okay, my parents make me buy everything buy myself! if i want a water cuz i'm dying of thirst they make me pay them back. if it is something so little i have to pay for it, even, food, clothes, school supplies, everything! with my own money and i never get money!!!!!!!!is my parents punishinging me. sometimes i will steal money from my dad but it would just have been the same if he gave it to me, besides i am making up from those 13 years i've lived without a single penny.
2006-09-11 15:20:24 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
also if i want to buy something for my friends birthdfay, i have to pay 4 it 2
2006-09-11 15:22:14 · update #1
This sounds a little fishy to me that a 13 yr old with no income would be expected to pay for food, clothes and school supplies. If this was the case you wouldn't be alive from lack of food. I can understand being made to pay for extra things you want and don't need but basic necessities and school supplies sounds a little out there
2006-09-11 15:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well,
First off, you sort of answered your own question here by saying: "sometimes i will steal money from my dad"
Rule #1: Never steal.
Rule #2: Rules #1 should never be broken.
I am 16 and when I was 13 I never got money from my parents either unless I asked. It is their responsibility to provide me with food and shelter. The Government pays for you. Now I have a job and I earn my own money... it's been a year and I haven't asked my parents for a single dollar. In fact I hand some over when they might need change etc.
And honestly, please don't think I'm being rude but you're lucky you have what you have - it can always be worse. You never know. If you want water - then drink water.
Having said that, if all you say is true than I'm a tad bit concerned for your parents for not paying for your 'school supplies'. Clothes, food and personal stuff are fine - if they hand you a bill or two each month - that should do you fine. But supplies, that must cost about $100 and I wouldn't expect any 13-year-old to buy that.
Talk to your parents. I know, you're probably shaking your head right now and maybe even swearing but try - that should never kill. You don't have to talk just make sure you're not whinning in the end...
Stay safe. - Maryam
2006-09-11 22:39:04 · answer #2 · answered by piercing integrity 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After reading some of Your other questions, I am convinced You are Young, but I am also worried that You do not have anyone that You can ask all of these personal questions to. Does Your Mom work? Perhaps Your Family is really struggling with finances right now. Does Your Mom and Dad work? Any other Children at home? Having to pay for things will teach You to be responsible, but apparently it is also teaching You to steal. If Your Dad never has much money, then chances are He is going to know that money is missing, and even if He has a lot in there. Either way it is wrong, and like the old saying two wrongs do not a right make. So yes it sounds strict, unless there are real money problems. You need to sit Them down and talk to Them, if that is possible, and tell Them how You feel. Maybe You could get a small job that would give You extra money, that is if You would be allowed to keep it. Then again if Your Family needs help, maybe You could ask how You could help out. My big concern is that You don't have anyone to talk to about personal matters with.
God Bless
2006-09-11 23:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds to me like these parents may do like many parents do with allowance. The allowance can be quite large and is for them to buy all their clothes, lunches, a water, etc. Pretty much all their needs. The child is then responsible for saving the money and buying what they need, not what they want. If they blow it on unnecessary garbage then they can't get things they really need which is a great lesson to teach.
Story does sound slightly fishy though.
At 13 don't get caught stealing, they may teach you that lesson the hard way, like a trip to the police station.
2006-09-12 13:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're too young to work i'm assuming they give you an allowance. They may be trying to teach you the value of money, but it's a wierd way to go about it. You should be buying yourself little things you like that your parents won't get for you not your own clothes and food at 13.
Also STOP STEALING your father's money there is no excuse for that behavior.
2006-09-11 22:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by solgiver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amanda,
I want to say that you parents are just trying to make you pay your own way. Not just pay your own way with school, water, food, etc. "but" there's a lesson to be learned! It is showing you that life is not easy, and in life you have to buy/purchase everything. There's no free rides (not even at home). I don't know if it is really mean of them, 'cause I don't want to say that they are being mean; I don't know them well enough to say that. However; I do believe that they are trying to show you a lesson, which is a lesson in life! At least you are receiving something.... so parents don't even pass that down!
Just think about the above, k?
2006-09-11 22:33:33 · answer #6 · answered by David R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a parent of two children. When they are old enough to work and want to buy extra things like game systems or stuff like that or even extra clothing that is not necessary, they can use their own money. I have to say and some may not agree with me, but parents bring children into the world, children did not ask to be born. It is our duty as parents to shelter, feed, cloth, send to school and above all else love our children.
2006-09-11 22:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the U.S. this is child abuse and neglect. You can call the police and report it or call family or youth services listed in the front of a phone book. Get some help for yourself and your parents. You don't have to live like this. You can dial 0 on the phone and tell the operator if you are in trouble and they will connect you to the appropriate people. Good luck!
2006-09-11 23:06:04 · answer #8 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are if you are 16 or older then yes you should be happy because when you go out into the world you won't careless send your money but if your younger then 13 it not right. Good luck and I wish you well
2006-09-11 23:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by randrnorman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand I am twenty eight, but my mom whould make me do this. It was a very bad practice.
She would make me srub the baseboards for 25 cents. I had to do all the house work. I had to do the laundry buy my own clothing, and cook. I know this really happens and believe you!
2006-09-11 22:39:37 · answer #10 · answered by rebeccalynn_dj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋