One of my bestfriends is 15, and today she came to me and she said she was going to try to get pregnant. She lives in a broken home with an abusive father, he beats on her for doing little things, like not wearing her hair a certain way. Now shes trying to get pregnant and I don't want anything bad to happen to her. She even told me that she was only trying to get pregnant to piss her dad off.
I'm trying to stop her from making a bad decision..having a baby not out of love..but for all the wrong reasons..and from possibly making her life worse than it is..
What should I do..? Should I just get out of her business..Or try to convince her that having a baby at such a young age isn't a good idea?
2006-09-11 15:48:03 · 44 answers · asked by Ckarri` 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your friend is trying to find love that she obviously never had at home, which is so very sad.
Having a baby wont help her situation and will most likely make it worse. If I were you I would really try and talk her out of it, she WILL regret having a baby so young, and will sadly probably repeat the circle of violence with her own child.
I really wish you and your friend the best of luck
2006-09-11 15:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by li li 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have a serious talk with her and explain that having a child just to piss off her father will only make things worse. Would she want the abuse she gets from her father to pass to her child when it's born? She needs to report any abuse to authorities and do what she can to get out of there.. But she shouldn't get pregnant. That is NOT the answer and it will only end up ruining her life.
2006-09-11 15:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by Monkeybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to stop being selfish. why would she want to bring a child in to the world she obviously cannot care for? She needs to focus on getting out of her abusive home and finding a better way to find enrich her life. focus on school, get a aprt time job, do some charity work but dont have a baby because she doesnt like her situation. she'll only ruin her life and that innocent baby's.
2006-09-11 16:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by Kay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to help her . Keep talking to her. Try to get her to talk to an adult who can help ie counselor or a church person. I know many times teens do not want to involve adults but they can help. Just keep telling her how a baby would make more problems and sadness right now, She needs love and a good friend like you. Also maybe get her a kitten or a puppy there is some unconditional love for ya.
2006-09-11 15:55:04 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer is that if you r her friend then tell he she is crazy. tell her all the things she is going to miss and how hard it is to raise a child, there are many easier ways to get away from a situation like hers than to take that path i did it when i was 15 and have been doing it on my own since then and let me tell you its a bad choice. show her the answers you get on here and i would bet that the majority are against it.
Let her know that raising a child as one is the most difficult thing to do under the best of conditions doing it like that is almost impossible.
You really should try to convince her believe me i know.
2006-09-11 16:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by jen k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she obviously wants to be talked out of it. She would not have come to you if she didn't. I think that you should get an adult involved. Like maybe your mom, or a school teacher or a pastor. Your friend obviously has some problems and having a baby will not solve them, it will just create more for her. And a poor, innocent baby is not an instrument of revenge.
Try to help her quickly. If she wanted you to mind your own business, she wouldn't have told you.
2006-09-11 15:51:42 · answer #6 · answered by tmreiber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a friend i think that it is important that you try to help her see the risks about getting pregnant. tell her to think about her future and the amount of money it would cost, the safety of the baby in a home where her father beats her and could beat the baby, the risks to her health, the change it would make on her life and the things she would not be able to do anymore.
you know, if she has her mind made up you arent going to be able to do much to stop her so dont blame yourself, but also be careful not to get in too deep and get yourself in trouble. good luck! if you are close to your parents you could talk to them and see what they say and try to get some other people involved who could help keep her safe.
2006-09-11 15:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by nurse L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call social services, and see if she can visit some "homes for unwed mothers" and other "real life" situations. Maybe you can have the school run one of those classes where you get the electrnic baby who keeps crying, so that she understands it's not a doll, or a short time fun thing.
2006-09-11 15:50:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the National Child Abuse Hotline, first off.
"Childhelp® is a national organization that provides crisis assistance and other counseling and referral services. The Childhelp® National Child Abuse Hotline is staffed 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, with professional crisis counselors who have access to a database of 55,000 emergency, social service, and support resources. All calls are anonymous. Contact them at 1.800.4.A.CHILD. (1.800.422.4453)"
Also, she desperately needs counseling and so does her father, though jail might be more appropriate for him.
2006-09-11 15:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by answersBeta2.1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her having a baby just to piss her dad off is the wrong reason to bring a child into this world. Your friend needs to find another way to deal with her anger towards her father. Tell her to seek counseling.
2006-09-11 15:52:15 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋