i really hate my family....help?

Question

my mom is always yelling at me and my dad is nevr here 2 b a parent, but acts like one anyway. and my stupid brother always hurts me and makes fun of me.
i am minor, so i cannot move out. and i couldnt survive on my own, so running away is out of the question. and dont even try the teacher or coach thing....they r all asses. HELP!!!

Answer 1

I had a rough family life too but i read books and stayed in my room doing things to entertain myself, is your brother older or younger? My brother is younger and used to hurt me all the time too but one day i got so sick of it i hit him back and he never did it again.

Answer 2

I went through this when I was 10, I am now 15. Maybe you should call your family on their actions. OR like I did when I was younger I didnt talk to people in my home. I woke up got dressed, ate, and left for school or a friends house then when I wasnt around and I was confronted about it I told them why would I want to be home? I feel like the slave and I can never do anything right. Then I got more respect from my brothers, MY mom on the other had was just a case where you couldnt be helped. (she passed away) Life is too short to keep yourself in misery, if anything maybe you can ask to move out to a close relative, or something there is always something that can be done, you are not stuck just think about your actions before you do anything drastic!



PS. There is ALWAYS someone who is willing to talk, maybe you are just a little bit bitter and don't want to realize someone that is a teacher or coach of yours isnt an ***-hole like you think, I cant only talk to my coach about anything! She is the most awesome person I have ever confided in. IF you cant talk to someone at school or practice look beyond that you have friends I am assuming look upon a friend or a friends parent!


KEEP YOUR HEAD UP THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY!

Answer 3

You're young...let me let you in on a little secret. Your parents are just people just like everyone else. They make tons of mistakes and they don't even realize it. When I was a kid I thought my parents were supposed to be perfect. I grew up and realized that I was wrong. My brother was a total jerk to me too...always beating up on me.

When I grew up, I realized that my parents were human.

My mom is now my good friend, not my best but she's up there. I used to think she was an idiot.

My dad died when I was 25 and I miss every minute without him. Talk to your dad. Try to form a relationship. He's just as imperfect as you are.

My brother and I are now very close.

The bottom line is, things change. Find a hobby. If you're old enough, find a job. Keep yourself occupied and eventually all of these things will work out for the better. I encourage you to talk to your family as much as you can. Talk to them calmly and rationally. That is key.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I think almost everyone goes through rough times with their family, some more than others. First of all, find out what your mom is mad about, most of the time its because shes mad at someone else, and she is taking it out on the kids. Unless you are doing things that just are making her go crazy. Why is your dad gone all the time? Is he working lots or is it something else. If its cause of work, you need to understand that hes just probably working so much trying to earn enough money for his family to have a better life. You need to talk to him when he is home, invite him to things that are going on in your life either it be a game at school or just plan something to do with him. Make a day out of the week that you two can make time for each other. And do the same with your mother. You also need to find something, a job not much of one but even on the weekends or after school for a few hours, just enough to be able to save up for things you want and put in some for rent, show them that you are able to help out around. I dunno what else to say, but dont worry it will get better, but you got to communicate with them to start getting the problem solved. I hope this helped you some.

Answer 5

Call a national teen hotline. There are people there who can listen to you first hand and give you great advice. They handle problems like this all the time. You are wise not to run away. This would only open up a world of trouble for you.
Try spending less time at home by involving yourself in school activities.
I'm not going to preach to you about loving your family. Your pain sounds real to me. I will say try not to hate anyone. It only burdens your spirit.
Keep a diary. It will also help you vent some of your feelings. Try working a hobby of some sort too.
Many families are dysfunctional today. Don't feel you are alone in this. Please try the national teen hotline.
Good luck to you and God bless you. I have said a prayer for you. This too shall pass.

Answer 6

You might feel better if you think about the reason why all this is happening. Why is your Mom yelling? Is she stressed about something? Was she treated the same way when she was a little girl? Is she upset that your dad is away so much? You may need to find a god counselor to talk to. I had many issues with family when I was growing up so I can really relate.

Answer 7

Well sorry to say that you sound like you have a lot of growing up to do and you don't really want any practical advice.

Choose your words carefully when you say what you think of your family....you may not realise now but you are lucky to have them, very lucky.

Brothers will always hurt and make fun of you, it is quite the norm, and you will be surprised when you get older how mcuh closer you become. His actions to you now don't mean he doesn't love you. As for your mum, consider why she is yelling at you, maybe there are a few changes you could make to rectify this situation. Don't know your father's situation of course, but if it's work that's keeping him away, well that's to support his family.

Answer 8

I also hated my family. The past is just that and only you give the past power. You and only you can rise above the mess that you created by hate. Pray that they are rewarded for their works and go about 'YOUR LIFE' Remember only you can change you not your mother father or brother. Develop your power within so no one can hurt you. May I suggest that you start a daily reading of the New Testament, I did on a Tug Boat 27 years ago and have never been sorry. I first read it aloud & times upon my knees{NOT NECESSARY} but it helped me.

Answer 9

well im not sure why your dad isnt there much but it seems like maybe you could try to talk to him if hes available. your brother is just being a stupid boy. tell them you want to stay with an aunt or family friend until they see that they are way out of line and do something about it. you need to focus on more important things than their tempers and attitudes

Answer 10

i was in your place. and i am a mother know your mom is probaly yelling out of love i know that sounds crazy bu i understand know that i am a parent. they only want the best for you your mom must feel as if she is both parents give her a break try to talk to her calmly and find interests that are the same you may be suprised. as of your brother there all pain in the behinds is he older or younger when you et older the better your relationship will become. when me and my brother where younger he cut my finger off. broke my toes and know we are like the best of friends.