or another class that you can socialize with people while you exercise. Good Luck.
2006-09-11 23:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A size 5?!?! OMG I would die to be a size 5!! That being said, I think your size is fine!
As far as your self esteem...try to take some time for yourself every day. Wear your favorite perfume, go to a hair salon and get a new do...pamper yourself once in a while!!
2006-09-11 23:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by my_lil_buttercups 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Lindsey. Your a size 5 (go mom!), do you know that your the envy of all new mommies? I was left at a size 10/11 after my 2nd child, I had to work out like a beast to get back to pre prego size...
2006-09-11 23:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of it depends on why you lost your self esteem. If it's a weight thing, time and exercise. However, you might want to talk to your doctor about possible depression.
2006-09-11 23:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by cwbystvrs_g_j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow a size 5 huh?
well be thankful you're only that. i mean im a size 16 and i dont have children yet how do you think i will feel when i have my child and extra weight?
i'll be fine with it, it may take a while to drop the weight but really should be paying attention to the child than your weight
2006-09-12 07:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jen L-Baby #1 due Nov 15, 2010 ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advice I can give is the advice I got. You just had a baby, to some one that makes you the most beautiful person in the world. Remember that.
2006-09-12 03:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to look at all the gifts God gave you and try to enjoy them. Eat healthy, exersize, play with your baby, get out. Your baby will grow fast, don't waste your time making yourself feel guilty. Enjoy that baby, so you don't regret the time you missed.
2006-09-11 23:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the gym! I can tell you from experience! Also your husband will LOVE IT! I have been going since my last was 3 weeks old, I have a body I LOVE and I have never felt better about myself! (or looked better!)
2006-09-11 23:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by mom_of_4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you find out, let me know. With my 8 year old, it took me 7 years....
2006-09-12 01:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by Deirdre S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋