Right now I'm an A student, I have a part time job, I buy ALL my own stuff and I'm gonna start my Gradutate Studies at Berkeley next week in Sociology.
It seems like the only person they care about is my autistic brother. I've tried to get their attention by being a good son but apparently it's not enough. I've been considering an overdose or cutting myself or a combination but I can't decide what to do.
I don't know who I hate more, my parents or my brother, but I'd like to get a little more recognition than the 1 call a week and the 6000 dollar check they send me every month. They SAY they love me but they dont' really show it.
What I really need from them is a newer car. Mine's a 2004.
Any ideas on how I can get their attention?
2006-09-11 15:48:50 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
WOAH!!! I never said ANYTHING about suicide. I don't want to KILL myself. Jeez. Relax people.
2006-09-14 21:06:44 · update #1
You are going to start Graduate Studies. That's terrific. Guess empathy and compassion hasn't been part of your curriculum yet. You have an autistic brother and parents who have the grief of trying to keep him connected with the world. Try to see things through their eyes. They have one son who is not only functional but is excelling, and another that is in desperate need. What would you have them do ? Have you told them that you feel unloved ? Would 3 calls a week make you happy ? Or perhaps once a day ? If you miss them how about you making a call each day. Do you love them ?? How do YOU show your love ?
2006-09-11 16:05:37 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah D 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Can you say spoiled???
I was an A student, I worked part time, I bought my own car, and almost 10 years later I'm still paying for my college, by myself.
You need to grow up and realize that no one owes you anything, especially your parents. They've given you a home, and food, and clothes your whole life, and now they are giving you $6000 a month??? My parents don't even make that much in a month.
Go ahead and hurt yourself, that will get their attention. Hopefully they will stick you in a mental hospital and you will lose out on going to Berkeley and your life will completely fall apart and then you will see how good you really had it.
It sounds to me like you are jealous of your autistic brother. Why do you hate him? Because he has special needs and gets a little more attention?? Grow up!!! Think about all the things that you'll get to do in life that he wont!!
Stop being a big baby.
You're car is a 2004??? I work full time and have for 6 years and I can only afford a 2001... must be nice to have mommy and daddy give you everything on a silver platter.
2006-09-12 00:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by rccola1979 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seriously? Since you're competing with an autistic (handicapped) brother, why not crash your 2004 car into a lamp post or something. Maybe you'll get paralyzed or maybe brain damaged. Then you'll have their 100 percent attention they can take care of you 24/7, you'll be so inseparable, they wont have to send you 6000 a month. BTW, was this before or after you divorced your wife and asked for her BREAST ENHANCEMENTS. Oh yeah, you're a dad right? coz apparently, your other posts sez that you caught your teenage daughter doing something she shouldnt be doing. Get a life! Cutting, suicide, and autism isn't something to joke about.
2006-09-11 22:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by blued79 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I was with you until you said, "what I really need is a new car, mines a 2004." That's BS.
Why don't you try and appreciate the fact that your parents are sending you to Berkley? Jeezz.
You have a normal life, your brother has autism, grow up...
Mommy and Daddy are a little preoccupied and probably feel you can take care of yourself. Maybe you should spend more time with your family and especially your brother.
2006-09-11 22:53:38 · answer #4 · answered by mrcatphish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and check in with mental services at your school. You need some serious help. Take this post with you shen you go. Threatening harming yourself is an automatic 72 hours in the phsych ward of a hospital. You don't get the things you want by making threats or threats to harm yourself.
Your obviously a good student so don't do something stupid that is going to affect the rest of your life when you're out of school.
2006-09-12 13:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that it's prob. been hard having an autistic bro and feeling like you're not getting attention. YOUR PARENTS LOVE YOU!
They are sending you to Berkeley, you get $6,000 a month and have a car that is only 2 years old. They love you and prob. feel that buying you things is showing it. You have become a spoiled person. You should try talking them and telling them you need some attention and then you should grow up.
2006-09-12 06:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by danigrl1212 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you want love and attention---and a car? I suggest get your own car and cut off all communications with them. It's sounds harsh but maybe they resent you for only using them for their money. Do you call them? Do you visit? Maybe if you got a job they might think of you differently. I'm sorry they seem to only care about your autistic brother, they probably don't realize they are doing it. If you really wanted to commit suicide you would have done it--don't do it. Talk to them first, explain the situation. Best of luck to you!
2006-09-11 22:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hurting yourself would get their attention, but it's a cowardly thing to do. I am sure they are very proud of you and care about you very much, but they probably think you are doing well on your own. How about just telling them that you want to have a closer relationship with them? As for the car, I think that sounds awfully materialistic. You say you want love but then you say "What I really need from them is a newer car." A new car isn't love, which do you really want?
2006-09-11 22:54:05 · answer #8 · answered by S. O. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a foster parent and I have had a few autistic children in my care actually I have one right now and believe me it can be very stressful and time consuming. It is by far one of the hardest things a person has to deal with. What I don't understand is at your age why you can't see how hard it is and why you feel your parents don't love you. I can assure you that they do but they have to spend all their time with your brother. Put yourself in their shoes for a day and see how you feel. You can't blame your brother it isn't his fault he was born this way. I suggest you give your parents a break and spend some time with your brother and let you parents have a few hours to themselves. Talk to them and let them know how you feel instead adding to their stress by trying to hurt yourself.
2006-09-11 22:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same here. You had me til the car thing.
I would say if their attention is really what you want, than you need to tell them how you feel.
If all you want is the car...than what you really expressed above is a lie and they seem to be giving you a lot.
You shouldn't be mad at your brother he didn't do anything. I can understand being upset, but you can't blame him. If your parents are ignorning you, than that's their problem and you need to tell them.
Hurting yourself isn't a good idea.
2006-09-11 23:00:20 · answer #10 · answered by Mekayla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋