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This is not just some teenage stage that Im going through, this is deep seeded that I have burried for a lot of years, is it wrong?

2006-09-11 15:36:03 · 28 answers · asked by James 2 in Family & Relationships Family

I dont want to say hate, i just dont want to even live in the same house, i cant stand it, she loves my little brother and shows it but she doesnt even notice me unless she needs something done. she lets him do whatever he wants, but as soon as i try, i get shot down and i cant stand it

2006-09-11 15:41:21 · update #1

28 answers

The fact that it hurts you that she shows you no affection is a sign in it self that you love her but as you say she gives you no reason to feel close other than the bond you share as mother and child . In my opinion show her respect and loyalty but be your own person you cant help the way she is anymore than she can help how you are . In time she may see that her love needs to be even through out her family . be strong and smile when you can .

2006-09-12 01:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by slick 4 · 0 0

You know, you really don't get to choose your family. The same personality conflicts you have with co-workers and friends are human! You'll have those same feelings towards people in your family from time to time. The only difference is they're family and you don't get another mother. :( Just do like the other answers say, and out of a respect or appreciation for raising you, do respect her, but you don't have to be a part of her life after 18. A phone call once or twice a year would be nice, but it's your life and you get to choose how interactive you want to be.

2006-09-11 22:43:14 · answer #2 · answered by hennahair72 3 · 0 0

Not if being around her makes you feel bad and unhappy. I have never got along with my mother and we haven't talked in the past 7 years and I don't have any regrets. I don't really know her because we've had an off and on relationship for so long that she's been out of my life longer than she was ever in it. I don't really have any feelings for her. She got pregnant with me when she was 16 and I think there was a resentment toward me that she tried to hide (not well). She pretty much grew up as I did and although I know it was hard for her we never really had a bond. It depends on the situation.

2006-09-11 22:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by twest 3 · 0 0

Its not wrong to feel that way. It is possible to not like someone but you love them. There is a reason why you don't like her and it could be her ways that you don't like so you don't have to like her but please don't disrespect her and try to talk to her about what it is that you don't like about her. Also try to find some things about her that you do like and work on building a better relationship on the likes instead of the dislikes. Just because she is the adult and you are the child don't expect her to make the first move for the relationship to work, in the real world it does not always work that way. It is hard to read what your children are thinking about you these days.So un bury that seed so that you can feel better. Embedding ill feelings about someone else only makes you feel bad not the other person because sometimes they don't even know you feel that way about them. But you are not wrong about your feelings. Just get rid of them for your own sake.

2006-09-11 22:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by country girl 2 · 0 0

no this isn't wrong alot of people feel that way look at slim shady he made a song about his. I think it's the things you go threw while you were little and it still lives in you today. my mother left me at 3 with my grandma and never came back she been missing for 20 years you think i'm going to look for her HELL naw she left me i waas just a baby. Mothers do sh*t like get on drugs, let there children get abused and taken by welfare. Things that could be prevented. They just get so caught up in men until they firget about there children and thats why they are hated.

2006-09-11 22:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by cupcake 3 · 0 0

First of all, you need to come to terms with why you have these feelings for your mother and try to work them out with her. I don't know if you are a Christian or not, but the Bible says to Honor Thy Mother and Thy Father. That is actually one of the Ten Commandments. It would be a shame for you to not have a good relationship with your mom. I am sure she loves you a lot and she would want to know how you feel.

2006-09-11 22:40:07 · answer #6 · answered by Marcy T 2 · 0 0

I don't think it is wrong to not like your mother, but I'm not too sure about your reasons. Remember, that you are older and should be taking on more responsibilities than younger siblings. Your mother may be just trying to help you grow up and be more independent. Have you talked to your mother about how you feel? She may have no idea how much she is hurting you or taking advantage of you.

2006-09-11 23:04:29 · answer #7 · answered by Monica R 2 · 0 0

it depends on your situation with your mother . my mother ran me into dept stole from me and alot of other things. That after a while you have to ask yourself is it worth it to put your self through the emotional roller coaster to keep them happy, or is your happiness more important. Its ok to not love her you didn't ask to have her as a mother . just don't do anything crazy soon one day you can move out and not have to see her ever again .

2006-09-11 22:43:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

No, i dont beleive its wrong, the older we get, the more we realize our mothers or fathers arent the most wonderful people in the world and we see things in them that we dont like to see. I have that with my mother but i still love her, i just dont like her sometimes.

2006-09-11 22:38:45 · answer #9 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 1 0

No it's not wrong. Especially if your mother is a genuinly bad person (like mine) Me and my sister are older and now take care of ourselves but as far as my little bro & sis, they have to put up w/ her for the next few years and I feel for them.

2006-09-11 22:40:00 · answer #10 · answered by Maria 2 · 0 0

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