Serious question, please help?

Question

My gf and I just broke up. She said that lately I've been really negative about everything and really sarcastic. I tend to be sarcastic whenever i joke around. I know that I'm negative because i hate to be disappointed. If I look at the bad side of things, then i feel like i will never be disappointed. I'm trying to sincerely change that, but I don't know where I get it from. I know that my dad is part of it because he has always been a negative person, but I feel like that's not all. My best friend passed away tragically and suddenly a few years ago, and it seems that since then, I've been negative because I'm afraid of being disappointed by how things turn out. If I can imagine something bad happening as a possibilty, then I won't be so surprised if it happens. I guess my question is...do you think that my best friend's death could have triggered my negativity, or am I just blowing air. And how can i change my ways?

i really appreciate the help, and im not suicidal, just to clear things up!

Answer 1

Geeze sorry to heard that...
It took me awhile to over come what you have.
The cause can be anything, but I am not gonna worry about that right now...

If you think your g/f is right then you should make some improvements not just for others but for your self and your future family. You got to look ahead man.

I CAN'T JUST SAY STOP BEING NEGATIVE AND HOPE IT WILL JUST WORK OUT...

But I can only give you a few tips.

1- Stop hanging out with negative people.
2- Everything that you do in life always think possible, for example if you are studying hard for a test think positive, like the rewards that it will reap...etc
3-Your friend pass away its not your fault.
4-Even if your father is the cause, it's not your fault.
5-Be contend with what you still have.

If you think your g/f is right then you should make some improvements not just for others but for your self and your future family. You got to look ahead man.

Hey look pal, if you need serious help, just E-mail me okay.
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If you are sucidial at this point, get some real professional help.
but this I can handle.

Peace~

Answer 2

You see being a pessimistic person or the negativity is one of the person's defense. I understand that you became "negative" because you fear that when you expect something positive to happen..you are hurt so bad & and you don't want to expect and later be disappointed. It is normal sometimes BUT as I analyze it your being negative is beyond the line. With your bestfriend's death, everybody should accept that our life is unpredictable. Anytime, a person so close to us will be gone..no known date or time. We have to accept it. Yes..it may have been the cause of your being negative because you got hurt..BUT think also,you are hurting people around you THAT are still with you..alive.like your gf with that attitude.Think positive.For every negative thing that happens..remember that there is always a positive effect. Your bestfriend died..but at least he/ she is at rest now..no more world problems..no more pain. It is also true that the way our mind is so powerful taht when we always think of negative thngs..it will happen..so think positivre.Overcome those negative stuffs. If you are disappointed..its okay. It is normal. We can't change evrything the way we want it to be BUT at least we know how to handle them. Negativity will ruin a person..because that will do you no good. Above all..PRAY..PRAY hard. God knows what is best for each one of us. God bless. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

it's ur bff's loss. I moved countrys and negative most of the time...... Try to get over it. Hang out with all ur friends and get involved a lot with various things. It will help ur mind get off those things for a while...... 1 thing? Smile. Laugh. 24/7. It won't hurt to smile!

Answer 4

go gay!