I love my kids, but Ive never experienced life w/out tons of responsibilty, I even had to be strong as a teen becuz of my alcoholic mother.
2006-09-11 14:56:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-09-11 14:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by mikebrennan_us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi haysforhorses. Wow. A double whammy. I am so sorry. Let me give you a long hug. I really do understand. First of all, growing up in the dark world of having alcoholism in the family is hard enough. That's a terrible way to grow up! And then having kids is hectic at best and it can really wear you out. It can make you feel like half a person. I really understand. You are doing the right thing to realize that these two things are a lot for anyone to carry. You need support. You need understanding. You need good counseling from people you can trust. You will be fine, but make a plan. A real plan. How are you going to help yourself find the support you need in this situation. Help with the kids. Time to breath. A chance to think. What do you need to make those things happen?
2006-09-11 22:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, not me, I had parents I had to run from! At 18 I was married, at 19 I was pregnant.
I made my husband continue school. Mostly because if he did, Veterans sent a check to cover the tuition every month...we, lived off that check.
Then My husband got a real good job, we saved like mad. In 1973 we bought a dumpy run down house. It was a two family that had been on the marked for ever because it was a dump!
We moved in one side of this filthy house, and got pregnant accidentally again! Over the course of 10 more years we saved like crazy and finally 1/2 fixed up the house.
The two kids were in school, and I worked part time and took classes part time.
When I was 40, my daughter was 20 and my son was 15.
I was in school with them, we all have our degrees, almost together.
Now I have My 32 year old daughter, with 3 great kids, she is a nurse my 26 year old son,He is an electrician. My husband...well he is gone because I am too driven...But his education, and current financial condition are due to my drive, SO?????
I am still young enough to play with the grand kids,travel, work, I have a lot to be thankful about, but mostly, being young enough to really enjoy my kids, grand kids, and life in general! Oh yeah, 30 years later I am still chipping away at this old house!
2006-09-11 22:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by bugsie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm... boohoo?
Not to be too blunt but: Get over it. You can't have the past back, so why try to live there? Look at your present and live it to the fullest, otherwise you'll regret it when your kids are gone.
Too many people sit back thinking of what the could've done before they got strapped with responsibility when they could be enjoying their present lives. It's a sad waste of time. So, get it out of your system now.
2006-09-11 22:01:15 · answer #4 · answered by timtheenchanter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your day is going to come...be patient as best you can, and know that you're special, and that eventually, it's going to be all about you. When that last one gets into Kindergarten, enroll in some classes, take a dance class, take pottery, explore your interests. Meanwhile, each and every day, get up, shower, dress, put on your make-up, and do something other than stay in the house. Get childcare on occasion and go on a 'girl's night out'...just to a chickflick or something...don't go getting into trouble..lol!
2006-09-11 22:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by maynerdswife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MEMEMEMEMEMEMEMEME!
After raising 2 children I can honestly say, if I knew then what I know now, there would never have been any children.
I love my children with all my heart but I HATED motherhood!
Everything I did and everything I didn't do was for my kids and I cheated myself out of alot.
2006-09-11 22:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by Cookie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why I waited till I was 30 and did everything I wanted to do, because that is something I hear quite alot. You are not alone.
2006-09-11 21:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by beachdiva954 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't change my children for the world, just would've waited an extra ten years or so.
2006-09-11 22:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by breaker_1020 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a majority of parents
2006-09-11 21:59:33 · answer #9 · answered by cuteGIRL01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not me, though I did have several in-family, free babysitters. Be strong - you will survive.
2006-09-11 22:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish sumtimes that i could have the exact same child but ten years later
2006-09-11 21:59:04 · answer #11 · answered by icantbelievehowbadmylifesucks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋