I have a baby who is on a schedule that makes her very content and easy going. She has 2 naps during the day, and without the naps, she is very cranky and crabby, and she will stay woke and throw fits no matter what we do. Anyway, my friends came over and I told their 14 year old daughter not to go in and disturb the baby. She says, "oh, but she's making noises". My baby was dreaming, just making coos in her sleep The daughter disobeys me and goes in and wakes up my baby.
So then my baby was mad as a hornet, upset over seeing a stranger rudely awaken her, and tired as all get out on top of it all. I just got her to sleep. I want to be nice, because they are good friends, but I am upset over this because I feel like they just disregarded my instructions as the child's mother, and did their own thing. Then of course, no one wants to deal with the cranky baby, so I had to cook supper through that and finish my homework with baby yapping when she could have been sleeping soundly.
2006-09-11 14:37:03 · 14 answers · asked by Goddess of Nuts PBUH 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i would have to let them know that i was hurt that the 14 year old went against my wishes instructions or whathave you and left me with my hands full. it showed total disrespect, and unthoughtfulness. as good friends they should show some consideration.
2006-09-11 15:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by hangglider 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let the 14 year old have a first hand experience .
Let her watch your baby for a short while under your guidence when she's cranky again.
Explain to her why it's important that that children need their beautysleep.
She then will understand better.
If she does it again, explain this to her mother.
If this doesn't help and you don't want to cut them of totally, have them come over only on a time that you are OK with. As simple as that.
Don't get mad though, especially if her mother is your friend..she means well. She just 14 years old.
Don't get all worked up over this. It's not the end of the world. Laugh, be happy, you have a cute daughter
You need positive energie to nurse your child.
2006-09-11 22:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by Dogla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends are really your friends you should be able to tell them how you feel (without them being offended) so that they can talk to their daughter before they come over again. You are the mother of the baby and she should have listened to you, if she does it again or the parents get offended when you talk to them about it, then don't have them over anymore. Find some friends with younger children that know how hard it is to get a baby to sleep. Did the parent say anything to the daughter when she did it?
2006-09-11 21:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is my answer: It sounds like it was a one shot deal and you should be able to get over it - I'm sure your baby has. I would teach this girl a lesson by inviting her over to care for the baby when she is in her crankiest of moods. Don't leave the house - take a bath, read a book, relax but be around in case things look like they will get out of hand. Talk to the parents and explain to them why you need to do this.
This is the answer that you would rather hear: Beat the crap out of the 14 year old and scream at her parents. Cut them out of your life for good because they are not worth your friendship. They do not deserve to walk on the ground that your baby drools on.
2006-09-12 08:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally would have told the 14 year old off and I would have given her a piece of my mind. I wouldn't have worried about stepping on anyone's toes or offending them because in a way, YOU'RE offended that she did what you asked her not to do! The next time they come over while the baby is sleeping, tell her not to wake her up again and if she does....heh, kick them out. Tell them "You've woke my baby, please leave so I can get her back to sleep." Or just don't invite them in when your baby is napping.
2006-09-11 21:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would simply not have them over when the baby is napping, or be sure the baby is in another room with the door closed.
Don't let her in the baby's room.
2006-09-11 21:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by jm1970 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have been extra pissed too. Next time, save yourself. Close the baby's door, turn up the moniter where it's within earshot of you AND the company and guard the baby's door with your life. If someone steps near it, let them have it. I still have to "protect" my toddler from well-meaning, non-obeying kids. I really hate that. Especially that the parents could have stopped it.
2006-09-11 21:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by *Larry P. he's for me* 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well- you have to realize the irresistable urge of cooing baby and that the girl is only 14. I doubt she meant any harm. Next time, just be much more firm with her about it.
2006-09-11 21:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by Genevieve 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
easy dont accept this nonsense!!! tell the girl your baby is resting if she disobeys you tell her parents not to come over when the sign is on the door, make a do not disturb sign and use it!!!! works a treat for me
2006-09-11 22:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would totally p*ss me off too, but because they are good friends, I wouldn't know what to say...but next time, be more assertive. Tell them that it is your daughter's nap-time and they need to leave her be..unless THEY want to contend with her.
2006-09-11 21:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋