I think my niece has a learning disorder but her mother won't hear me out should I butt out?

Question

I posted on here a little while ago to get song of the signs of Dyslexia. I think my niece has a learning disorder and I called my sister with some of the findings and she completely attacked me, accused me of calling her a bad mother and told me that she'll do what she wants with her child. I'm very worried about my niece, she's 10 and still in the third grade, she is really delayed in reading and in math and I feel like I am the only one screaming at the top of my lngs that something isn't right and that she needs some help but everyone seems to just blow me off. I asked my mom, I'm only 17, to maybe go up to the school and she kept saying "It' not my place" she was my last hope to help my niece and I feel so helpless, I have just finished crying from frustration. I love my niece, she is usually pushed into the cornersince her two oldest siblings have Add/Adhd and her little sister is just 2, I understand my sister has her hands full and I would never call her a bad mother, maybe I

came on too strong but if you look at my last question instead of helping my niece she and the rest of the kids, along with her husband make fun of her. I really think once we find out whats wrong everything will be better. But my sister will not listen to me. Can anyone suggest anything, should I really just butt out even if I'm the only one really trying to help her out? It doesn't sit well with me to just leave her "Stranded" by herself. Is it not my place? I'm calling out to all parents out there. Would you have this response?

Answer 1

Will your sister let you have time with your niece one on one? if so try to see if she has different learning styles that you can help her with. I agree that your sister has issues of her own and that she is a mess. But she does not need to ruin your nieces chances. Maybe you could talk to her teacher yourself and tell her what you have noticed and see if she has any ideas too. I would tell the teacher that your sis is not big on the idea of a learning disorder, but you would still like to help your niece.

Answer 2

Her mother is being selfish and defensive, maybe because she has a lot on her hands or doesn't want to accept the truth. In any case, someone from the school will want to know more, maybe take your niece to the counselor or something like that. Anyway, you've done all you can and like your mother says it's not your place anymore. Just let things play out, hopefully your niece is just a late bloomer.

Answer 3

It is really hard to stand back but that is what you have to do! make up with your sister ,say your sorry she miss understood you and offer to maybe spend time with your niece to help the family ,the best thing you can do is be a Friend to your niece ,she will gain self confidence from that and be in a better state to get help for herself. your sister it taking it personally and that is stopping her from seeing clearly but that may change in the future ,right now you cant make it change.

Answer 4

Work with your niece and try to help her. You are still in school and have plenty of education to help her. I would talk to the school counselor or have your niece talk with her. The school may have special education classes to help her along. Encourage your niece that its okay that she has a learning disability to seek help and its okay. Good Luck

Answer 5

If sister doesn't want to hear you, she isn't going to.

You may well be right. Look up whatever you can to encourage your niece. She's ten, you're seventeen? You are so cool to this little girl, I bet she'd love to have your attention. And it you drop the subject, your sister will probably appreciate the help.

Answer 6

You are old enough to go to her school yourself and ask a few questions.Don't be afraid to try to help,you are doing your niece a favor by standing up for her.Millions of people have learning disorders,and it doesn't mean that they're dumb.


Now, will you answer my question too, please?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AtSQy_mVn7DCWbXLMLxgDRLsy6IX?qid=20060911151746AAaYpYp

Answer 7

Unfortunately if your sister can't look past her own selfish ignorance and guilt about your neices intellect, you can't do anything. Typically people with dyslexia are rather good at mathematics though. It's quite possible that your neice is just slow and in that case there's nothing you can do for her except hope she doesn't breed.