I absoloutely hate it. Everybody is SO immature! The girls are always saying "like" and the guys are all jerks. And there is SO much labeling. I seriously don't know how I'm going to get through the rest. I'm in my 8th grade year, and it's only the third week. I even hate lunch. Now THAT'S strange. I desperately need tips. I'm already at my wits end! And all my good friends just turn on me, and in about half my classes, I have no friends, so I just sit there abd feel all self concious. I feel like I'm more mature than everybody else... (not in a mean way, just being honest) and I don't know what to do. I LOVE my home life, that may be why it's so hard to go to school everyday. I'm a family person all the way. I'm pretty social and make my friends laugh, but I still HATE middle school! I only really have a few friends. And they're not even close. Everyday, I get shoved in the halls, and have to look a preps and emos! AH! HELP!
2006-09-11 14:51:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
here's my advice:
1st, make sure YOU are the kind of person u want as ur friends. so, make sure u take care of urself, ur attitudes, the way u think, the way u judge, or don't judge, others; take care of YOUR responsibilites and actions and reactions to situations; be as open minded as possible, be willing to Learn, and strive to be a Good Person, and Good woman, someone to be admired and trusted and well-liked. so that may also mean u gotta take care of ur Appearance and ur Knowledge, so that u Feel Good, Look Good, and Understand many things, in order to build that confidence in urself.
2nd, i think the more u are happy and positive in ur life, the more attractive u are to others. in a Good way; when u are positive, u attract positive people to you. when u are negative, u kinda attract negative, or "bad" people to you. so while u are working on urself, u are actually working on ur ability to maintain and make Good relationships, with Positive people; because u are feeling confident and happy, u will be able to see, and filter out, the negative ones. stay close to Good, Healthy, Happy people, and stay away from the Mean, Negative ones.... ones that don't prove they are good friends, ones who backstab you. the thing is, the stronger and confident u are in urself, the more likely u can "bounce back" from someone who DOES backstab you; think of it this way, u were the "good friend", and that person treated you badly. therefore, who is wrong? not you. and that knowledge will keep you Strong, and Learn from your mistakes, and keep distance between that person and yourself.
so, long story short, work on yourself, continuously learn and grow, keeping an open mind, and u will be the kind of person OTHERS WANT to be friends with.... and u will be able to "pick and choose" who is a great person to be in ur life, and who needs to change in order to fit in w/ a Healthy, Positive Lifestyle. good luck! :)
2006-09-14 07:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bet this won't help much, but with help from the "misery loves company" catagory, nine people out of ten, age 13 to 99, will tell you they still remember eighth grade as one of the most miserable years of their lives. I've been teaching eighth grade for 25 years, and especially because you are a girl, you are right to feel ready to move on, and more mature than others. Especially at your age, girls are pulling way ahead, mentally and physically, of boys in particular and probably many of the girls as well, especially if the women in your family tend to be what is called "early bloomers". This means that maturaton is largely genetic..inherited, like height and eye color.
So you are not alone, by any means. The only comfort then is that you will join millions of others and get to high school and say to yourself, "Thank God that's behind me!" Try to be patient, take comfort in your great homelife, and keep looking for a soul mate you can complain to. She's there somewhere.
2006-09-11 22:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by David S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats middle school for you and even high school in most cases. However if you hate school that much maybe you could try to talk to your parents and get homeschooling. If your parents are not willing to go for that, you could try to talk to your guidance counselor at school and see if she can help talk to your parents and come up with a solution that works for everyone.
Other wise I suggest you just try to make some new friends to talk to and hang out with at school. Im sure there are at least a few if not more people there that share the same interests that you do. You just have to take the time to get to know people and let them get to know you. Some times people aren't always what they appear to be.
It's only the 3rd week of school there you said. So keep your head up and dont let anyone get to you. You could try to change your schedule around a bit if its not too late to do so. Good Luck!
2006-09-11 22:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in thee same boat as most of your classmates.. They just won't admit it. 8th grade is one of the toughest. Are you still a kid, a teen, a young adult? Some days you are all of them. I know it's hard but middelschoolers really are scared most of the time. What if nobody likes me, am I wearing the right clothes? Whatever happens don't let anyone push you around. The rest of the students will end up respecting you. Once that happens you will find yourself surrounded by people you want to be by. Hang in there. Have you thought about any after school activities? They all aren't dorky. If there is something that sounds good to you, chances are that you will meet people there.
2006-09-11 22:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Bree- when I was the same age, I had very few friends. I was interested in learning, and most of the twits around me were interested in making life miserable for people who actually used their minds. About all you can do is take it one day at a time. have you tried talking with yoru family? Or your teachers or guidance counsellor?
2006-09-11 21:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
middle school pretty much sucks. i don't know anyone who had a pleasant middle school experience. i think many people would tell you that. it will get better in high school. you can make it...many of us had to before. heck, i'm even getting teacher certification in middle school (high school too).
2006-09-11 21:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can try to make friends in the 7th grade because they are nervous about starting a new school and they are always willing to make new friends...im a 7th grader so i would know.
2006-09-11 22:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by haitianb-ballgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's an "emo"?
2006-09-11 21:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by littlepurpledragon77 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋