How come pretty people always marry pretty people?

Question

I mean it's what's inside that counts right? Rarely do you see an ugly with a pretty. In a world created by God, this seems kind of irrational. Turns out, it doesn't matter what's inside if you're ugly. People judge you based on looks. Ugly people get screwed no matter what's on the inside. Do you think God would make a world like this? I think science and evolution explain people being mean to others a lot better than the Bible does.

I got a thumbs down! Oh no. =(

Also, I don't think I'm ugly lol, but wouldn't an ugly person say that?

Answer 1

I've dated alot of pretty girls. Everyone treats them very well, so they never have to go through self doubt, feelings of rejection etc.

The result is they remain immature throughout most of their adult lives.

I married a girl who had polio when she was young, it tore her up good, but she'd pass as average.

That tough experience in her childhood formed her into a precious jewel of a woman. I'm going to love her 'til the day I die.

Answer 2

Your premise is false. There are large numbers of ugly men or women married to very attractive people.

If more people were smarter this would be even more true.

The reason too many do it that way is because everyone wants to marry an attractive person. The dumber people are, the more likely this is to happen.

Well, obviously, a pretty woman if she is not too smart will want to marry a handsome man rather than a good man, and the handsome man if he is not too smart will want to marry a pretty woman rather than a good woman. So, in a lot of cases, there will be attractive with attractive.

A buddy of mine married first a really pretty, sexy woman. She was also the best lover he ever had. The problem is, he couldn't stand to live with her the rest of the time, and you really can't ***** all day and night no matter what your fantasies might be.

They divorced. His second wife was somewhat plain, and not as good a lover, but she did get the job done, heh, heh.

They have been married and contentedly so, for over 30 years.

I have never been accused of being handsome. My wife was not only very attractive when she was young, but at age 64, she is still one of the most attractive women of her age I know. And, her shape is somewhat like a woman's shape, not the shape of a hippo like too many women in their 60's. Even at her age, the old guys in our retirement park really look at her when she is out and about. And, if you look at what they are married to, you can understand why. Blecchhh!

So, why did she marry me? She was divorced from a handsome but terrible man, and I was a great dad to her daughter! Hey, I am well aware of this, but her daughter is the best daughter in the world, so I don't mind.

Remember the old saying: Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly goes all the way through. (Just kidding. )

Edit: after reading the other answers, there is actually a great advantage to being ugly. Most uglies are forced to marry good mates instead of attractive mates. So, the uglies probably have most of the good marriages.

Answer 3

well first of all, it never has been what's inside that counts especially when it comes to women. A woman would rather have a rich ugly man, than a poor handsome man. Men are more on looks than women. You will hardly ever see a ugly woman with a handsome man. You will never see a sitcom where the man is very handsome and the woman is fat and/or ugly. Second looks might not be the only thing, but it is the first thing.

Answer 4

Why when things are unfair, do people question God? I don't get it. Life is just life; some people are nicer looking than others. Do you know, I've known some really handsome men that I wouldn't give the time of day to? They were conceited and self absorbed. It's not all it's cracked up to be. You might not be handsome, but a person without drop dead looks can do a lot to help their appearance. Cleanliness, neatness, kindness, a nice personality, you think that's useless? Not in the long run it isn't!

Answer 5

instinctively, men go for pretty women. to be more accurate, men tend to go for women who exhibit the female attributes more. for a long time, people thought that men go for pretty faces, attractive busts and nice behind simply out of carnal nature. these features, however, are brought out by the female hormone estrogen. and the higher the estrogen level, the more 'womanly' she looks and the greater the chance that she will produce and rear an offspring successfully. subconsciously, this is what the man sees in a pretty or attractive woman. at the end of the day, it is man's need to procreate that defines his choice for a partner, physiologically speaking of course. on the female's part, the manly attributes they (normally) find attractive in men indicate healthy genes that will be passed on to their offspring and the capacity to provide (food); again, the desire to procreate. this is true not only for man but for animals as well.

what separates man from animals is the consideration of a person's other needs such as emotional support, psychological compatibility, social norms, etc. that becomes additional criteria for selecting a partner.

as regards ugly people getting the shorter end of the stick all the time, how about defining 'ugly' for me? different races and different cultures have their own standards for what's beautiful. have you seen supermodels? do you think they are all pretty? definitely not! i've even seen some that can be described as horrendous where i come from. but that's not how others see it. at the end of the day, it's still 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder'.

no matter what you think, God is in control of everything and he loves all people the same way. in contrast, science and evolution reduces people to numbers and statistics. your choice what to believe.

Answer 6

Well if someone marries a man or woman because of their looks well that marriage is bound to be doomed right from the start. Looks are going to fade. Everyone gets old. That is a fact of life. The heart is the only thing that can stay young it just depends on the person and the type of life they live.

Answer 7

Ummm......Never really looked at it this way before. I think alot of attraction has to do with ones own preference. I mean the first thing I look for in a person is their smile and then their eyes. People are too vain on their looks anymore. People would be so much prettier inside and out, if they would just be polite and smile.

Answer 8

Once, on a show like "20/20" or "Dateline", I saw a segment about just this thing. It showed a study that was done where it was proven that people are drawn to others who are of similar "levels" of "good looks".

It also said that if people went "outside" their "level", (married a prettier person than themselves, or vice versa) the relationships may work, but they worked out "better" if people were closer in type than not, there was much less insecurity involved.

Answer 9

Well, with that kind of attitude (I'm guessing you think you're ugly...), no wonder one wouldn't get a woman. I'm not exactly the model type either, but you've got to make people understand that you don't care what they think of you, in any aspect of your personality. It shows confidence. Sometimes girls like that a lot better than looks.

Answer 10

I think most pretty peole are pretty because they are so concious about the way they look and thus prioritize their physical attractiveness. Being pretty takes a lot of effort: makeup, accessories, outfit coordination. So, naturally, pretty people will want pretty people to hang around. Plus, they'll have the same superficial interests! In my view, any person can become a pretty person with the right guidance and effort, it just depends on what you yourself value.

Answer 11

How do you explain Billy Joel and Cindy Crawford? Billy Joel is an ugly scab, but Cindy is uber hot. Prince Charles and Lady Di? Brad Pitt and Angela Jolie? George and Laura Bush?